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Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by cococandy(f): 10:37pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
freecocoa:in every sphere. Hard working women. I wonder where nairalanders get their facts from. 1 Like |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 10:41pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
cococandy:I concur with u... There Are Communities in NIGERIA, u visit and find astute LAZY men. Women toil and feed their husbands.... I don't want to list those areas for now.. I have been to some during my rural training/postings..as a student. Some i met only played board games and drank palmwine all day.. 2 Likes |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Arsenate(m): 10:43pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
cococandy:I think you are referring to the older generation of Nigerian women. trust me the younger ones now are so lazy; moving around with a sense of entitlement. this is a fact even they can't dispute. 3 Likes |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by cococandy(f): 10:49pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
Arsenate:stop using nairaland as your bible. Use your eyes. travel around. I've seen more hardworking nigerian ladies and women in the parts of nigeria that I've been to than men. And that is my own fact. I know there are lazy women same as there are men but it not a universal thing in Nigeria. 1 Like |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by bukatyne(f): 10:59pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
Lamborghini: @standd, Nice post When I read, something was playing on my mind which I couldn't grasp till I read This poster's post. Now I looked past the insults to the core message: hard, I tell ya After I am an independent woman and I would not depend on my boyfriend, What happens after marriage? Does This woman carry her independent attitude there or does she dump it as she says I do? I know a working wife who is proud of the fact she doesn't contribute financially @ home. She is the poster woman for independent woman yet she is still dependent on her hubby. I am trying to view the issue of dependence... Is getting a source of income the robust solution to the problem of dependence and 'male maltreatment'? 1 Like |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 11:10pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
Op, do you know why I disagree with you? It because even you as a woman believe in the stupid stereotype men have succeeded in brain washing us with. I see women working hard everyday, doing everything in their power to make ends meet. I see female students around me learning all sorts of trade even while studying. Thus, where are the so-called independent ladies? So now I wonder why you decided to write such a long post about a few bad eggs thus painting the whole gender as gold-diggers. I don't know the kind of people you surround yourself with, but as far as I'm concerned, the ladies around me are highly hardworking, respectful and independent. Stop helping men propagate this stupid stereotype. It's a shame. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 11:12pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
bukatyne: Do you want your wife to respect you? Do you want her to fulfil her God-given role as a woman? Then you need to fulfil your part too. Male-mistreatment my foot! |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by bukatyne(f): 11:17pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
netizenbuzz: First off, I don't need a wife to respect me; I am not interested in 14yrs behind bars.... thanks Secondly, you indirectly go back to the crux of my post: doesa lady strive for this independence till marriage? And third, no matter How you view it, a working wife would always want her husband to do his share of chores to keep her sane And yes, the lady is my earlier post made her hubby join her in chores. |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by powerblaze(m): 11:26pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
A woman's problems start the day she sees a man as a solution to her problems. Nice writeup @op 1 Like |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by jaydee87(m): 11:26pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
Imy dear u have not searched deep into the world cos am sure there is always someone that will satisfy u irrespective of your want/need... |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by jaydee87(m): 11:30pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
netizenbuzz:ask any regular man to describe a lady and the first thing u will hear is money. but we av few good ones tho. 1 Like |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 11:31pm On Jan 14, 2015 |
standd: First of , happy birthday to you. With this mentality you'll be a blessing and rock to any man you marry. Keep standing for what is right and thanks for restoring my faith in naija girls 4 Likes |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Gboskee(m): 1:29am On Jan 15, 2015 |
KelvinGraphics:and how will that stop me from spending on mah lady? |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by red101(f): 3:21am On Jan 15, 2015 |
I can't stand DUMB topics like this. Nigerian women are formidable hard workers. Everywhere I go, I see successful Nigerian women. In fact, I see more successful career Nigerian women than men here in the USA. We do not depend on men to buy us recharge cards. This thread is DUMB. Some men want to eat their cake and have it. either you pick the submissive girl and be prepared to buy her menstrual pads and tampons because she is not self-sufficient or you pick the working woman but know that you can't boss her around. Many young girls don't work as hard because they know that old perverted men abound to lavish them with money. but these girls grow up tough and wiser because youth and looks don't last. All those 65yr old "hardworking" widows you see..we don't know if many of them were "gold diggers" in their youth. So pls stop making assumptions about the past vs present. If anything, women today are harder working and stronger. 2 Likes |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by cococandy(f): 3:32am On Jan 15, 2015 |
Oh it is a fact that women especially black women have surpassed men in the area of education and career in the US red101: 2 Likes |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by red101(f): 3:57am On Jan 15, 2015 |
cococandy: abi o. Even in Nigeria, women are going places. If anything, women are more independent and self-sufficient today than in the past. 1 Like |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 3:59am On Jan 15, 2015 |
personally. I am yet to meet a Nigeria woman that is a liability in my whole yrs of existence. Forget men and their ranting Double check well...if nothing, emotionally |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by cococandy(f): 4:03am On Jan 15, 2015 |
red101:that's for sure. I know more hard working women than men. At least those I've ever seen 2 Likes |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 4:54am On Jan 15, 2015 |
red101: I'm glad you disagree. Since there are two sides to a coin, your points are cogent but I know what saw when I created this thread. |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 4:57am On Jan 15, 2015 |
neoapocalypse: Thanks. |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 5:00am On Jan 15, 2015 |
bukatyne: IMO, a womans independence is mental, financial, emotional and cuts across every sphere. But I saw a lot of things before I created this thread and I know that the women who are worst hit in terms of physical and emotional abuse are those who don't have a kobo to their names. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 5:21am On Jan 15, 2015 |
standd: Cococandy...this is the crux of my message. I know that women are hardworking and I also see SOME women around who do NOT have anything doing asides painting up and loitering around bars all day. I did not create the thread to rubbish anyone but truth be told, I feel bad when I see people who get used, abused and maltreated because they have made themselves leeches and they do not know that they can actually work to fend for themselves. My message is if you are a WOMAN and you are JOBLESS and can hardly take care of yourself without relying on others...Then you should get work to do. I am NOT saying that ALL women are leeches. Maybe I did not pass the message across well but I sincerely hope that some will actually get something doing to better themselves. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 5:24am On Jan 15, 2015 |
chidyhels: Okay. |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 5:26am On Jan 15, 2015 |
red101: The thread is dumb, haven't we heard worst. Thanks for your input on my dumb thread 1 Like |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 5:31am On Jan 15, 2015 |
netizenbuzz: It's sad that you think my intentions is to rubbish anyone. But your points are well taken and digested. I see women working hard too to better themselves and I also see women who don't know that earning as little as 5k is better than begging and haggling for free cash. My message is for the latter. |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Chibuhealth(f): 6:52am On Jan 15, 2015 |
The guy that wrote this must be a poor boy without future. Broke ass |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Caracta(f): 7:10am On Jan 15, 2015 |
You guys should give Nigerian women some credit na. I still don't get the issue of majority being dependent on men. Some men even get intimidated when they see women soaring high. I go out every morning to see women struggle for a bus to their workplace as early as 5am...just like men. Coupled with the fact that they are mothers or daughters to someone. That NL boys cry about something doesn't make it real. There are many hardworking women in this country. Once in a while, give us some credit and let the condemnation in the sight of the world stop. 2 Likes |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Defcon1(m): 7:38am On Jan 15, 2015 |
Many ladies on here be supporting Op;going,"please tell them". So,where are them lazy ones,and the shameless 'runs girls' ?? Abi them no dey nairaland? #hypocrites |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by Nobody: 7:51am On Jan 15, 2015 |
You need a hug poster. One reason why I choose female acquaintances based on lofty/respectable ambition and intelligence. The self-inflicted stupidity amongst our young women these days is jaw dropping. Reminds me of when our grandmothers were agricultural/clothing and textile merchants. |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by ayoaces: 9:32am On Jan 15, 2015 |
I stand to be corrected but I think more women work these days. I work in a small firm and there are ladies here, almost equal the amount of men, some even from very comfortable homes. |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by cococandy(f): 10:00am On Jan 15, 2015 |
Seen standd: |
Re: Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency- For Every Nigerian Woman/girl by bukatyne(f): 10:30am On Jan 15, 2015 |
standd: @bold, noted. Funny enough, not all (wo)men think an ideal woman should earn; we have tons of housewives and the likes. That's why I said it was multifaceted with that rude poster I quoted getting a glimpse of it. I agree a woman should be independent or interdependent and be able to bring bread to the table... More importantly, a woman should get a man that agrees with her definition of ideal; if my husband's definition of ideal was sitting at home playing housewife, I would definitely be frustrated... If my definition of ideal is sitting at home and my hubby's ideal is a working wife, he would surely be frustrated. At the end, each one of us know what is ideal to us and pursue after it. |
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