I have read many posts on nairaland, and listened to many guys talk about the "friend zone". They make it sound like it is a taboo to cultivate platonic friendship with a girl, without sexual gratification.

I do have a lot of female friends, we hang out a lot, although some of them have boyfriends, we buy each other gifts when necessary, sometimes they cook and invite me over. I don't have feelings for any of them, and I have no intention of dating/sleeping with any of them.

I cherish my close friendship with these female pals because i have learnt and benefited a lot from them. Like i mentioned earlier, I get proper home cooked meals sometimes. it has also helped me develop certain qualities, which i believe will help me maintain a happy relationship when i eventually pursue one. Listening to their gossips and arguments has helped me understand to a certain degree how women think.

I have discovered that this rather sick mentality has now been entrenched in our way of life, even the females are not left out. I see a girl who has a pleasing personality, i walk up to her and extend a hand of friendship. "can we just be friends" and her mind goes elsewere. Even on nairaland, i have read some really cute or intelligent comment made by some females, and i just admire them. Sometimes i try to establish some sort of personal friendship outside nairaland. Most times i get turned down outrightly. Sometimes with very harsh words. They strongly believe I'm just interested in sex. Even when i assure them that I have no interest in a romantic relationship. That has made me refrain from trying to establish friendship outside nairaland, even if there are females like rozzay ,MrsBreezy, temigracie, sweettease(because she is my professional coleague) and marieolae whom i would love to be friends with outside nairaland.

Now the big question is, is there something wrong with platonic love and friendship, or are most guys just perverts with twisted minds lacking morals?

I probably have more female friends than male. They are friendlier and easier to trust. There are no competitions and they genuinely wish you well, encouraging and pushing you to greater heights. It's not all about sex. By the way, I'm married with children.

Pls lets be sincere here a mature male has no friendship whatever with a matured female @op u know u can only speak for urself what about d other person ? u claim is just a friend at a point in time the thought will cross ur mind not because u are bad but because that's just nature. ##my opinion#

Amthol: Pls lets be sincere here a mature male has no friendship whatever with a matured female @op u know u can only speak for urself what about d other person ? u claim is just a friend at a point in time the thought will cross ur mind not because u are bad but because that's just nature. ##my opinion#

yep, the thought does cross my mind sometimes, because I'm human, but I do not act on it, i don't even give it much thought. I respect my female buddies

I think it is sexist to suggest that women who are friends with the opposite sex exploit their male counterparts in the relationship. My question is why can't they be just friends?

Nairalanders creating counter thread since 2005

if na me put her for friend zone no wahala...but if na she omo God forbid. ...

There's nothing wrong with it I've sooooo much males friends simply because in my opinion they're waaay better than female friends. But if both parties agree I honestly don't see the problem.

Thank you btw.

It all depends on individuals. U can keep a female friend but the dick of a man get strong at anytime.

This is nicee.

Op do you have a girlfriend?

Because body no be firewood

theirs absolutely nothing wrong in a platonic relationship .it helps a guy to have a balanced view of the she folks .its being my experience that they make fantastic advisors on matters relating to romance,finance and persuasion .its just that in this prurient times,most girls find it hard-not that i blame them-to believe a full blooded guy is just after her friendship and not her body. But,i find it ironic that most girls label and loathe every male who approaches them a player considering the fact that they are responsible for coaching the silkest and most deadly male players of the game.

LOL..being stuck in the ''i'm safe on the bed with you'' zone

Baddext torture ever

Op, there is nothing wrong in it, but getting out is the problem.

teeo: Op do you have a girlfriend?

no i don't

dicefrost:


no i don't

No wonder, Biko keep enjoying your friendzone

teeo:

No wonder, Biko keep enjoying your friendzone

I'm single by choice....

To some there is nothing wrong... Bt to me its punishment..

[quote author=dicefrost]Most times i get turned down outrightly. Sometimes with very harsh words. They strongly believe I'm just interested in sex. Even when i assure them that I have no interest in a romantic relationship. That has made me refrain from trying to establish friendship outside nairaland, even if there are females like rozzay ,MrsBreezy, temigracie, sweettease(because she is my professional coleague) and marieolae whom i would love to be friends with outside nairaland.

Now the big question is, is there something wrong with platonic love and friendship, or are most guys just perverts with twisted minds lacking morals? [quote author=dicefrost]



Did u pm the above-mentioned females nd get harshly turned down? ......I tot they'd be more mature

dicefrost:


I'm single by choice....

I know