crackhaus: I usually step away to put some distance between myself and a woman whose mouth starts running.

The problem however with this method lies in the fact that one can only walk away so many times until they're in a situation where they can't.
What are we to do then?

Take the case of a kid:
You're watching a movie on TV, this kid keeps going to the TV set to tap his hand on the screen.
You have warned him severally never to do that...sometimes you raised your voice and frowned your face, it worked..the child stepped back.
Unfortunately, another day the child does the same thing...but this time around, as he taps the screen, he keeps looking back at you aware that you're only going to raise your voice and frown.
He already expects the usual reaction, and because of the frequency of it, he has gotten quite used to it...hence, raising your voice and frowning doesn't work anymore.
Now one day you have had enough, he repeats the same thing...but this time, instead of just frowning and raising your voice, you get up, walk towards him and place a light slap (sufficient enough to cause pain but not enough to cause injury) on his cheek...you tell him that you have warned him severally to desist and that the slap is meant to teach him obedience.
The boy is stunned!
He is both surprised and hurt, he cries and tries to get you to pet him...but you don't. Today you're willing to listen to his cries. If there's someone else in the house, the kid turns to them to get sympathy since you're not moved.

You have effectively associated tapping the TV screen to receiving a painful slap on the cheek...only a terribly stubborn child would repeat that stuff in your presence another day.

Sorry for the long post, I intended passing a point and I believe I have.
Some ladies are going to critic my post using the old line, "a full grown woman is not a child that should be slapped."
Well, throwing tantrums and insults around is more of a child's behaviour than it is an adults'.

Okay some may not critic it again cos I've said so, but they'll definitely think it..

jacabi: Whatsoever might be the reason, any man that beats his wife is a lunatic.

Sepp360: i agree with you!... But not when you meet a woman with a spiritual problem!..lolz!...
Just trynna be funny!...

Sepp360: long, but very meaningful. But let me state another scenario here..

What if the child still gets used to the light slap, that he doesn't desist from offending you?

crackhaus: I usually step away to put some distance between myself and a woman whose mouth starts running.

The problem however with this method lies in the fact that one can only walk away so many times until they're in a situation where they can't.
What are we to do then?

Take the case of a kid:
You're watching a movie on TV, this kid keeps going to the TV set to tap his hand on the screen.
You have warned him severally never to do that...sometimes you raised your voice and frowned your face, it worked..the child stepped back.
Unfortunately, another day the child does the same thing...but this time around, as he taps the screen, he keeps looking back at you aware that you're only going to raise your voice and frown.
He already expects the usual reaction, and because of the frequency of it, he has gotten quite used to it...hence, raising your voice and frowning doesn't work anymore.
Now one day you have had enough, he repeats the same thing...but this time, instead of just frowning and raising your voice, you get up, walk towards him and place a light slap (sufficient enough to cause pain but not enough to cause injury) on his cheek...you tell him that you have warned him severally to desist and that the slap is meant to teach him obedience.
The boy is stunned!
He is both surprised and hurt, he cries and tries to get you to pet him...but you don't. Today you're willing to listen to his cries. If there's someone else in the house, the kid turns to them to get sympathy since you're not moved.

You have effectively associated tapping the TV screen to receiving a painful slap on the cheek...only a terribly stubborn child would repeat that stuff in your presence another day.

Sorry for the long post, I intended passing a point and I believe I have.
Some ladies are going to critic my post using the old line, "a full grown woman is not a child that should be slapped."
Well, throwing tantrums and insults around is more of a child's behaviour than it is an adults'.

Okay some may not critic it again cos I've said so, but they'll definitely think it..

crackhaus:
Good question.
A normal child with moderate stubbornness will never do it again, but there's a possibility that he may try it again just to dare.
The difference when this happens is that, the moment you raise your voice and start moving towards him, he'll stop.

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A full grown woman would not want to antagonize her man again especially if the man does not deserve it. Remember, my slap scenario only occurred after there must have been many confrontations where the man walked away.
Clearly, a woman with such an insultive streak knows in her mind that the man had controlled himself so much until he just couldn't anymore.

While we're preaching against physical abuse on women in whatever form or intensity, we should also admonish wives to refrain from antagonizing/pushing their husbands past his emotional threshold...there's only so much a person can take no matter the level of self-control they claim to possess.
It takes just the right amount of built up feelings, anxiety, anger, and the wrong scenario to get anyone to react in a way that even surprises themselves.

PS:
All I've submitted so far does not include men who are serial abusers.

jacabi:
Then she needs spiritual solution.

JEITO: Age is not maturity, any man that hits his wife for any reason, is immature and not ripe for marriage.

A disgrace to Manhood I must say.

jacabi: Whatsoever might be the reason, any man that beats his wife is a lunatic.

cococandy: Yes I'm going to criticize it.

But seriously you can divorce your wife for emotional abuse.

If she keeps saying hurtful things and doesn't seem to know when to stop.call her on days when both you are very much lovey dovey and TELL her how her words make you feel.

To me this can work better than hitting. Hitting may even dreg up worse words than the ones she provoked you with. Because that's the only way she knows how to fight back.
What are you going to do? Keep hitting until she stops? Like she will.

I won't blame a man who opts for temporary seperation from a wife who's always insulting and mean mouthed.it'll surely teach what she stands to lose if she keeps running her mouth.

crackhaus:
I never prescribed 'hitting', I implied that a time may come when a person is pushed beyond his threshold...as for temporary separation, isn't that worse?
I'd rather go through the talk process than opt for 'temporary separation', walking away from a problem like this will hardly solve anything.

isokey:
Lol...U can say that again. They will not like your post coz they knw what they do....Lolzzz

cococandy: Yea I knew you weren't prescribing.
You were just giving an example of a scenario in which it may be understandable.

crackhaus:
And I'm guessing your angle is that it can never be understandable, right?

Sepp360: If i can remember vividly, there was this girl i had isshh with, i was just 15years then. Actually she was my neighbour, i didnt really like her (sincerely typing), and i don't think i will like her even if we get to meet again by chance. She was so insulting and proud, maybe it's because of her beauty. That fact alone made me dislike her, and i sought for opportunity to teach her some manners. I later found one shaa.
One blessed morning, as i was washing my dad's car, she was also washing her dad's. Mistakenly, i poured soap leather on the side screen of her dad's car. As i expected, she didnt disappoint me. She started raining injurious insults on me, calling me animalistic names. I tried managing the situation, until she said i did it intentionally because my dad's car was inferior to her dad's (lolz), i couldn't bear it any longer. To cut the long story short, i dealt with her that day, i really taught her manners and i still thank God for that day.
After the WWE smackdown, my dad called me into the house and taught me my own lesson. Later that day, he called me in his room and told me a few words that i still can't forget in a hurry. He said, "Women are the most provocative creatures on earth, and it takes huge tolerance and responsibilty to avoid beating them up each time they mess up. If you wanna be a real and responsible man; Don't Beat Women". From that day onwards, i find it very difficult to hit a woman, and it has really saved me my life.

Back to the matter of the day. Domestic violence can take a number of forms including physical, emotional, verbal, economic and sexual abuse, which can range from subtle, coercive forms to marital rape and to violent physical abuse that results in disfigurement or death. The worst of them all is battering, which is the most critical. Recently, i've come to see most men resolve issues concerning women with violence. I don't think its reasonable and rational. Though beating stubborn women might be fun, like the one i experienced 9 years ago; but i still don't think its the best way of resolving relationship conflicts.
It is high time men learnt how to use their high natural wisdom in resolving issues relating to women rather than applying violence on them. That you have the strength doesn't mean you should use it against women. It is unacceptable.

The preponderance of such issues have raised questions like "what really causes domestic violence and wife battering, why should someone beat his wife/mother/sister/girlfriend, how can domestic violence be curbed?" i may not have direct and correct ansers to those questions, unlike some of you that might have, but i think men should come to accept the fact that the ability to tolerate women is one of the greatest features of responsible and real men. Thats for those who chose to be responsible.

chillisauce:
Nigeria is a jungle, y'all better learn the skills to survive, the earlier the better.

Chillisauce:

Blah blah blah, violence is the take because the law refused to do anything about it. Politicians fvcking y'alls, army beating up people. Men beating up women, women beating up housemaids, housemaids transferring aggression to the kids. And the circle continues.

Nigeria is a jungle, y'all better learn the skills to survive, the earlier the better.

cococandy: Well...

It's not really black and white.

Saying a man can't be pushed to react will be me lying to myself.

But there's a risk in saying it is understandable.it opens doors for all kinds of misunderstandings about the acceptability of violence.

So to get rid of at or at least to attempt to get rid of it,we must always be clear that we chose not to understand it.
Understanding can lead to acceptance.

That we don't want

cococandy: I'm going to learn taekwondo

Sepp360: hahahaha!... Guy, u take something?...

Nor vex oo, na queshion me ask u so!

crackhaus:
Indeed @emboldened, I believe I can safely refer to that as a case of 'plausible deniability'.

Chillisauce:

Im telling you. But seriously, the men suffer it the most. I can't even tell how many times a military man slaps a man jus because he tries to question him.
These are the things we should address. no! Feminism is our problem . Ladies even have an easy way out sef.

mentorandfriend: Op, if I was there that day you laid your hand on that girl, I would delt with your idiotic head. Guys, for whatever reason that exhibit violent acts to women must really be mad. At our estate sometime ago, I met a guy slapping her girlfriend front and back for not picking his calls the previous day. It was a lonely night. Nobody was in sight. The girl was helpless. I weighed up the guy and told him I'd like to have a word with him. I took him to a corner and taught him discipline. I told the girl to go home to her parents. Beating a lady (your girlfriend, wife or even sister) for any reason at all is the highest form of cowardice.

cococandy: Seriously. Being a man in the wrong place at the wrong time in Nigeria can get you a prison sentence of 10yrs to life with no possibility of parole

Chillisauce:

They locked up my jobless neighbours brother once when he was going to look for a job. Police just arrived at the area, packaged every male around the vicinity on suspected robbery case. For two days they were looking for the poor guy .
He was later released after paying 15k.