Emessy: Hello Family section , I am posting my story here because I feel this section has the best of matured minds and I hope I will get the best advice here, so first of all I would like to beg all readers to bear with me as my story may be a little bit lengthy and may also contain a few high content languages, Thank you
I am 24 year old Graduate working for my fathers company as an IT manager , I graduated from school in 2012 and started work immediately ,than around July last year I met this beautiful, flawless woman,(at least i thought because I was still a virgin and all i dream t of then was having s*x,) we courted for seven months with no s*x(stuck with self service) I was so in love with her, I hardly spend six hours without hearing her voice , at work and home all i thought of was her , February this year I decided to make it official, I broke into my personal savings , went to a jewelry shop and bought an engagement ring of N80,000 , I threw a very big birthday party for her with friends and family of over N165,000 and I asked her to marry me,(Though i was in love but the thing pained me very well) But i thought to myself "SHE IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE" so she is worth it, A few weeks later her father invited me and he asked to me to send my elders ,My elders went and everything was arranged our wedding was set and again I had to pay for everything (the wedding ceremoniessss , the dowry , .....)It was really painful and I had a hard time recovering *financially* , Well on our wedding night It was nothing as I expected , I engaged my wife in fore play(and believe me that is the only sweet part about marriage) the s*x was nothing like the Indecency's i have watched, self service is far more sweeter and to make it worst she just layed down there enjoying it , after about 15 minutes i erupted ,I stared at my wife as she slept , a sudden feeling of hatred ran into my mind , I felt like calling her father the next day and ask for a refund.as time went by the hatred kept on growing ,though i tried hard not to show her and i always tried my best to pleasure her and make her happy , But I was dying in the inside , I just wish I could escape this torture and go back to playing video games and hanging out with my guys 24/7 , Last week I ran into a friend of mine and he advised me to approach my wife with "different styles" we watched some reality clips(was strange though) but it made me feel good ,I was happy , I quickly ran home to try it on wifey , when i got home, everything was different, there were candles ,nice fragrance , slow music, plenty food and so many romantic stuffs everywhere , In my mind I was like "so this woman can read mind ehn" I went into the bedroom , she was wearing a very beautiful dress staring at the window , I was really excited ,I reached out my hand to unbuckle my belt , then she turned to me and smiled "OMG so my wife beautiful like this" she walked towards me ,grabbed my shoulder , her lickicious lips reached to my ear , Hoping for the greatest kiss of my life , I grabbed her behind , THEN SHE WHISPERED TO MY EAR "BABY na AM JUST COMING FROM Dr Lukman's PLACE, HE SAID MY PREGNANCY RESULTS ARE POSITIVE, We are going to have a set of twins.

auntytee:

Emessy: please i need advise not judgement

auntytee: You once hated her and now shes pregnant.
Ok kindly explain to us how u feel cheated. uve got to be precise so we can help

Emessy: No you don't understand , It is not my fault , I don't want to hate her but i can not control it , Nobody told me marriage was going to be like this

Emessy: No you don't understand , It is not my fault , I don't want to hate her but i can not control it , Nobody told me marriage was going to be like this

Emessy: No you don't understand , It is not my fault , I don't want to hate her but i can not control it , Nobody told me marriage was going to be like this

OmoAlata1: I think I understand where he is coming from. He thought sex was going to be like porn movies. Op you have unrealistic view of sex even pornstars n prostitutes don't have sex like that in their personal life. Porn sex is not real life sex, u need to understand that concept ASAP.

I hope your wife is an open minded person and is willing to explore with you sexually. Did you two even discuss sex while dating? This is why I advocate pre-marital sex. I don't understand why people would sign a huge lifetime contract without test driving first but only to complain afterward. I can't wrap my head around that.

Talk to your wife. Change your unrealistic view about sex. Hopefully your wife is open minded enough to explore with you

coogar:

there i was thinking you are still a certified virgin.

OmoAlata1:
virgin? from where to where? I am not one of those forming ladies on here.

coogar:

hahahaha - nice to know you don't form....
what's the experience like? did you feel you lost a jewel?

1stCitizen: OP,
Please do you mind sharing the contact details of your weed supplier? The guy sure supplies the best. Help a brother here.Please!!!!!!

Emessy: SHE WHISPERED TO MY EAR "BABY na AM JUST COMING FROM Dr Lukman's PLACE, HE SAID MY PREGNANCY RESULTS ARE POSITIVE, We are going to have a set of twins.