If someone you loved was to inevitably break up with you and if you had the choice before hand, how would you like it to be done? I was discussing with my friend as she is currently dating someone but started seeing a new man recently and she was thinking of breaking up with her bf without hurting him, my opinion was for her to be honest with him but she said she would rather not tell him the true reasons so as not to hurt him further. What are your thoughts?

Brb

Girls can be so wicked, sorry she didn't love the guy


Chai make I love one, make she con dey fall 4 a new guy, girls are the causes of their own problem

Mindependent: If someone you loved was to inevitably break up with you and if you had the choice before hand, how would you like it to be done? I was discussing with my friend as she is currently dating someone but started seeing a new man recently and she was thinking of breaking up with her bf without hurting him, my opinion was for her to be honest with him but she said she would rather not tell him the true reasons so as not to hurt him further. What are your thoughts?

tell dat ur friend what goes around surely comes around.

Truely her cup will be full oneday,just advice her to continuuuu

In all respect, i don't think she loves d guy.
She'll only be deceiving herself if she claim she loves d guy and she is seeing another guy.
Haba!


It'll be good and the best way from my perspective, is for the girl to talk one-on-one with the guy. Tell him the real reason why you are breaking up with him.

That would be good.
Cos the truth will surely surface one day, and by then the terms might not be favourable.

Lovepeddlers everywhere ....No two ways to this. Op, tell your twisted friend she can make an omelette without breaking an egg.

Without hurting him/her? Only happens if they weren't truely in love...

StealthyMe: Without hurting him/her? Only happens if they weren't truely in love...

You took those words right out of my brains.

Mindependent: What are your thoughts?

It is so simple ... She should just turned the table around and make him to dump her ...... i.e you will stop satisfying the relationship under one guise ,excuses or the other while still playing the love card ..... Take up some unworthy character that can put him off while playing the emotional cards ..... he will be scared and in no time .... he will be pushed to getting bored and stepping-off thinking he's doing himself some good by dumping her for good while you will be achieving your goals of making him dump you without qualms !!

Just make him do the dumping and he won't get hurt .......... Each party will get what they want in no time of within a year !!

glitest:
You took those words right out of my brains.

Huh...I read minds

We all wanna upgrade,naw I see why the divorce syndrome is waxing in strength,if she not gonna marry the guy why not tell the guy and move to the right man,wats the shit of dating someone we won't marry.

gals and materialism.. If she qot heartbroken, she wil start sayin all guys ar d same..( d most stupid comment i av eva cm acros)

Mindependent: If someone you loved was to inevitably break up with you and if you had the choice before hand, how would you like it to be done? I was discussing with my friend as she is currently dating someone but started seeing a new man recently and she was thinking of breaking up with her bf without hurting him, my opinion was for her to be honest with him but she said she would rather not tell him the true reasons so as not to hurt him further. What are your thoughts?

Breaking up with him will hurt him, that is if he loves her. Hurt is hurt, l believe. So, l think she should just be frank with him and tell him what she didnt like about him. It may be hurting but it will help the guy in his future relationship. Afterall they never married in the first place, so she deserves the best. If she feels the new guy is better, so be it. He should develop himself and get a better girl too. However, permit me to say this......my girl cannot just leave me for another guy. That is my hardwork. Am always proving am the best. Simple. So all guys should work hard to attain that level when your girl cannot just even imagine leaving.

donroxy: It is so simple ... She should just turned the table around and make him to dump her ......

Just make him do the dumping and he won't get hurt .......... Each party will get what they want in no time of within a year !!

See hw yu dey plan guy man relationship funeral. Wu knws wat sm dude is sayin 2 yur galfrnd's frnd ryt nw. Just kiddin
Min while @ op won't advise yur frnd 2 b in a R/ship wer ha hrt belongs smwer else bt its beta she tells d guy honestly n believe mi he won't remain hurt 4 Eva.... Bt if he discovers on his own abt d new guy, d luv dey shared (if der was any) is ruind. Ma opinion sha.

It.Will hurt but life goes on.
She shouldn't tell him, allow him to figure it out on his own by her actions.
Stop replying his texts
Stop picking his calls
And stop visiting him.

But just incase she still likes him, she should keep him as the "side guy". The new guy might disappoint so I won't advice her to put all her eggs in one basket.
Sisterly advice

She should tell him.

From what I understood from her, I don't think she is being wicked or went out of her way to hurt anyone; it just so happened that she loves this new guy more and he provides for her in more ways than her boyfriend and I'm not talking about money I'll try to convince her to open up to him and tell him but I know this would be very hard cos according to her, she doesn't think he'll take it well. Also, speaking for her, I don't think karma is relevant in this scenario as some suggested because sometimes, you can't help who you fall in love with. It wasn't planned by her. Thanks for the contributions so far

andromida: She should tell him.

No, she should just leave him hanging. Who knows, feelings might grow back one day