coogar:

so you are not denying you are capable of number 4? which other ones have you done in the past?

I reject it in jesus name.i am not capable of any of the aforementioned. Instead of wasting my time on nonsense, I'll rather Chanell that energy in being in the leagues of Donald trump.nonsensical

FÜCK!! serious FÜCKING "Realities" of life

Till the day some people understand say in this world no be everybody go marry before meeting his/her maker.there are wife material,there are girlfriend material.

''The last census showed a female-dominated demographic with more women per eligible bachelor.

This is a lie

cococandy:
This is a lie

per eligible bachelor....

how is it a lie?

Eligibility is subject to interpretation.
When women look at the real things that matter and not ONLY use money as measure of eligibility,they'll know that there are more than enough men to go round.

Goodnight

coogar:

per eligible bachelor....

how is it a lie?

donpeey22: The truth is that men get more pressure from the society about getting married than women. I will agree if somebody says that Biology puts more marriage pressure on women than men, but saying society? That's not true!

Novice.

Meanwhile, that number 13 is soooo on point. My church is a mega pentecostal church in the center of the town, with thousands of worshippers. I have observed that younger girls just sit down there in church, unconcerned. When they enter their thirties, they join choir, protocol, or ushering. Notice me.

donpeey22: Nigerian society also look down on eligible single men, why don't such men get so desperate like single ladies would?

it is because d average desperate single lady out there believe in one shitty biological clock ticking away...

ledafaze:

We cant just put it on our society alone... Its the human gene... Forget about what we see in hollywood movies o... Even the oyinbo parent wants their children to get married...

On its own, it is a a yardstick for success. It is used to measure success and it is success for him own class.

success bawo? How?

missbronze: Na una sabi.

As for me, the only thing i desire in this life is to have a CHILD. A child to give all my love, to train, and to raise.

And, is only a child that will make me do anything desprate. because, a child is all i desire in this life.

Husband or no Husband, i dont give a damn.

And, am so glad that one can have a child without a husband.

wow!, great! have u gotten one now?

May God deliver us

They've got lil time nah... Please let them do what ever they can do to get married quick ohh, time is not their friend unlike males we get married at any age want nothing is stoping us but death

I dnt blame them, they have that biological expiry date, they are all trying to be sold p before they expire

haba.. nigerians nd their perception sha

kekakuz: You forgot to add this

THEY DANCE HARD IN CHURCH

haha, dat gat me lol

guys!!!!...its my birthday today!!!!help me celebrate with many likes.....kisses to u guys....i love u alllllll....@op...i will be back for ya quest....

The fact is the number of women outstrips the men in our society

OnyeEgo1: I am a guy, is it a must that i have to marry and start bringing forth little ones... Well dia are orphanages around jare, na adoption sure pass....
Marriage no dey my dictionary at all, n i knw i av a female counterpart out there too.

wannabe

buh @op most of d points been stated are surreal

swagloverss: "Statistics show that only 3% of single women of marriageable age in Nigeria are undisturbed by their lack of a spouse! The other 97% would do just about anything to become Mrs. Somebody''.

As we read on, we are going to see some rather unorthodox things Nigerian women will do in their quest to bag a husband! Some are bizarre, some are skanky and some are downright sad but if you are willing to try anything and getting a husband is the only activity left on your bucket list, you might want to try a few! (Men beware).

In no particular order:

1)Snatching a friend or relation's man.
All is fair in love and war! Rumor has it that women have resorted to locking their phones, hiding their men and coding their gist from so-called friends because it's a jungle out there.

2)Re-inventing themselves.
Pretence is the order of the day. No man wants to tame the shrew or teach the inexperienced or make an honest woman out of a dishonest one so once marriage is desired, women package themselves in pseudo, ready-made, easy-to-use, highly desirable packages. After marriage, what you see is what you get!

3)Trapping with pregnancy.
This used to be the old school method of getting a man to propose. From skipping the pill to seducing the man or getting him drunk when she was ovulating, a woman usually knew she had the man where she wanted him once she missed her period even if there was no commitment. Now the guys are saying YES to baby mamas and YES to child support. Are the girls deterred? NO! The girls have stepped up their game by involving the parents and you know parents don't like scandals

4)Praying & Fasting.
This would presumably be an honorable means of obtaining a husband but sometimes the prayers are offered up to deities other than God & other times it becomes a song permanently.
Taking his photograph to Cele church for a prophetess to pray over or a powerful Alfa. Heard it works like charm.
Taking his spérm, hair or personal effects to Babalawo. Guys, disposing of your condoms yourself is not such a bad idea.

5)Outright Jazz!
My friend recently gisted me about how a tied up, live pigeon had been discovered in a friend's sister-in-law's box. The woman confessed to using jazz and said she hadn't been sure if the guy would actually propose so she took the necessary precautions.

6)Putting love potion in his food!
This is classic and timeless but shouldn't it be called a compelling potion? Because in this case, love na by force!

7)Proposing to a guy!
Yes it does happen (Who wears the engagement ring?) Toasting a man's family so they make the decision for him! A friend complained that a girl he detested had over the months gotten close to his family. Lavishing on them, cooking for them and basically being their go-to girl and now his mum had put her foot down that he had to break up with his girlfriend and marry little-miss-went-home-to-mama depending on how much power the family wields, their word may be final.

Asking daddy to get them a husband!
If daddy's a big shot, arranging a husband for you is usually as easy as pie and some men would sell their souls for a large chunk of daddy's money so both parties are happy.

9)Being the man's maga!
Some women believe that when you finally get a man to be interested in you, spoiling him and overlooking his every fault would get you into a white gown faster than an okada. Some men don't mind a woman who houses them, clothes them, feeds them, gives them pocket money, never gets upset with them even when they misbehave and cleans up after them with little or no contribution from them living the dream

10)Giving him unlimited freedom.
Tell me I am number one baby; tell me I am the future mother of your kids and not Amina, Bisi or Ngozi. Women used to want to be the one AND ONLY in their man's life, now being the number one is good enough.

11)Polishing up a low class, barely educated brother in exchange for a ring!
The deal is simple, you send your cleaner, gateman or driver to night school, you give him language lessons, you take him to buy some new clothes and deodorant and teach him to call you honey instead of madam and in exchange, he gets to marry you, share an expensive bedroom and never worry about his bills ever again!

12)Revamping you.
Change your wardrobe, lose 20kg, buy a truckload of Brazilian hair, study the karma-sutra, do an angioplasty and change the age on your birth-certificate to read 22. Botox, plastic surgery, a compulsory gym membership and a body magic also indicated!

13)Becoming a worker in church!
Rumour has it that men go to church to marry, the same rumour also reveals that Greeters Ushers and Lead Soloists have the best exposure. Praise the Lord!

14)Moving to a new town or part of town
This always peaks the men's interest and at the same time you get to run away from your past and the old maid labels!

15)Going for deliverance
Going for deliverance from a spirit husband and sowing a big marriage seed in church! Giving your possessions to the poor, giving a sacrificial offering or just giving one thing to God that would make you weep.

16)Abandoning hopes, dreams and ambitions!
I've heard people say that women looking for a prince charming live unrealistic dreams, virgins are old-school, overly educated women are proud, rich women are not submissive, ambitious women are conceited, women with demanding jobs won't have time for their families, women who want a faithful man are deluded and women who don't get pregnant before wedlock have something wrong with their plumbing! So forsake the masters, don't even dream of a PhD, quit your job, give away all your money and surely a husband will come.

17)Outright Desperation
And if all the above fails, they marry a married man!
He could be your friend's husband, your sister's husband, your cousin's husband, your colleague's husband, even your mother's husband if possible.

Can you blame these women? The average guy has commitment phobia or is out to play till he is all spent before he settles down or is waiting to make his first 5 million before saying I do. Even a man with no future ambition or class, much less finances still knows he could have his pick of the best women out there, once he announces he is looking to settle!

''The last census showed a female-dominated demographic with more women per eligible bachelor.
Family and society constantly put the woman in hot water making her personal successes irrelevant till she bags a man''.

Where is the sauce?

Op above me is really M.A.D.COW.



A girl almost used the love potion method to trap me those days. If not for my neighbour that caught the girl putting some substance in the food when I went out to buy something, I would have been trapped.

That substance may be Love potion or rat poison, but I didn't gamble it that day.

Help me thank God for saving me.

missbronze: Na una sabi.

As for me, the only thing i desire in this life is to have a CHILD. A child to give all my love, to train, and to raise.

And, is only a child that will make me do anything desprate. because, a child is all i desire in this life.

Husband or no Husband, i dont give a damn.

And, am so glad that one can have a child without a husband.

you can be more dangerous and desperate.



What do you think?

swagloverss

The main thing i noticed was your signature. I was studying about both men only a day ago.

Frankly, it's hard for women not to do any of the listed if they truly desire a husband. And most do.

oluwadanie1: *just passing by*
I don't have any business with this yet.
Am still 17

Na so e take dey start!

Combing the trash can for a used condom,use the specimen in it and get pregnant to trap a man.

All these happens because of the stigma they face, society sees single ladies of marriageable age as losers.

While I'm seriously looking for someone to marry with no positive result

missdebs: lmao *falls into soakaway*.....op u haff expose us,not fair

please get up sharp sharp

OdenigboAroli: Combing the trash can for a used condom,use the specimen in it and get pregnant to trap a man.

that specimen dies after few hours, she might be unlucky

missbronze: Na una sabi.

As for me, the only thing i desire in this life is to have a CHILD. A child to give all my love, to train, and to raise.

And, is only a child that will make me do anything desprate. because, a child is all i desire in this life.

Husband or no Husband, i dont give a damn.

And, am so glad that one can have a child without a husband.

As nice as this sounds, the proclamation of female independence and ability to self sustain, it's a very selfish way to go.
Apologies to the quoted, but you'd only be setting up that child for disaster.

As much as I admire single parents that are able to go it alone after death or divorce, it's not something you should set out for.

I've observed the following

1. Parental Dependence
Single mothers tend to commit their lifes to their kids and give them all they need. But as good as this sounds, once the kids are grown, they tend to put so much pressure on the kids to pay them attention; whether consciously or unconsciously.
It's almost like payback time, they gave their all to this child, they expect them to reciprocate. This is just too much responsibility on that child.

2. Sense of guilt
No matter what the child does, they always remind them of how they spent the better part of their youth training the child, staying away from men, not getting married because they wanted to have time for their kid rather than share the attention with a man.
As good as this sounds, they fail to understand that they made their own decision, the child didn't ask for it!
Dont exoect some payback for parental deeds done out of free will. You brought that child to the world, you made the decision to nurture them how you deemed fit. They don't owe you for that.

3. Retirement plan
Most single parents erroneously see their kids as their retirement plans. Even though this is not peculiar to single parents alone, It's more pronounced.
See, parents are meant to leave an inheritance for their children's children! You should have your retirement planned enough to cater for 3 generations. Yours, your child's and your grand children's.... minimum.

4. They hold their kids back.
Single parents are either too eager to send their female children into "forced " marriages whether outrightly or systematically and restrain their male children from getting married on time. They usually are afraid that another woman will take their son away from them. Even though this is not just peculiar to single parents, its more profound with them.
Your husband or wife should be that companion you seek in old age, not your child. It's too much responsibility for the child. The only reason why any child should be subjected to this is if death took away one of their parents, and not just a selfish choice one of the parents made. And even death doesn't excuse the parent from taking a hold on things...but it can be forgiven, only in death.

4. You bring up an imbalanced child.......... I think this explains itself. It take male and female to raise a child.