pickabeau1:



Explain... How can a married woman be a virgin


Can you explain why u say divorce is not allowed in cases of adultery but fornication

greatgod2012:


thanks!
I'm humbled.

rolled:
Cheating on your wife actually makes you love her more

greatgod2012:



thank you!
Divorce is another good option in case of infidelity and abuse.
Believe me, i will gladly go for divorce(God forbid) if my spouse turns a cheat than suffering from several heartaches and fear from STDs, which means the person involved or affected has chosen to reverse to singlehood.

greatgod2012:
If you're a man, and you're cheating on your wife, how will you feel if it's your wife that is cheating on you?

coogar:


it's not so black & white.
in a way, you can hardly blame married men that cheat. the only thing that can make a man go outside is because what he has inside is no longer attractive to him.

what is the role of the wives in this? that's what you should be looking at? women just generally stop trying to look good especially after having a child or two. what's a man supposed to do when tri-weekly sėx becomes bi-monthly sėx?

he should go to divorce court & chase out the mother of his children? cheating is the easier option. it's not like i am condoning this but women cannot just add 20kg out of nowhere & expect to still be attractive to their husbands.

BABE3:

It's like it's a law for Nigerian women to add at least 20 kg after marraige. Have you seen Dakore Egbuson lately?
It's also a law for them to switch to tieing wrappers.

How do we except married men not to cheat biko?
How hard is it to control your appearance and what you put in your mouth....

cococandy:
I guess all these fat pot bellied men I see everyday deserve cheating wives too

coogar:


i think they do too.......

coogar:


it's not so black & white.
in a way, you can hardly blame married women that cheat. the only thing that can make a woman go outside is because what she has inside is no longer attractive to her.

what is the role of the husbands in this? that's what you should be looking at? men just generally stop trying to look good especially after having a child or two. what's a woman supposed to do when tri-weekly sėx becomes bi-monthly sėx?

She should go to divorce court & chase out the father of her children? cheating is the easier option. it's not like i am condoning this but men cannot just add 20kg out of nowhere,without having a baby or the hormones that makes weight gain inevitable,no excuse whatsoever while also strutting a four month pregnant looking belly, flaccid biceps and triceps & expect to still be attractive to their wives

coogar:


dakore is still better.
there's this babe called jumobi that used to anchor on AIT when i was still in naija. she was ridiculously fit, every kid on my block then used to crush on her - i think she married RMD or a big shot actor in nollywood & she disappeared for a while.

the next time i saw her.....she looked at least 30 times bigger than what she was pre-marriage. nigeria is the only country post-birth tummy remains permanent on women. the truth is - women don't marry in nigeria to please their husbands - they mostly do it to have children. pleasing the husband is secondary.

cococandy:
Well kindly tell them. Or let me help you

BABE3:

It's a sorry case. They not only add weight and completely let go; they also start "rationing" sex; double wahala for the spouse.

After they start competiting with yokozuna in size, they hide under the umbrella "love" and "for better for worse". Asif the husband is jesus himself.

coogar:


tell them.....
everyone should work on their body.....get a gym, run up the stairs 30 times a day if they cannot afford the gym, cut out nkwobi & peppersoup after a certain age.

apart from infidelity, untimely death is also imminent......a man with a fat belly would soon become useless in bed. the bigger the belly, the smaller the pënis gets. so by all means, weight issues should be the main gist in religious houses......not every problem is spiritual.

BABE3:

please tell em. Getting a Mrs in front of your name doesn't mean you should increase your daily calorie intake by 2000.

coogar:


tell them.....
everyone should work on their body.....get a gym, run up the stairs 30 times a day if they cannot afford the gym, cut out nkwobi & peppersoup after a certain age.

apart from infidelity, untimely death is also imminent......a man with a fat belly would soon become useless in bed. the bigger the belly, the smaller the pënis gets so by all means, weight issues should be the main gist in religious houses......not every problem is spiritual.



when one is overweight, what do you expect? cholesterol has clogged all the pipes. only a tiny percentage of the amount of blood necessary for the genitäls actually gets there. that's when the libïdo of the average naija wife drops to zero.



that's the annoying bit.
even if you are buying a benz.....you expect some wear & tear here and there but you do y expect it to double in size.

coogar:


na poverty mentality.
the kids who actually need the protein rarely get it. 12 chunks of beef in a pot - hubby & wife(both in their 40s) would eat 5 each.....the kids only get one apiece.

ask them why the kids don't get more than one, an african parent would tell you 2 pieces would spoil the child but the 5 pieces they took won't cause diabetes, stroke or heart attack? the problem in marital homes isn't spiritual.....it's sheer ignorance!

cococandy:

Is @ bolded really true?
I've heard that a lot. I was imagining if the dude was already packing,getting fat may not necessarily reduce it unless he started getting fat before his Ikenga was full formed and grown to optimum size.(Teenage things)

Anyway is that really true?
So a woman can be enjoying some big thing one day and the next day it turns to mpichoro something

Chai

greatgod2012:
It is very disheartening and amazing, yet trending on how many couples are cheating on each other after they have made a public vow to stick and be faithful to their partner in the presence of God and everyone present at the solemnization of marriage/wedding ceremony.
Many people are no longer ashamed to cheat on their spouses, infact, to some it's like a thing to be proud of when breaking the marital vow.
In the holy book i believe in, it is written therein that, it is better not to make a vow than to make it and not fulfilling it.
While discussing about it with someone, he said maybe those involved in cheating on their partners aint aware that they're breaking any vow, which makes them not better than a betrayer. I think at this junction, we need to examine the vow made by the couple to each other on their wedding day and see if it's different from making a vow..........



To the groom........the officiating minister(either in church or court) asks.....do you (groom's names) promise to take this woman(bride's names) as your legally and only wife, to love and care for in health and sickness, in wealth and poverty, for better and for worse, and also to forsake other women, till death do you part? And the man answers...........Yes, i do!

To the bride.......the officiating minister (either in church or court) asks...........do you(bride's names) take this man(groom's names) as your legal and only husband to love and care, in health and sickness, wealth and poverty, for better and for worse, and also forsaking other men, till death do you part? And the woman answers..........Yes, i do.

If this is not a vow, i wonder what it is.
It is high time people start taking their marriages serious, everybody knows him/herself very well, if you know that you have problem keeping to your marriage vow, then, please remain single, it's better than making a vow and not keeping it.
I don't know the party that is more involved, be it husbands or wives, but please, if you're into extra-marital affairs, please, stop and retrace your steps. Also, if you're planning to get married, ensure and decide to keep to your marital vow, and as you're doing so, you're doing yourself a lot of good as well as putting a stop to all ridiculous stories we hear and read about couples cheating on each other.

Apart from the fact that cheating on one's spouse is unhealthy in every aspect one may look at it, it is also full of regrets at the end of it all.

Before i stop..........a food for thought for us all, treat your spouse the way you want him/her to treat you.


If you're a man, and you're cheating on your wife, how will you feel if it's your wife that is cheating on you?


If you're a woman, and you're cheating on your husband, how will you feel if it's your husband that is cheating on you?

May God help us all.

BABE3:

I'm in stiches.

so apt. For us to except a home free of infidelity,the partners have to put in work (serious work, in fact). How can you be putting in work that lead to infidelity (adding weight and all) and expect fidelity? Where does that happen?

Mediocre women expecting a fairy tale home... I laugh in french.

coogar:


that's the truth.....
the size depends on the amount of blood the nervous system sends down there. with his orobo belly, his arteries must have gathered enough plaques making it difficult for blood to get down there....so his tool would naturally shrink.



go on google & find out the relationship between a man's pot belly & his size. the facts would shock you.

coogar:


nigerians are too lazy to put in the work needed.....only a few of them take their body health seriously. in my borough, everyone jogs or rides a bike. at least more than half of my colleagues jog to the office every morning, take a shower & dress up for work. it's a habit they have cultivated over the years.

naija folks can't even do such - it's too humbling for their bad self. madams pack their big arsës in a big car with a driver taking them everywhere they want. and these "madams" are mostly under 30 years of age. how would the fat not build up?

BABE3:


The madams must always prove they are the boss na. In most Nigerian home the parents eat the drumsticks and breästs, while the kids eat the legs, head, neck, änus and offals .

the importance of a healthy lifestyle can't be overstated; except you have ridiculously good genes.

cococandy:
Makes sense sha.
I bet many 'Big men' don't know this.
You need to see them declaring a full table of assorted merriments each weekend to the shouts of 'oga' na 'master' and everything that fans their bigmanship.

While strutting protruding bellies around as it is a sign of good living.(To them)
I wonder how those pot bellied men with fat wives make love.

Surely there shall be no missionary
Or shall we call it belly bumping style?
So oga goes outside to find a small uni girl that can ride cowgirl

While madam faces the driver or a younger boy in her employ as he can deliver more than oga.

Something living and eating right could have prevented for both of them.
In 's voice " May God help us all"

damiso:
Coogar and all this your theories we gain an hour so quickly before I go to bed:
Going by this your theory of something being missing which the other party needs to find outside e.g weight gain leading to lower intimate drive

So does this apply if I marry a guy financially comfortable (not bill gates rich but comfortable)2/3 vacations a year nice house nice cars, designer clothes etc.Something happens where we can't afford these things anymore as he is the chief earner am I also ok to look outside for what he is no longer able to give me I.e. material comfort?

damiso:
Also what's the excuse for those with fit wives? I have seen cases of men with size 8 wives running after size 14 to 16 chics.

coogar:




does poverty affect a man's erëction?
statistics will tell you that poor men are even the best in bed. he's too poor to afford fattening foods. he's superb & ultra fertile.

in other words, using money or material comfort as an excuse to leave one's hubby is quite lame. the men who go outside to seek greener pastures love their wives.....they want things to be the same as the courting days but they just cannot get an eréction for wifey - the spark has disappeared!

damiso:
Also what's the excuse for those with fit wives? I have seen cases of men with size 8 wives running after size 14 to 16 chics.

coogar:

lol @ an hour before sleep.
does poverty affect a man's erëction?
statistics will tell you that poor men are even the best in bed. he's too poor to afford fattening foods. he's superb in bed & he's ultra-fertile.
in other words, using money or material comfort as an excuse to leave one's hubby is quite lame. the men who go outside to seek greener pastures love their wives.....they want things to be the same as the courting days but they just cannot get an eréction for wifey - the spark has disappeared!

damiso:

Coogar so erectïon= happy home

How is it lame? Am slugging it out at the gym 5 days a week (heck we need to pay gym membership ) I eat carrot food instead of bokoto and you cant work hard or harder to maintain the status quo? Naa based on your theory I need to get that spark elsewhere too I can feed him from the proceeds.

coogar:
You

good question!
marriage can be complex - what about hygiene issues? you stayed in a hostel at some point, i'm sure.....

did the lifestyle of some women not make you wanna puke? yet, these poor habits of theirs are invisible on the outside. so when you see husbands of fit women seeking greener pastures, look more inwardly.