Scyllapatron:


why didn't he marry his daughter ? because he invested much in her,
after collecting bride prize you still want your daughter bear your name?
any father with that mentality will be a bad in-law.

Chiamaka01:


Does paying bride-price imply buying his daughter?

Scyllapatron:


ask Mom, u 'll understand better.

ireneidiva:

Once you are married, you have nothing to do with your father again? Okay

sexybash:
I got married a year ago but
I and hubby agreed. That there shall be no change of name until after 20 deserving years
I made him understand he has to earn it
And we are fine :-)I no fit. Shout

lertee:

I only wrote that from the islamic viewpoint which is strictly my opinion. Many people that are not of my faith won't agree with me ofcourse.

vivalableue:
I think it depends on the place you are from... Some places, the child keeps their own name throughout their lifetime, and in others, they don't even have the same last name as their father in the first place. Where I live, the wife keeps her own name, else she has to go thru a name changing procedure that can cost $$$ especially since it involves changes all official documents, birth certificate passport land titles, bank accounts medical insurance... too much stress so we just keep our names, and hyphenate our husbands names for social purposes only.

Rosarie:
u just started d journey of marriage.soon u will see a diffrenet husband.even the bible says therefore a man will leave his father and mother and cling unto his wife and both of dem shall be one flesh and one body.the man is d head.if u want happiness i advice u to make a u turn though i believe u a lying.no African man will allow u to SOLELY bear your fathers name.so the mr and mrs u will be ur fathera name den he will write mr his own.lolpls tell dat to birds

Chiamaka01:


You're right. I've never heard any of my muslim friends talk about it. How do you know about it. Is it in the Quran?

Chiamaka01:
^^^^
You're a misogynist. A woman is not an extension of her husband.

Chiamaka01:
@babysmart,

We're in similar situations.

babysmart:

team keep ur dad's name alive#

Chiamaka01:
^^^^
You're a misogynist. A woman is not an extension of her husband.

stinggy:

A very bitter one at that.

Really what's my biz with name change? Did I fall in love with your name? Did I marry because I want someone who will adopt my family name? To me, all these things amount to nothing. Ok, what about adopting my last name and even my first name but yet disrespects me, nags, cheats, and do all sorta unthinkables? Which will I prefer?
So many things to busy my head with in life! Last name adoption is the last of them.

pickabeau1:
Lol

I'm also serious how wanting ur wife to bear your name is now misogyny

Or is it just the normal ramblings to silence debate we see around this sezsion

For the pantie sniffers.....well....u will get your wish

Chiamaka01:
I think i understand the view of those who believe the intending husband has to consent, but why wouldn't he?