To start with, I dnt know why a MAN will choose to either physically or verbally abuse his woman. Either of the two happens to an average woman in the society, its either your spouse beat Ɣ☺u, or he uses words strong enough to linger till the last breath.
Some will even beat and verbally abuse Ɣ☺u together, in my own view I think the pain of beating will go along with time, but the emotional pain of verbal abuse is forever.
I know non is good, but which is better? Will you have him insult you verbally or through beating?

None

None of the above. Both have the same effect.

None

Abuse is abuse and none should be allowed in a healthy relationship

NEITHER.

...of two evils, choose the less.

I think physical abuse is worse. I can't fight back physically, so i could risk getting killed. But verbal abuse? What did God give me lips/mouth for? Come kuku add sharp tongue join. Let the abuse begin!

Abuse na abuse
Insult na insult
Beating na beating
Degrading na degrading
Regret na regret
Divorce na divorce

Phema:
I think physical abuse is worse. I can't fight back physically, so i could risk getting killed. But verbal abuse? What did God give me lips/mouth for? Come kuku add sharp tongue join. Let the abuse begin!

Verbal abuse is as harmful as physical abuse
It may not cause physical damage, but it does cause emotional pain and scarring
It can also lead to physical violence

Physical abuse is so bad that as time goes on, you start believing the degrading words said by your partner
You begin to think you're clueless, silly or ugly
You begin to think you aren't good enough for anyone

None. K'amari ogun esu

None pls.

None


I jump past this thread

Verbal is so much better, he will get a run for his money. Physical? Just slip him something, when he is dead to the world, pick a weapon of your choice and feed him his meal.

Such choices are never in the hands of victims.

beeevan:
Verbal is so much better, he will get a run for his money. Physical? Just slip him something, when he is dead to the world, pick a weapon of your choice and feed him his meal.

So cool.

beeevan:
Verbal is so much better, he will get a run for his money. Physical? Just slip him something, when he is dead to the world, pick a weapon of your choice and feed him his meal.

Exactly! Verbal abuse ke? Na only him to run

Phema:


Exactly! Venal abuse ke? Na only him to run

Only the most foolish of men will engage in a war of words with a woman.

beeevan:

Only the most foolish of men will engage in a war of words with a woman.

I dey tell you!

beeevan:




Only the most foolish of men will engage in a war of words with a woman.

excellent point.
this simply implies that any man who is verbally abused should physically deal with the woman. you make lots of sense.
fair game.

I don't think men engage in verbal abuse as much as women do... Na women get Verbal while men get physical... Don't think a man can ever win a woman when it comes to war of words..they will even follow you about and support their insulting words with clapping

beeevan:

Only the most foolish of men will engage in a war of words with a woman.

Truly, you speak wisdom.

So I guess the perfect response to a woman who's constantly running her mouth whenever she feels like it, is a slap or two to remind her of her place?
Don't you agree?

Or do you belong to the hypothetical school of thought where a real man must always possess the God-given gift of walking away whenever his wife's tongue begins it's normal evil routine?

crackhaus:

Truly, you speak wisdom.

So I guess the perfect response to a woman who's constantly running her mouth whenever she feels like it, is a slap or two to remind her of her place?
Don't you agree?

Or do you belong to the hypothetical school of thought where a real man must always possess the God-given gift of walking away whenever his wife's tongue begins it's normal evil routine?

Did you read our conversation before this comment crackhaus? Please stop allowing your idiosyncrasies to make you delve into conversations without having a grasp on the Koko . Read the topic again, then the comments....

beeevan:

Did you read our conversation before this comment crackhaus? Please stop allowing your idiosyncrasies to make you delve into conversations without having a grasp on the Koko . Read the topic again, then the comments....

As usual, attack when cornered as is common with you lot.

I must admit I don't grasp the koko, conversations, or topic...it's rocket science and much too complicated for my simple mind.

Now that i have made that clear, I asked a simple question:
What should a man do when he is faced with a woman who has a degree in using her tongue to cut deep every time she wishes?

Clearly, a man can't engage in a war of words with a woman like you have claimed and which is true...so what is he to do? I need to enrich my simple mind.

crackhaus:

As usual, attack when cornered as is common with you women.

I must admit I don't grasp the koko, conversations, or topic...it's rocket science and much too complicated for my simple mind.

Now that i have made that clear, I asked a simple question:
What should a man do when he is faced with a woman who has a degree in using her tongue to cut deep every time she wishes?

Clearly, a man can't engage in a war of words with a woman like you have claimed and which is true...so what is he to do? I need to enrich my simple mind.

Why would you surround yourself with such women?
You talk back or walk away or you do both.

carefreewannabe:


Why would you surround yourself with such women?
You talk back or walk away or you do both.

Do you ask women this same question, why would a woman surround herself with an abusive man?

As for talking back, beevan and a few others have said a man can't engage a woman in a war of words...which is true.
As for walking away, how long will he continue to do that?

Or in some cases like your fellow woman on this thread says:

MarvellousGod: I don't think men engage in verbal abuse as much as women do... Na women get Verbal while men get physical... Don't think a man can ever win a woman when it comes to war of words.. they will even follow you about and support their insulting words with clapping

Emphasis on the text in bold.
What should a man do to such women?

crackhaus:

Do you ask women this same question, why would a woman surround herself with an abusive man?

I do.

As for talking back, beevan and a few others have said a man can't engage a woman in a war of words...which is true.

I don't agree.
There are plenty of rhetorically gifted men and plenty of women who are rhetorically poor.

As for walking away, how long will he continue to do that?

When you walk away from a verbally abusive woman, stay away.

Or in some cases like your fellow woman on this thread says:

Emphasis on the text in bold.
What should a man do to such women?

I have answered your question. Say your own and leave such a woman.

crackhaus:


Emphasis on the text in bold.
What should a man do to such women?

heheheh... you want to know what I will say?? Like tell the man to slap or beat the lady? No, can never support physical abuse, it doesn't solve the problem at hand.. the lady may even try to fight back which worsens the situation. ..

The man should simply ignore her, walk away, talk to his wife or record the woman's voice and play it for her when they're in a happy mood, the woman would be so ashamed to hear herself shouting like a dog (use this option only when you know she was ranting for nothing)...

Again, the man should check himself to know if he's the actual cause of the woman's behaviour. ..

verbal abuse lingers right, but physical abuse makes the man look like a beast.
none anyways.

carefreewannabe:


I do.



I don't agree.
There are plenty of rhetorically gifted men and plenty of women who are rhetorically poor.



When you walk away from a verbally abusive woman, stay away.



I have answered your question. Say your own and leave such a woman.

If only it were that easy for people to just up and walk out of their marriage...

Your point is duly noted however.

Matters like these are not what we should be discussing. We should rather be talking of how to deal or curb abuse of all form in marriage