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Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Dcmg(m): 4:39pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:From your definition,it means i'm selfish. Isokay o! |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 4:39pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Becalm: What will i prepare for him? |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 4:44pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Dcmg: Not necessarily. It depends on the reason why you dnt want to get married. Are the reasons selfish or genuine? If you can show kindness and compassion towards others, what stops you from doing the same towards your wife and children? |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Dcmg(m): 4:52pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Becalm:You guys tend to believe everybody has the same capacity as yours. One of the things i hate most in my life is unnecessary stress in relationship,that idea of always working to make things work in the relationship,in the words of some women "spicing up a relationship"just to please your partner even if you are displeasing yourself.Even in pains or hard times,most women dnt even care to know what you are going through,all they want is for you to satisfy their every needs and if you can't give to them what they want,that's a problem.Who get that kind strenght? Mehn,some men dey try o,I swear. As for me,i can never displease my self just to pls my partner.Na divorce sure pass 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Becalm(m): 4:55pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
@Sophyrocks Don't take me serious, I was only trying to scare him. You can see that he is already very scared. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Becalm(m): 4:59pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
@DCMG, Okay I understand where you are coming from. May be had a bad experience but there are a lot of wonderful women out there. Some will love you so much that they can even give you all they have, they find it difficult to demand from you because they care about you first. I only pray such women come your way so that whatever bad experience you had before will be a thing of the past. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:03pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Dcmg: You see. With this mindset of yours, you shouldnt get married. Honestly. The truth about marriage is that SOMETIMES you have to displease yourself to please your spouse. But It would be veeeeeerrrrry wrong to do that at ALL TIMES because it would appear you do way much more than your partner does to make it work. Well, every mallam with his kettle. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Dcmg(m): 5:03pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:The reason i MIGHT get married would be becos of having Children. And yes,i can give tha same compasion to my children. As a matter of fact,i love spending so much time with kids than with a woman.That's me I could spend everything i have on my children and take them anywhere they wana go,but i can't say same for my woman partner. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:04pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Becalm: |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Dcmg(m): 5:06pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Becalm:Yimu!Scare me say she be God?Nawa |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:08pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Dcmg: Therefore, you would have to let a lady know your intentions just so that her expectations from you would be less. You would have to marry a woman who also see things the same way you do, who also wants kids but does not neccessarily need a man. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:09pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Dcmg: Pls dnt mind him. he's just joking. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Dcmg(m): 5:10pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:Good!Not everybody will take the same sh!.t 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Dcmg(m): 5:15pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:If i see that kind woman i for happy o.But all the ones i encounter are desperados.They dnt av a life,they believe you should give them attention 24/7 Like seriously,where are all the independent ladies when you need them? I only see them shouting on internet,but i'v not met any physically. 3 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:18pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Dcmg: But i get this feeling that you have issues with women. am i right or wrong? |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:21pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Dcmg: All women, independent or dependent want attention. it may not be 24/7 but at least the kind that increases the bond between both of you. It seems you are not into creating such a bond which is why you prefer having kids. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Dcmg(m): 5:23pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:Maybe becos they are very unpredictable. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:28pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Dcmg: Really? But guess what? its the same thing women say about you men too. So lets just say all humans are unpredictable. Dnt you think? |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Dcmg(m): 5:43pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:that makes it 1-1 I av like a lot of problems to deal with,and a relationship with a woman isn't one for what ever reason it might be,i don't just feel it.I think there are a lot of things i would rather commit to than a relationship with a woman that is more worth the time.That might just be it. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by nnekaregy(f): 5:44pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
mk3jax:let her get a job, there is dignity in labour, she cannot be your help meet at her present state. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:53pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Dcmg: I see. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by ciwi: 6:28pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
ARES: My dear, true talk. In all of this, I blame society. They put undue pressure on people who. Have no idea what marriage is about and the next tin u see them girls pretending to be the wife materials. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by OracleSpeaking: 7:09pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sir, Things are not always what they seem. Frequently stop, look and listen and you might find the source. Btw, have you examined yourself to see if you're the cause? Divorce always looks sweet in the beginning-a quick and easy way out of the hole you're in. It never ends well-or have you seen a truly proud and consistently joyful divorcee? It also increases the chances of divorce in the marriages of your children - if they ever decide to get married. You're a man. Others have been through this with success. Think about it and make the necessary adjustments. God bless 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Benzora(m): 7:17pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
@poster thanks for taking the time to share what you are going through. It's the very first step in finding the solution to the challenges you are having. I usually tell young couples with this kind of issues that once they go past the first two years of marriage then it will be difficult for them to think divorce. This is because the first two years are still the time to develop your friendship and not a time to rest. You both may have been in love but that is just the beginning. You have had different orientations and different responses to your environment as well growing up. You can't just expect everything to be perfect because you are now married. You must take the initiative as the man to build the kind of home that you desire. You both must find ways of continuosly developing your relationship. Attend marriage seminers, read good books on marriage, etc. Divorce is the easy way out, that's why marriage is for people who are physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially matured. As someone else stated, you are not doing your wife a favour by being married to her nor providing for her financially. The key to a happy and fulfilled marriage remains simple, love your wife and your wife should be obedient. The question however is which should come first? Well go ahead and love her, it is not a precondition for her to be obedient first. Show her real love and care and see if she doesn't submit. Goodluck! 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by texanomaly(f): 7:23pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
@DukeNija Great advice! I think I'm in love. @op https://www.nairaland.com/1830733/how-achieve-better-communication-skills#24997761 |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by DukeNija(m): 8:25pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
texanomaly: Wow! I think I just hit jackpot 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Amhappy(f): 8:27pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Just took my time to go through all 11pages. Pains me that OP and the other guy with a similar issue are already considering divorce. First take practical steps to restore your marriage. What do you do together as a family? Pray,study the word,eat,gist,Tv,games etc? Find a level ground. Do you put God first and follow His endless Love? If your spouse respects the higher power he/she may refrain from wrong doing not because of you but because of God. Be friends with your spouse. Put the good of the whole family first not that of any individual member. Teach your spouse to make sacrifices. Share the family plan with your family members and let everyone see where they have to contribute. Then as a man be in charge of your home. Some men are actually strangers in their homes. Correct your spouse when necessary and dont fall for blackmail or manipulations. Some couples have passed through all you complained of including hardship and ttc but still made it but here you are without the toughest challenges,so count your blessings. @Dailynews what a sad story,so sorry for your loss. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by twinpapa(m): 9:01pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
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Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by lexopus: 12:10am On Oct 21, 2014 |
liyuboy: Did you think marriage was a bed of roses. Even roses have thorns. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Rosarie(f): 3:52am On Oct 21, 2014 |
dis kind of thread re 4 married pple nt those whom has nva walked dwm d aile jst sayng gux wrk.marriage is anothr wrld entirely |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Olulinks(m): 8:46am On Oct 21, 2014 |
liyuboy: Hello brother, how i wish i met you face to face, but its still ok. I have been married for over two years now. Sometimes ago, i almost went through what you write here. Anybody that is single cannot understand what you explain here. My advice; what you want just give it! If what you want from your wife is love, give her your love. If all you want from her is care, give it, if you want respect, respect her. Though, i can see that you said you give her whatever she wants, but sincerely, i know what am saying, your wife is not mad. If you give her good loving, she will give you good loving, i bet you. Make sure you are not cheating and dont give her any reason to think you are. Shalom! 3 Likes |
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