A decision is set to be announced on the divorce suit filed by Anita Oyakhilome against her husband Rev. Chris Oyakhilome, the President of Christ Embassy church.

Funny enough, the couple’s first daughter Sharon Oyakhilome has decided to take sides, supporting her mum against her father, Pastor Chris. She took to Twitter to post a cryptic message which seemingly appears to support her mother’s divorce decision.
Her tweets appear to be similar to the case Rev. Anita Oyakhilome cited in the divorce papers where she stated that her husband had been away for the most part of their marriage.

In Defence of Anita Oyakhilome the FRustrated Wife:
“Anita Oyakhilome, the frustrated wife of Nigeria’s most flamboyant preacher, Chris Oyakhilome has obviously passed through 15 years of adulterous endurance and what she needs is our prayers and protective respect and defense of her choices to forget all the anti-rhapsody of heartbreak she endured all these years.

Fifteen (15) years of being abandoned by a preacher husband is not an easy way of lifefor a preacher’s wife. Fifteen (15) years of hearing that some mini skirted daughters of Jezebel have taken over your possession is not a joke. Fifteen years of a husband not staying with the wife for up to a week on a stretch,while spending time with some double breasted figure eight(ed) daughters of eve is not an easy thing to swallow. 15 years of being used as a showcase to make church members believe in Rhapsodies of Blissful Union, while dying in silence,is not a palatable experience for any woman.

Fifteen years of being called Mama, Mummy, and other glorified names of Senior Pastor’swife while some domestic harems sneer at the same Mummy behind is not a sweet experience. For goodness sake, this woman never probably had a good kiss in fifteen years and yet she is being accused of carnality for crying out loud.She was continually being led into temptation of seeking for s*xual satisfaction from outside for fifteen years and she managed to escape the traps of sin.

Fifteen years when their two lovely daughters would wake up and ask their mother why Dad had not cared to visit, and she would have to release a lie to stave off the frequent probing questions. Above all, fifteen years when Anita had to fake that all is well with their marriage, while she is actually dying emotionally. Every person she complained to among the pastoral cadre sided with the man, and she was left alone to bear her cross.

I warned some pastor friends with Christ Embassy early 2013 that they had better settle this marriage rift between Oga and his wife before it destroys the church. The same pastors have called me to express regret that a national embarrassment has ensued.

This woman has been called Jezebel by some pastors and members of the church. Some claimed she was disrespectful while others claimed she was always bitter of recent.They have tried to castigate her before members of the church who came in private to ask for the way out. She was described as unreasonable and insubordinate.

Her husband, according to news reports has even followed to cast her in bad light. According to Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, “Bitterness is prolonged and accumulate danger. My wife is always angry and bitter,” Going further he told his members to “Be careful of the friends you keep. My wife keeps friends who bring out the worst in her and help her see the worst in people, instead of keeping friends that will help her vision, especially as the wife of a global pastor like me.”

Please, which preacher woman who has been abandoned for fifteen years will not be bitter and angry? Was Anita expected to clap and dance while some hot legs are parading around the White House?

This pastor’s wife was also disclaimed by her husband who told his congregants in reaction to the divorce saga that Anita is not necessarily a Woman of God.According to Pastor Oyakhilome “Don’t act like those people. If you are married to a man of God, it doesn’t make you automatically mature. You can make mistakes; you can do something that is wrong. But some people expect the wife of a minister to definitely be at the level of that minister and so they may be looked upon and the expectation may be like that, but it’s a positional thing”.He clarified his theory by saying that “If a man of God is married, it doesn’t automatically mean that the wife of a man of God is therefore a woman of God.

"That’s not the way it is in the Bible.” Pastor Chris also added that “That’s why you don’t really find the wives of men of God mentioned in the Bible. How many of them? Who was Peter’s wife, did you ever know her name? You never find that out. Who was John’s wife? Did you ever read the name? What about all theother Apostles? How many of their names are written in the Bible. You never find their names.”

Anita Oyakhilome actually proved that she has fear of God in the manner she worded her divorce plea. She opted to use the word “inappropriate relationship with female staff members” instead of out rightly accusing her husband of adultery.According to the statement, “the wife has discussed with the husband his appropriate relationship with some of his female staff members. She has explained that this has given her cause for concern. The husband has minimised her worries and taken no step to alleviate her grievances.”

Anita Oyakhilome could have said that her husband abandoned her and ran into the arms of sister A or B, or gospel singer C or D and left her roasting and murmuring in the house. Anita could have said that her husband is a hypocrite who says a thing and means another, but she veiled her grievances of years of abandonment by saying in the divorce file that “The wife feels that she has been used to portray and enhance the husband’s image as a family man when the reality is that there is no existing relationship between them. She feels that she has been present for official functions simply for his convenience.

On occasions she has been copied into his travel itinerary which has been given to him by his staff on a need to know basis”. “The wife has tried to discuss her concernswith the husband. He claims that she is carnal and he is insensitive to her feelings and her needs.”

Thus Anita had acted with much restraint in order to preserve the integrity of Christ Embassy and the work of evangelism, and all she got for her discretion was hate messages all many sections of church members who wanted her to sacrifice her marriage to keep them in a rhapsody of deceit.

This woman, according to the testimony of many British residents who attend their church, is one person who is always willing to give gifts to the needy. She is ever ready to counsel people and does not breed class. She is a patient listener who laboriously introduced many things in the church for which the glory goes to her husband. Londoners believe that she is not that demon theywant to portray her as. Those who know her closely have attested to an affectionate good naturedness and stickler for details.

Whatsoeverthing some misguided church members want to think, Anita had lived a lie formany years. Anita was said to have became born again at believers Loveworldcampus fellowship at Ambrose Alli University Ekpoma, while Chris was thepastor. She had probably paid her dues as a Christian and knows what it is todeceive the congregation. She cannot deceive herself and the church anymorethus she opted for divorce. Divorce, according to scripture is unbiblical, but between deceiving a congregation that already knows the truth but pretends otherwise and staying in unfulfilled marriage, which is better. It is a matter between her and her conscience.

Last year, a Nigerian personality blogger by name Ese Walter was lured by her Senior Pastor in Abuja into a cozy hotel bed space in London and after two weeks of adultery, the man cleaned up, returned to Nigeria and told his congregation to shout some Hallelujah. The sin partner was arrested by the Holy Spirit and she sought a meeting with the COZA Chief to resolve the burden of guilt. She was continually shunned and described as agent of satan even by other senior pastors in the church until she turned the internet into the confessional. Ese Walter freed her conscience and probably escaped eternal damnation but the entire Christendom took the brunt of the exposure.

Anita has chosen to free herself from a life of deceit and lies. The truth had set her free. However, I still counsel her that if the misbehaving preacher husband demonstrates a verifiable change of heart, she should consider him back and so that somebody can shout some more Hallelujah. Fifteen years of adulterous endurance in the midst of charismatic rhapsody is not easy and Anita Oyakhilome sure needs all the defense and understanding she can get- Let somebody shout a better Hallelujah!”

Source: http://www.nta-news.com/2014/10/pastor-chris-daughter-rejects-him.html

I love your write up

She should have chewing-gum(ed) Chris all along by staying with him wherever he was and chose to live.
Blood and water flows in the flesh. Fleeing from Sexual sins requires one to do so physically with your legs. I don't know if anointing insures one from falling into sexual sins.
In all, God's name will be glorified.

BLW
I had to flee after one of our pastors then in school made a well known waka waka a cell leader and rumours were flying of them rubbing body parts together.I also couldn't stand d jerry curls plus coercing people to attend programmes just few days to exam and then they'd be calling God when they fail.
I no dey do one man religion again.
Facing my personal race.
Good luck to the couple,wish them well.

all these doesn't take away my love for pastor chris. come to think of it, no BLW member will miss Anita that much. Her presence was not in the rhapsody and it was more enchanting than ever with lovely pictures and effizy......

mitcheww.

I was hoping to read their daughters Twitter post and not yours

Offcourse

mployer:
mitcheww.

I was hoping to read their daughters Twitter post and not yours

One bottle of Limca for you jare...

I kept scrolling down to read a tweet of not more than 140 characters and my oga was writing a Pulitzer prize article.

How is christ glorified?

My opinion...

If she could endure 15 good years and didn't die,she woulda sought better solution to make her marriage work.

A thousand other couples are facing the same problem. Even a worse sinner can still repent genuinly,pastor or no pastor

You think she didn't try to make it work those 15yrs?

Can you work on a marriage with a partner who's not interested in making it work But expects you to take whatever they dish as a condition for continued marital 'bliss'?

Ezibless:
My opinion...

If she could endure 15 good years and didn't die,she woulda sought better solution to make her marriage work.

A thousand other couples are facing the same problem. Even a worse sinner can still repent genuinly,pastor or no pastor

lofty900:
all these doesn't take away my love for pastor chris. come to think of it, no BLW member will miss Anita that much. Her presence was not in the rhapsody and it was more enchanting than ever with lovely pictures and effizy......

C'mon , we miss her so much. She has made a lot of impact and what we've seen her do can't just be thrown away

petruska:

Funny enough, the couple’s first daughter Sharon Oyakhilome has decided to take sides, supporting her mum against her father, Pastor Chris. She took to Twitter to post a cryptic message which seemingly appears to support her mother’s divorce decision.
Her tweets appear to be similar to the case Rev. Anita Oyakhilome cited in the divorce papers where she stated that her husband had been away for the most part of their marriage. while some domestic harems sneer at the same Mummy behind is not a sweet experience.

stop spreading lies, I don't know what you gain. There's no post on Sharon's twitter profile to support ur claim.

cococandy:
You think she didn't try to make it work those 15yrs?

Can you work on a marriage with a partner who's not interested in making it work But expects you to take whatever they dish as a condition for continued marital 'bliss'?

she shoulda tried harder. The guy's heart isn't a stone,the loved her that's why he married her.

After all,she signed up a ''...FOR BETTER FOR WORSE...''certificate. Most couples forget that part of their vows.

To me,i feel no marriage can't work out,there's always a right ''botton'' to press. She woulda looked for his own botton.

At times like this, nld needs a dislike button. Naija women putting fellow naija women in slavery si ce 20 bc. She is black not white.

Ezibless:


she shoulda tried harder. The guy's heart isn't a stone,the loved her that's why he married her.

After all,she signed up a ''...for better for worse...''certificate. Most couples forget that part of their vows.

To me,i feel no marriage can't work out,there's always a right ''botton'' to press. She woulda looked for his own botton.

Plus,lemme quote my mom...




''if only she was black. Black women know how to handle their husbands better,rather than speak queen's English''

kittykat1:
At times like this, nld needs a dislike button. Naija women putting fellow naija women in slavery si ce 20 bc. She is black not white.

Oops!

I hate this divorce story.

kittykat1:
At times like this, nld needs a dislike button. Naija women putting fellow naija women in slavery si ce 20 bc. She is black not white.

I am very concerned with a mum who raises her daughter with such racist thoughts just to justify why a woman should remain in misery with a man who obviously has mentally checked out of their marriage.

What the heck has speaking queens English got to do with a womans pain and feeling of rejection for 15 years? Raising kids alone when she is not a widow?

I am very concerned that a mother would infuse these kinds of thoughts into her impressionable child, very disturbing

Na real "15 years in the wilderness of adulterous endurance"!

After 15, why she dey comot?
Because she wan shine congo for "holy ghost"?

Oya-khi-lo KONTINU!!!!

She comot from that sweet marriage because of other women toto for her marriage?

After 15 years of marriage ni? Na one remnant "oyakiyaki" BLOKOS WEY don scrassssssssh all angles of her toto taya be her problem?

And the "spinster daughter" dey put mouth too?
She nefa reassssh to carry belle if she nor wan marry ni?

YEYE MOTHER AND DAUGHTER!
Krassssssssse women!!!!

Ezibless:


she shoulda tried harder. The guy's heart isn't a stone,the loved her that's why he married her.

After all,she signed up a ''...for better for worse...''certificate. Most couples forget that part of their vows.

To me,i feel no marriage can't work out,there's always a right ''botton'' to press. She woulda looked for his own botton.

Wtf are you on about? She should have tried harder? Just what is it with you lots and blaming the woman for a failed marriage?

Someone has supposedly endured all these for 15 years and you are saying, she didn't try enough? Omo na wa o.

freecocoa:
Wtf are you on about? She should have tried harder? Just what is it with you lots and blaming the woman for a failed marriage?

Someone has supposedly endured all these for 15 years and you are saying, she didn't try enough? Omo na wa o.

My sister! I really don't know how some women think. Posts like hers is a clear definition of a woman pulling other women down. Very upsetting post.

Ezibless:


she shoulda tried harder. The guy's heart isn't a stone,the loved her that's why he married her.

After all,she signed up a ''...for better for worse...''certificate. Most couples forget that part of their vows.

To me,i feel no marriage can't work out,there's always a right ''botton'' to press. She woulda looked for his own botton.

Check my signature

Did anybody bothered checking the link?

Nta news ko. Bbc ni ...another loose Blogger seeking traffic. I thought NTA news ended with .tv not .com?

aisha2:


I am very concerned with a mum who raises her daughter with such racist thoughts just to justify why a woman should remain in misery with a man who obviously has mentally checked out of their marriage.

What the heck has speaking queens English got to do with a womans pain and feeling of rejection for 15 years? Raising kids alone when she is not a widow?

I am very concerned that a mother would infuse these kinds of thoughts into her impressionable child, very disturbing

My thoughts exactly. Its the mindset that has put a lot of women in trouble, causing them to endure unacceptable behaviour from male partners. I am glad that in this generation, women r waking up.

freecocoa:
Wtf are you on about? She should have tried harder? Just what is it with you lots and blaming the woman for a failed marriage?

Someone has supposedly endured all these for 15 years and you are saying, she didn't try enough? Omo na wa o.

And i say YES!
Well,divorce is now a NORM nowadays that's why people don't wanna think twice before venturing

Quiting isn't the best option to me jooor.




Say whatever you want. You're entitled to your opinion

Chillisauce:


Check my signature

And check my last statement to freecocoa

Ezibless:


And i say YES!
Well,divorce is now a NORM nowadays that's why people don't wanna think twice before venturing

Quiting isn't the best option to me jooor.




Say whatever you want. You're entitled to your opinion

It's a pity that you turned out this way, you better go get some self esteem before it becomes too late for you(though I highly doubt that's possible).

I almost don't blame you with the kind of statement your mum makes, it's really a pity.

freecocoa:
It's a pity that you turned out this way, you better go get some self esteem before it becomes too late for you(though I highly doubt that's possible).

I almost don't blame you with the kind of statement your mum makes, it's really a pity.

Happy Sunday my angel

freecocoa:
It's a pity that you turned out this way, you better go get some self esteem before it becomes too late for you(though I highly doubt that's possible).

I almost don't blame you with the kind of statement your mum makes, it's really a pity.

Biko, hold your pity to yourself o.

And my self esteem is as high as the heavens

No one can say what another's tolerance level should be.If you want to die there,fine.If you want to leave,fine.
However,we all are hypocrites at one point or the other.I bet that if it was a regular couple that went to the pastors for counseling they'd tell them to keep praying and waiting for change

Thank God for common sense.No relying on anyone to chop my tithe and control my choice under the guise of man/woman of God.Or telling me how to live my life yet busy doing the opposite.

chucky234:
Happy Sunday my angel

Happy Sunday to you too but I'm not your angel.

Ezibless:


Biko, hold your pity to yourself o.

And my self esteem is as high as the heavens

You f00l no one.