cococandy:
Great news

Donedy. Olodo. Don't commit suicide because of this o

donedy:


I'm glad the case has been settled in a civilized manner ! I hope you'll now stop insulting a woman old enough to be your grandma.

Also, I'm even blushing on the fact you still remember handle . Unfortunately, I am already taken . I wish you well in your future endeavors. Next time we cross path, I hope we will be on same path.

bennyrazz:
Thank God for responsible, upright and just workers in the temple of justice in The United Kingdom. If this case was lodged in a Nigerian court, be sure ready for all sort of adjournments. Really crazy. Maybe liya might have clocked 15 before final judgement. And if you know your way very well, you would surely win a case even if all odds are against you

Busybody2:

Times have moved on, child custody case is one of the areas that works in Nigeria now, and there are lots of feminist Pro Bono female law firms ready to drag it with any man that crosses the line and take him to the cleaners...besides a woman "owns" a child legally till age 7 in Nigeria...

bebe2:
Oyinbo pple never know how Nigerians dey behave.

Na judge own judge dey talk o

aisha2:


Thank you. I understand the skepticism but we should try to research small before running down every system.

Child custody and welfare is taken very serious here, the only times challenges arise is where the mother is not willing to fight for the child and decides to leave it to God or elders to settle

Busybody2:

Yeah I agree wholeheartedly. People don't realise the law still works in some areas. And women don't know the clout they have and the power they wield when it comes to family law in Nigeria.
Well I guess for some women, they don't fight for custody because they feel the Daddy is better placed financially to raise the children, whilst for some they feel the child/children would be an hindrance to them remarrying so rather than dump the child/children on grandma to make themselves more marketable, they decide to leave the child/children to the Dad rather.
I have also heard of instances whereby the woman purposely leaves the children behind, in the hope that she might win the Dad's heart back or the Dad would be preoccupied with raising them and not have time for other women. Hmmm.

aisha2:


Hmmmm true. Have given up trying to understand some things

bennyrazz:
The laws in our land was created for the poor people. Until the law can emancipate the plight of the common man on the street then I'm very sorry to say, you have no law. Until your judiciary becomes fully independent and devoid of political intrusion, you still have no law. Promotion of Judges in your country is very political
Your rub the back of a politician, you get promoted. Child whatever jargons you have and feminist lawyers offering pro bono services to me is a very big illusion, how many of them have won cases that matters in court? It a shame when I read on the dailies of how retired old men desecrate, defile children and yet most of the perpetrators don't get punished/persecuted properly. The current present CJN Her lordship, Justice Maryam Aloma Murktar admitted the rot in the Judiciary and she's fighting it. In one of her remarks, she said some cases filed since 2001 have not been treated. Just imagine such in the case of Liya. It's common Knowledge that if you have money, you can easily influence judgements in your favor. So you lawyers here trying to portray the Nigerian Judicial system as a big white sheep should really think again (I understand the passion for the profession). Though there are few judges that are not corrupt, they stand for justice anytime any day one of which is Justice Ademola of the federal High court Abuja. He does not unnecessary adjourn cases. Busybody2, aisha2 take note.

aisha2:


The law will not force you to come under its cover.
Family law is a different branch of law which hardly takes time to be decided because of its sensitive nature and the best interest of the child.

Like i said do not lump it up with cooperate or criminal law.
We can say a lot of bad things abiut Nigeria but saying it has no functional family law is not true

bennyrazz:
For example, I'm a big IBO trader, importer/exporter of all kinds of goods.[size=18pt] I have 3 wives and all what they have given me as children are all girls. [/size]Imagine a whole me have 17 girls? If my first wife had given me just one boy, I won't have married a second wife same thing with the third but non of them have given me a male child. All I have are girls, its not that I am not greatful to God but who would carry on with the family legacy when I have no child to bear my name? In my desperation to get a male child, I decided to be sleeping with all kinds of women. There's this girl that sells banana that use to come to my shop, I just said I should try my luck on her and luckily she got pregnant and gave me a boy. I was the most happiest man on earth. Look at me, a 57yrs old man. I finally have a son. For the past four years I have been taking care of the child and her mother, I rented a 3bedroom flat for them somewhere in Lagos, I furnished it to taste. I made extremely sure that my son and her mother never lacked anything. [size=18pt]For a man of my status, I can't marry an illiterate[/size] so I have asked the mother to go back to school to write her ssce exams (waec) I will finance everything up to the university and she has refused. Though my son is in one of the best private school in Lagos but the boy can't speak proper English because his mother speaks bad English to him. I have asked the mother to allow me take custody of the child while she returns back to school but her and her family have said no except I take their daughter as my fourth wife. I said no problem but their daughter have to go back to school before I can marry her. They refused. Now I went to pick my son from school the other day and I took him home so that his sisters could know him and probably pass the night, I called the mother on phone to tell her. The following morning, Police men with my son's mother were knocking at my door alleging that I kidnapped my son from school. I was taking to the police station but I was granted bail on self recognition. I was so angry that I decided not to foot my son and mother's bill any longer. Their house rent expired, I did not renew. I refused to pay my son's school fees for the new term. So he has been sitting at home. Anytime my son's mother call me, I ask her to go back to hawking banana on the street to carter for her needs. Her family have called me severally to insult me on phone I just did not reply them. The other day, my son's mother came to my shop with a Lawyer to give me a letter summoning me to court
They do not know that my first wife is a Lawyer. A very good kind understanding woman, How I wish she bore me a son. The following week we were in court, my son's mother lawyer was asking the Judge to compel me to carter for the upkeep of my child financially. And my first wife whom is my lawyer was asking the court custody of the child to enable me carter for the child financially and anything less than that means they get no kobo from me. If she wants to keep the child fine, she takes care of his upkeep.

Now as a Judge, aisha2 how do you Judge this matter when the man has said he would not provide money for his child upkeep simply because he doesn't have custody of the child and his child is not been brought up in the way and woman is insisting no way. I keep custody of the child man foots the Bill.

bennyrazz:
The laws in our land was created for the poor people. Until the law can emancipate the plight of the common man on the street then I'm very sorry to say, you have no law. Until your judiciary becomes fully independent and devoid of political intrusion, you still have no law...



... Busybody2, aisha2 take note.

5minsmadness:
Pickabeau1, busybody 2

But can't benyrazz fight for custody based on maternal incompetence and unwillingness to improve herself vis a vis furthering her education, even despite offer of financial aid from the husband? Isn't the child's basic upbringing being put in jeopardy by the mother's obstinate behaviour?

pickabeau1:


That is a different dimension which typically is an exception

Illiterates have raised professors


who says he is truly is the fada of the child

5minsmadness:
Pickabeau1, busybody 2
But can't benyrazz fight for custody based on maternal incompetence and unwillingness to improve herself vis a vis furthering her education, even despite offer of financial aid from the husband? Isn't the child's basic upbringing being put in jeopardy by the mother's obstinate behaviour?

5minsmadness:


A DNA test takes 2weeks and costs about N100k. It can be done for confirmation.

Give Instances of illiterates that raised professors without financial backing and outside help pls.

Busybody2:

There is corruption everywhere but
Family law is structurally sound in Nigeria. It is about the best interest of the child so a mother owns the child until the child is aged 7 because of their tender age.
After clocking age 7, there is a Court hearing where the child is asked whom he/she wants to live with. Shikena.
This aspect of law works well so it was on the back of this that immigration department stipulated that passport application for a child needs to include bio data of Dad's passport, written consent letter from Dad, etc. So men would not be totally frozen out.
I see you mentioned Liya. You might run rings round the Court trying to avoid paying Mum child support, but Liya is a British Citizen so Interpol has the right to arrest her Dad anywhere in Nigeria and have him handcuffed and carted off to Police cell for evading child support payment. And he would only be released once he has paid every single dime owed since the day she was born.

jennyo:

Have you tried collecting Nigerian passport for your kids? they insist on the father's passport ID and signature and they tell you the mother is irrelevant.i think Nigerian laws favors fathers more than mothers