tolu4you:

please, more on this

Somebody is telling u to self-service...and you want to know more ?

Were you having sex with other women befor you married your wife?

Keep showing her love, one day she will surely change seeing the kind of love you have for her

It takes two to tango. Remember the two shall not walk/work together except they agree. It seems to you that intimacy start from outside to inside (ie. pre-intimacy to sex) no it should start from inside. Start from telling her things her ears needs to hear always, touching, showing her care and value always n reassuring her of her beauty always on bed hv sexual discussion n no critics no matter how naive she may sound but tell her how u wish it could be. If only you will be patient enough to groom her the result will be spendid for both of u.

Hv n mind that hooking up with a side chic to make up will only cos u unbearable pain at the long run. Be wise marriage is for men and not for boys.

tolu4you:

She has a six month old baby... but i knw her before marriage she is a frigid type...

So why did you marry her?
Were you 'hoping' she would change?

You need to improve in your sex fantasy

tolu4you:
I dont know what to do, i really like sex but my wife hate it and i have vowed not to have sex with another lady. This woman dey make me angry oo.lol Anything wrong for married man to love sex as i do?
Please advice on what to do.
thanks

No offence bro, but you're simply not good in bed. There's nothing like a woman being frigid when it comes to good sex, unless she's a lesbo. I once had a gf who was always afraid of sex and because of that, hated sex. It took a lot of patience and skill before I could get her to love sex, even more than I did then.
No woman would be eager to have sex if she ain't gonna be satisfied, unless she's into it for some benefit.
This is why some married women cheat. When they sleep with someone else and get the satisfaction they've always craved for, it's hard for them to stop.
You have to learn how to get to her. Be patient. Lots of pre-intimacy before and after sex can help.
Your release time also plays an important role.

Go ahead and have sex with her...
If she likes, let she not have sex with you... *in Ichie Nwosu's voice* "Simpulu and shoortu."

Hmm,,mine is similar to this...
I've tried letting my fiance know how much i detest having sex but he would'nt understand...

Does Viagra work on females? ....If Yes, Op pop those blue pills for her

[quote
author=steppin post=27304491]
No offence bro, but you're simply not good in bed. There's nothing like a
woman being frigid when it comes to good sex, unless she's a lesbo. I
once had a gf who was always afraid of sex and because of that, hated
sex. It took a lot of patience and skill before I could get her to love
sex, even more than I did then.
No woman would be eager to have sex if she ain't gonna be satisfied,
unless she's into it for some benefit.
This is why some married women cheat. When they sleep with someone else
and get the satisfaction they've always craved for, it's hard for them
to stop.
You have to learn how to get to her. Be patient. Lots of pre-intimacy before
and after sex can help.
Your release time also plays an important role.[/quote]This is soo lyk my sugar..*i really cnt imagine having sex wt any1 else*

cococandy:

So why did you marry her?
Were you 'hoping' she would change?

She promised to change

romance her
bubble bath,nice dinner,slow music... let her feel she is your Queen of the night
make her want you so badly
body oil massage...

You were naïve to believe that.
Sex urge/libido isn't something that can be turned on and off like a switch.

Anyway I don't think I've anything new to say that hasn't been said on this thread.
Just be strong and work with her.
Find ways to make love to her than she's never been loved before. You might be surprised to have a different reaction.

If all fails,take it to the Lord in prayers and encourage her to follow you to counseling.
Remember adultery is a sin.
No one will advice you to go that lane but in the end,it's your life. Your decisions.

tolu4you:

She promised to change

tolu4you:

She promised to change

Another thing i wanted to ask:Are you the type that will go straight to the point without any pre-intimacy?

Because,i know when one is frigid,the only thing that can work is spooning(cuddling,kiss..tc)

So,let her be in the mood.Take her out,and don't expect anything other than smooching around,hold yourself!

From there,she will be warm and might want to carry it to the next level,be very patient.

But,my offer still stands:become frigid if nothing changes.

xynerise:
You need to improve in your sex fantasy

Like seriously dude needs to up his game.

OP, dont just go jacking off, there is what they call pre-intimacy, work on your woman's body then go on your kneels, say the Lord's prayer and then eat her cookie, eat that damn thing so well she begins to shiver, like convulsion sorta thing but be sure not to bite it, do this before ramming your co*k inside her. Sex is like a skill, like learning how to drive or playing a piano, it takes time to be a pro but I assure you if you work on doing those things, soon she will become a nymphomaniac.

All the best.

I usually don't comment on this ''advise me thread'' but i have to comment on this one because i am in the same situation.

I love sex so much but my wife doesn't at all, She is preety but she does not see anything sweet about sex, we have a boy and a girl together so it's not that she has any problem, she bluntly told me recently that whenever i ask her for sex, it's like asking her to go to market for me at the midnight.

Meanwhile it's the secrete of not sharing my wife with anybody, unlike other women who get honey for sex and have multiple sex partners, I had to accept my fate and carry olosho with strong protection sometimes when i want to have full action and fun, am not telling you to copy me. I have stopped disturbing my wife for sex, rather enjoy my happy home without having to worry about infidelity, It's a blessing for me anyway.

Her negative reaction to sex must be psychological. Take her to a Psychologist or Doctor.

get to talk to her how important sex is...maybe she needs to watch decent adult movies to make her Hot.. blah blah

Annypie:
This is soo lyk my sugar..*i really cnt imagine having sex wt any1 else*

Making love to your wife does not start when the lights are out. Did you spend time with her during the day, did you tell her what a good job she's doing with the baby, did you tell how how beautiful she is, did you tell her how hot you still get for her or did you jump into bed at night and said "madam, assume the position"

AgapeCharis:

close,ur mouth..wuld u please??

Annypie:
close,ur mouth..wuld u please??

did I say anything?

AgapeCharis:
did I say anything?

haha,see wahala o,am just tellin u to close a mouth u left open..dats all!


ds boy again sha..its lyk u want another argument o

Annypie:
haha,see wahala o,am just tellin u to close a mouth u left open..dats all!


ds boy again sha..its lyk u want another argument o

bia nwanyi..

Eheen
B4 I 4gt..how did d meeting go last night?

AgapeCharis:
bia nwanyi..

Eheen
B4 I 4gt..how did d meeting go last night?

hmm.nwoke,i went late oo a whole executive lyk me,dey sha give me small fine sha

btw,we are still on ur case o,its lyk ur CHI is with u

Annypie:
hmm.nwoke,i went late oo a whole executive lyk me,dey sha give me small fine sha

btw,we are still on ur case o,its lyk ur CHI is with u

Wen una finish,, lemme knw..hw was ya day?

Annypie:
hmm.nwoke,i went late oo a whole executive lyk me,dey sha give me small fine sha

btw,we are still on ur case o,its lyk ur CHI is with u

what part of africa are u from?are u from sambisa or chibok?

AgapeCharis:

Wen una finish,, lemme knw..hw was ya day?

lool..we cnt fit finish ds one oo..my day was easy,and lazzzy too,urs?

Annypie:
lool..we cnt fit finish ds one oo..my day was easy,and lazzzy too,urs?

thank God una knw say una can't fit finish d marra...ma day was soo soo

If she doesn't like sex, look for someone else to fvck.... if she complains, tell her to fvck off....

She shouldn't have a problem with you fvcking someone else ideally since it isn't ur fault dat she doesn't like it.. you can't have your cake and eat it...

njokusboy:
If she doesn't like sex, look for someone else to fvck.... if she complains, tell her to fvck off....

She shouldn't have a problem with you fvcking someone else ideally since it isn't ur fault dat she doesn't like it.. you can't have your cake and eat it...

is this the solution?