Stillfire:
What kind of crass, backward thread is this? So you couldn't advise this girl without acting saintly? Some of you women are sick, more misogynistic than the misogynists. You now came on NL to congratulate yourself, so that razz people like yourself will give you a pat on the back. I should have stopped reading the crap when I saw the textspeak and the construction of the grammar [/b]which usually tells me the author's conversations would most likely revolve around the [b]level of dry, sappy, insipid and downright boring. You could have advised her without the unnecessary hyping of yourself and maligning other women. Rubbish.

donodion:


And it works in their situation as against contrary views. So?

carefreewannabe:


It obviously didn't work so well.

Stillfire:
What kind of crass, backward thread is this? So you couldn't advise this girl without acting saintly? Some of you women are sick, more misogynistic than the misogynists. You now came on NL to congratulate yourself, so that razz people like yourself will give you a pat on the back. I should have stopped reading the crap when I saw the textspeak and the construction of the grammar which usually tells me the author's conversations would most likely revolve around the level of dry, sappy, insipid and downright boring. You could have advised her without the unnecessary hyping of yourself and maligning other women. Rubbish.

soulglo:


In her defense, I probably might have taken a similar tone in describing a woman like the OP. I generally find it hard to disguise my disgust at women like the OP. So I think we should ltry to look at it from what she knows. How she was nurtured. In my world, woman like her are seen as non achieving and mentally lazy but in her world women like me are not even women. There are men who are okay with that just like there are men who wouldn't bring that home to their family. I'm sure if you had a brother and he brought a woman home that sounds like this the family might be taken aback. Imagine that the OP had a son who brought home a woman who sounds like you. The OP will start running from church to church to pray the woman out of her sons life

Amelian:


God bless u sir. Don't mind other pple who talking out of point, as if they av a certain fixed way of how a polygamous family shud turn out 2 be. So tay, some certain unscrupulous pple here av turned my post into their own personal vendetta.

D problems they face @ home, they will come online 2 come and unleash their misguided venom unto innocent nlders , who has no clue of the problems they are facing @ home, Even though their family is Monogamous in nature.. Keep on deluding yurselves some certain women on nld that feel they know how I
N my family lived.. If yur family lineage is filled with sorrows n warfare, ko kan aye, mehn! pls don't imgine other polygamous homes are like dat..May God help us all



Derailers pls don't derail d thread. Am not d. Cause of your numerous problems in yur homes..Pls Let's stick to d topic and share yur views on it. Thanks

donodion:


Not from where Im seeing it.Worked very well.

Enough to have her mom secured and established,single handedly have properties in her name,self sustaining investment and still profitable enough to raise a cultured lady such as Amelian.
What else could any career oriented woman ask for?

*Financial power-Her mom had it
*A man for herself as at when she needed-Her mom had it
*At least a child to grow old enough to be successful and worth reckoning with- her daughter is a testimony...

Undeniably it worked very well.

Amelian:
So carefreewannabe, to type properly is yur New problem nw... Charcoal calling pot black, am I typing or writing?
Mehn! Your IQ amazes me @ times.

donodion:


Not from where Im seeing it.Worked very well.

Enough to have her mom secured and established,single handedly have properties in her name,self sustaining investment and still profitable enough to raise a cultured lady such as Amelian.
What else could any career oriented woman ask for?

*Financial power-Her mom had it
*A man for herself as at when she needed-Her mom had it
*At least a child to grow old enough to be successful and worth reckoning with- her daughter is a testimony...

Undeniably it worked very well.

carefreewannabe:


See logic

Nonso23:

You don't get it do you? Ignore them and feel good about yourself.
If they consider polygamy a terrible family setting and you were able to turn out this well then obviously you are a lot stronger and better than them.
Stop feeding the trolls.

IF ANYONE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR FAMILY SETTING, THAT IS THEIR PROBLEM NOT YOURS.
And by the way when people leave the content of a post to discuss the poster it's obvious what category to place them.
Great minds discuss ideas,
Average minds discuss events,
Small minds discuss people.
No carry NL matter for head o unless you and bend, bend neck go dey struggle.

Nonso23:

She discussed her opinion about the sense of entitlement and lack of respect displayed by a certain lady (as an instance not a central theme) in relation to the society as a whole. And not just that, she went further to buttress her points, reasons and recommendations.
VERY discuss-worthy IDEAS were contained in the O.p.
A Great mind.

Nonso23:

You don't get it do you? Ignore them and feel good about yourself.
If they consider polygamy a terrible family setting and you were able to turn out this well then obviously you are a lot stronger and better than them.
Stop feeding the trolls.

IF ANYONE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR FAMILY SETTING, THAT IS THEIR PROBLEM NOT YOURS.
And by the way when people leave the content of a post to discuss the poster it's obvious what category to place them.
Great minds discuss ideas,
Average minds discuss events,
Small minds discuss people.
No carry NL matter for head o unless you and bend, bend neck go dey struggle.

babygirlfl:


Do you not think that she is the one making herself to be discussed. She kept talking about herself, her mum, how she runs her home and her achievements. If you ask me, I honestly think she opened this thread to make herself look good (in the eyes of some people though). You are accusing carefreewannabe of basically what the poster did right from the very beginning of this thread. She even brought in the mother of the girl into discussion.

carefreewannabe:


And the poster did what in her initial post?

Amelian:
@ nonso, u r right. But I nid 2 let d derailers club know, am not moi moi.. Theyv bn ranting till 5pages , haba! Ontop my matter o, no be topic again o.. They are wise, bah? Making mouth , as if they can control natural situations around one. The only thing anybody can control is Yourself. Anybody person, Zero.. Possibly for a short while but on d long run only Yourself u can control as a wife n mother .
Mark my words, ladies.. Will help alot peace.

carefreewannabe:


I have it all without having to compete against co-wives in a house full of envy and having to wait for my husband until it is my turn while he is bleeping other women officially.

As for the poster, it worked so well that she does not even know how to write properly.

Nonso23:

Not as a central theme. As instances.

Amelian:



Ok lemme coach you. Pls sit down and listen attentively
What I mentioned in my initial post? Is not that I av a problem wit d girl I mentioned or wit d way she chose 2 live in her sister's house. I was amazed wit her defiant attitude, cos she was actually thrown back into d streets by her sister's husband n and she has no where 2 go. With dat reality on yur shoulders or on anybody, wud one still feel she's right? Cmon! Think!
U fucvkin av no where 2 stay, than 2 head back 2 d village. Hello? Are u understanding d scenario nw? Her bf cud NOt take her in, cos he has his own issues. So she's stuck! Wit no where 2 sleep. After advising her 2 go back and beg her husband sis, I got home still amazed @ wat happend 2 her and d foolish steps she took, by carrying her bags.. To where? My house?..

So u get my drift carefreewannabe.
That's d lesson for 2day. I honestly hope u understand orelse I give up on yur case.* rolls eyes*

donodion:


Ha cfw,you like taunting eh.Were you a tomboy?

Ok o,you are from monogamous setup,good.We respect that. Shes equally from a successful polygamous background,extend same regard please.

Factor the obvious possibility while you "had it all " in your monogamous unit,theres at least an extended family member who equally "envies " your union.MIL,SIL,nephew,cousin (maternal/paternal).

What worked for her may not necessarily suit your stance in marriage and relating with in-laws,but today,someone looked up to her for counsel.
You cant give what you dont have.

Its weekend abeg.

Nonso23:

Very good. Now at least you have an opinion that is not centred around the O.p's family setting.
She had to clear the air about assumptions the monogamy apologists made about her. Simply guarding her person.

Carefree on the other hand jumped instantly upon her family and is still undeterred pursuing the case as if people determine what family they are born into.
The o.p used the story as an instance to butress her point not to discuss the persons involved.

Stillfire:
What kind of crass, backward thread is this? So you couldn't advise this girl without acting saintly? Some of you women are sick, more misogynistic than the misogynists. You now came on NL to congratulate yourself, so that razz people like yourself will give you a pat on the back. I should have stopped reading the crap when I saw the textspeak and the construction of the grammar which usually tells me the author's conversations would most likely revolve around the level of dry, sappy, insipid and downright boring. You could have advised her without the unnecessary hyping of yourself and maligning other women. Rubbish.

Nonso23:

I read the post again. I saw the conversation between her and the girl. If you read it like a prose then you definitely will miss her point.
She was talking to the girl for most part of it and her opinions were embellished in her replies. Pointing to herself as a role model in the o.p isn't directed at (us) the readers but at the girl requesting for her advice.
Her last sentence requested for our opinion as hers was already laid out. That is the purpose of this thread.
I think a mother with kids and a loving husband should have enough attention already.

Nonso23:

Very good. Now at least you have an opinion that is not centred around the O.p's family setting.
She had to clear the air about assumptions the monogamy apologists made about her. Simply guarding her person.

Carefree on the other hand jumped instantly upon her family and is still undeterred pursuing the case as if people determine what family they are born into.
The o.p used the story as an instance to butress her point not to discuss the persons involved.