What response do you give a "very good" friend of yours who confesses he has strong feelings for you but you think you guys dating is almost not possible and you don't want to loose your friendship?

Pls guys let me know what you think

Choco

hun just tell him dat u know he really loves u and all dat but yall datin is gon jeopardize yall friendship cos if d relationship thing doesn't worj out d way yall think it gon be hard 2 be friendz again and u really value this frienship more dan he thinks and loosin it is d last thing u want to happen cos it means a lot to u dat u av a friend like him

the important thing is, take him serious, if you don't want to date him, just tell him gently why you can't date him and assure him that you value his friendship and don't want to lose that. As it most guys who find themselves in that kind of situation are taking a risk because what runs at the back of the mind is the possiblity that the lady in question might take offence and end everything.

tell him your own feelings too.if u love him,tell him.
but if u dont tell,him so that he ll know what to do

quite interesting.

if it is a girl dat asked me dis, i will simply ask if she is ready to give me some.

give u some damn dondele u just want to hit it and run huh?

hmmm, kiki again. if i hit u, i will run but if i hit her, we will be together forever but unfortunately, i have no interest in getting any girl.

dondele:

hmmm, kiki again. if i hit u, i will run but if i hit her, we will be together forever but unfortunately, i have no interest in getting any girl.

hmmmmmmmmm really? boy if u hit me u gon wanna stay there trust me u will never wanna leave .but i hate guyz like u

i never said i liked u did i? hit u? i will hit u when u are the last woman on earth. even at dat, its only BJ i will want from you.

dondele:

i never said i liked u did i? hit u? i will hit u when u are the last woman on earth. even at that, its only BJ i will want from you.

i never said i liked u either i said i hate guyz like u and u really hurt my feelings with what u just said

im sorry. didnt mean it, please forgive me.

Choco to be serious either ways the end is gonna be disatrous.If you tell him you don't have feelings for him he'll be heart broken and in the end if the relationship fails its your loss also.so either ways you might lose your friendship. Except his strong and can bear the emotional trauma

it aiite i'm ok just not in d mood 2 argue with no one kinda stressed out

kiki and dondele i'm really sorry for interrupting you guys . You can continue you know its fun reading lovebirds notes

its ok, you will be fine. just rest and drink some juice.

dondele:

its ok, you will be fine. just rest and drink some juice.

thanx

la belle:

kiki and dondele i'm really sorry for interrupting you guys . You can continue you know its fun reading lovebirds notes

gurl its nothing like dat

welcome

I FEEL LIKE hULU hULU HULU

i'm also in the same situation.
my only bestfriend told me he has some strong feelings 4 me and i don't know what to do.he even left his own girlfriend when he realized he was in love with me.he is really a very nice guy,he is a guy any girl would want but am not ready now to be in a relationship so what do i do.
SOMEBODY HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you really have feelings for him too, then you guys should get it going, otherwise, let him know straight away (in a most affectionate way) that you would rather you remained friends (at the moment).  I said, at the moment, because you might never know, you could ultimately develop much feelings for him later.

I've been there and it didn't kill me to know that she, at that moment, really enjoyed my company and wanted it to remain on the friendship level.  However, she latter came back to ask me outz when she stopped seeing the guy she used to see previously.  Anywayz, the rest of the story is personal.

I'm sure you got my point. If he's reasonable enough, he would understand.

Just my two cents.

i also like him alot but the point is that we know urselves too much to be in a relationship and am scared things r gonna change between us cuz it has even started changing since he confessed,we r shy of eachother now and we don't see urselves always as we used to do.And am also not ready to be with any guy 4 now.

i dont wanna break his heart cuz i care alot 4 him.

You'll be hurting him more by keeping quiet about the whole situation, Cleo.  You don't need to avoid him, and he may even be thinking that you now hate him because he confessed his love for you.  If you guys were really as intimate as you seem to posit, then you should be able to sit him down and talk to him about the situation and your thing about it all, and he should be able to understand your position.  Good thing, you have a good reason, hence he wouldn't see it as if you don't really like him or something (since you are not dating any other guy).

Let him know that you love him and would always be there for him, even when no one else is not there for him (if you guys are really that close).  The more you keep quiet about it and let the good friendship you were already enjoying to degerate completely, the more the heartbreak would be more devastating!  You know what they say, a stitch in time saves nine.  Don't let the communication between you break down critically.  Talk to him now and he may be so much grateful to you later that you did so early enough.

I don't like games, and I'm sure he wouldn't enjoy the idea of you playing mind games with him.  So, go try and make him as comfortable as possible around you again and please

talk to him now, Cleo!

PS: I'll be away for a moment. I could read your replies when I get back to the PC.

i have been in a very bad and hard situation that i even cant trust guys anymore and he knows that am not ready 4 a relationship and i'm not the one avoiding him.we r like a brother and a sister,we give eachother advices and he sometimes sleeps in my house when is very late but since when he made his confessions we cant look into our eyes and talk as we used to.i just want as to be friends like we used to but the problem is that i felt jelous when i saw him with his girlfriend talking but i pretended to be alright,i dont know what is happening to me.

Sorry to hear about the 'very bad and hard situation' you had previously found yourself in, and I seem to perfectly understand the jealousy thing, which I believe is only natural.  I mean, mothers feel such jealousy even when their daughters are being married off to a guy (their own son-in-law).  From my own perspective, such jealousy says "Hey! That's my lovely babyboy/babygurl!  Don't ever mess with him/her!  Don't ever mess with his/her life, even if you're his/her guy/girl (hubby/wify)!"  It's that feeling that's an offshoot of the aspirations you have that the best things always happen to your loved ones.  It most often doesn't really mean that the erotic feelings are there, rather it more often still points to that pure filial/platonic love which friends have for each other, just like twins.  If you really think you should date him for any reason, please take your time to look deep within you to see if that other erotic passion is there, rather than look on the jealousy, which is not so deep-rooted, as mothers would finally let go of their daughters.

Love has nuances, Cleo.  Deep within you, you would ultimately find out the real meaning of your love for him and what directions it could take as you both grow together.  Then, it's a decision you have to make, either to go into a relationship with him or not.  I don't want to get you into more confusion here.  Follow your heart and do what you think is right.  However, most importantly, act you must, and as soon as you are comfortable doing so.

Thank u soo very much.I really do appreciate that.U r 1 in a 10000

You are welcome, Cleo and thanks for the compliments. Life is all about choices, and the choice not to choose is not one of the best of choices. So, you should know what you really want. Go for and stand by it.

U guys thanks u been helpful especially Douzy . That's for being such a nice person giving Cleo all that counsel and moi too

Sup Choco? Thanks for the compliments, and sorry I forgot a moment there that you were the one who started this thread. I guess my empathy was more stirred by Cleo's situation. Well, I'm happy I was of some help to you too.

Cheers!