Obinoscopy:
Nice one OP. I think this applies to the guys too.

Obinoscopy I don't know if u saw my mail coz I've been banned by the antispambot again o and my latest topic in the celebrity sectionhas been removed unnecessarily. Pls I'll really appreciate if I can get the topic back. I've also told mynd44 too but all in vain as at now. Thanks in advance. God bless.

Arva:

Obinoscopy I don't know if u saw my mail coz I've been banned by the antispambot again o and my latest topic in the celebrity sectionhas been removed unnecessarily. Pls I'll really appreciate if I can get the topic back. I've also told mynd44 too but all in vain as at now. Thanks in advance. God bless.

Done

Mynd44:

Done

Thanks a lot.

tosyne2much:
I don't rili get u broda

i meant you love quoting long posts, why?

daveP:
i meant you love quoting long posts, why?

no vex bruhs, I will change henceforth

Keep relationships not virginity.

Thanks OP for d advice but damn they are much.

Lolmoi:
Okay, we hear you

Y u dey vex naaah

lalasticlala:
This thread was inspired by a nairalander who once posted this "After making a vow to myself and God when I was 16 to get married as a virgin , it seems harder each day and im just 19. God pls help me."
The comment was made in this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/1837501/popular-nigerian-celebrities-recount-how/2

I saw an article online that may help her and other nairalanders in her shoes keep their virginity. Below is the article:


How Do I Stay a Virgin Until Marriage?

Many young people make the commitment to wait for sex until marriage or at least until a special relationship for a variety of reasons, but remarkably few actually make it, despite their best intentions. Approximately 80% of people have had sex by the time they graduate from high school, and more than 95% lose their virginity before they get married.

I married at 24.5, and my wife was 21.5 years old. We were both virgins until the day we got married—so yes, it is possible, and worth it. I believe that had either or both of us not been virgin prior to marriage itwould have been that much more difficult to abstain from sex until marriage (it was difficult enough as it was), because once you know what it feels like, and you know the right buttons to push, and you have overcome some of the initial tentativeness and natural inhibition that protects you, the drive and facility to make it a sexual relationship becomes that much more powerful.

After we were engaged, my wife and I had to set up rules for ourselves to make sure we made it, and I am glad we did.
After we were engaged, and the longer we were engaged the more powerful the sex drive became. I was happy when we finally did get married because for about 2 months before our wedding date thinking about sex became that much more real and it felt like the sexual attraction grew more intense the closer we got.To make it to that point in my life as a virgin I had to set up some guidelines for myself, and after we were engaged, my wife and I had to set up rules for ourselves to make sure we made it, and I am glad we did.

If you are a virgin and would like to remain that way until marriageor until you feel like you have met the right person I do have some tips that helped me avoid crossing that line before I was ready. These tips are written with teenagers in mind, but with some modifications would apply equally well to the more mature crowd and to those who may not be virgin, but would like to avoid getting too physically involved too soon.

Principle #1: Avoid situations in which sexual activity is possible & likely

1)Avoid having a steady relationship while you are young. Date a lot of different people, but don’t become too tied down to any one before you are ready to deal with the consequences of a serious committed relationship and before you are ready to explore the possibility of a permanent relationship. The longer you are paired off with just one person, the more comfortable you will become and the stronger the physical attraction will become. You will also be presented more opportunities to cross boundaries that you didn’t initially want to cross. I used to try to follow the rule about not going out with the same person more than twice in a row.

When you are getting into a serious relationship you should also ask yourself a few key questions:
*.Is this the kind of person I can see myself with for the rest of my life?
*.Is this the kind of person I think would be a good parent for my children and a good companion for me?
*.Am I ready to settle down and commit to just one person?

If you are ambivalent about the answers to these questions you should probably avoid getting too seriously involved at this point in time.
When you are young, becoming exclusively involved with just one person has additional drawbacks. While it is nice to always have somebody to go out with, it gives some security, and facilitates becoming more emotionally and physically involved, it also limits your opportunities to get to know other people. It also creates a lot of extra unnecessary drama because you will in most cases end up breaking up, find yourself wanting to get to know other people, be confronted with jealousy and variety of other relationship traumas.I used to follow thetwo date rule.
I wouldn’t go on a date with the same girl more than twice in a row until I had gone out with a different girl. It made for great fun in my dating life and I got to know a lot of really great people that I wouldn’t have known as well if I had been tied to just one girl.

2) In general, don't make a habit of hanging out at other people's houses when there are no adults around.Seeking to avoid adult supervision is usually a sign of trouble.

3) Don't make a regular habit of trying to be secluded from everyone else. You are much more likely to cross the line when you are all alone in a place whereit is unlikely that somebody might see you.

4) Never go into a bedroom together,especially if you are alone. Stay out of his and he should stay out of yours. Just like number 3, you are much more likely to start fooling around when you are alone somewhere private. If you start fooling around it won’t be long before you are pushing the boundaries further and further.

5) Date in groups and try to avoid being alone too much.

6)Make sure the groups you are with share your standards. While peer pressure can lead you to do things you don’t want to, it can also be protective. If you have friends with high standards they will help you avoid and overcome difficult situations.

7) Stick to a curfew. Whoever said nothing good happens after midnight was right. The more tired youare the less well your brain functions, and it is not uncommon to run out of “other things” to do late at night.

Always let your parents know where you are at and who you are with. Also let your parents meet the people you hang out withand bring them around the house often. I know it seems like parents are the enemy, but they have been around the block a few times and probably can be helpful. Believe it or not, they were in the same kinds of situations you are now in when they were your age. Other adult role models can also be of help.

Principle #2: Avoid intentionally stimulating the sex drive

1)Don't do things that stimulate the sex drivelike simulated sex (grinding, dry humping), touching or rubbing each others' privates above or below the clothes, talking dirty and fantasizing together, etc. In general avoid lying down together, especially lying ontop of one another. Starting to explore each others’ bodies is nice and exciting, but should be reserved fora serious, committed relationship.

2)Technical virginity alone is not the goal. If you startfingering, giving hand jobs, oral, anal, etc., you really aren’t inexperienced any more and you haven’t saved much. Virginity, or chastity rather, is about more thanjust the technical status of a hymen being traversed by a penis. Engaging in other “substitute” activities will not keep you any more sexually pure than engaging in vaginal sex. They are still sexual activities so don’t fool yourself into thinking they are alright.

3)Try to keep yourself busy and avoid excessively thinking about or fantasizing about or stimulating your own sex drive when you are by yourself. Eliminate porn consumption and questionable media. Just remember “Junk in, junk out.” In other words, what you spend your time filling your head with will influence your attitudes and desires and eventually the activities that you choose to engage in.

4) Avoid heavy make out sessions. Keep kisses short and respectfuland limit the hand and body contact, especially with respect to private areas. Again, don’t lie on top of each other. Horizontal is hazardous. Kisses show affection, but they can also be very sexually stimulatory. At this stage I think I think it wiser to stick to kisses that show affection and save the arousing kisses for later when you are ready to enter into a more intimate relationship.

In conclusion, recognize your own limitations and thesituations in which you feel the strongest temptations, and make plans to avoid those situations. Set up some ground rules for yourself and your relationships. Date people who share common values and seek the advice of trusted adults, including your parents, religious leaders, and successful married couples you trust. Talk about the rules you have established with your parents and friends and rely on their help.



Source:http://www.girlsaskguys.com/sexual-behavior/a1742-how-do-i-stay-virgin-until-marriage

I refused to read this. Why? Ladies no longer keep their virginity.

All this things you outlined is easy and possible to do if only konji will respect him/herself

NIGGAS TALK MORE THAN B.ITCHES THESE DAYS... Who told this op that girls of nowadays wanna be virginz.

NIGGAZ TALK MORE THAN BIT.CHES THESE DAYS...OP dont you know virginity is now a burden

lalastica don vex

englishmart:
don't call it crap my friend. LOL
In nairaland best threads don't make front-page.
The naivety of our mods is abhorrent

Lalasticlala is a supermod..he takes his topic to FP himself.

Yeeeeeeeee
I no fit read all this, not this evening, I just don't have the apetitem someone should summarize it in 5 luines for me.
Hit like if you also need the summary

see as i dey use toothpick dey shook Suya shop
here,i come resemble Dangote

That is great. Muslims are already trained for this; they are the most critical sect when it comes to sex line, they are not only asked to refrain from those things that bring sexual sensation; they are also given the tips on how to avoid them, fight them and overcome them, all in their holly book, Quran. they are well immune against those things, they need not to seek people's idea; their Quran is enough for them except those who are Muslims by chance and not by choice. their attire, the way they dress is enough a testification to the assertion..

That is great pre-marital sex is sin.

chibwike:
Lalasticlala is a supermod..he takes his topic to FP himself.

I suspected so too. Lol
Ayamlaykorn

He is afraid,
He is very afraid of...

Aisha abeg bring me ur pu**sy make i do d needful jawe, virgin kho vagina ni, abi virgin dey make pesin bank account fat nii.....mtczheeeeew

You see, at that age I was not thinking of marriage and I was a virgin past that age till I got married in my early 30s.

I'd like to say something, i think the issue of this virginity is being overrated in this country. i am not against morality but for crying out loud, the fact that you are a virgin or not does not determine whether you will have a happy and successful marriage neither is it a guarantee that you will go to heaven after you die. If you choose not to have sex till marriage, that is your own choice and it should be no one's business. Sex has to do with an emotional feeling backed up with hormonal changes and as we tend to mix with the opposite sex and get attracted to them sexually, nature will come into play and the decision not to indulge does not make you more or less a super-human. Just take a look at Number 2 of Principle 2 where the OP talks about "Technical Virginity" where engaging in substitute acts makes the person less chaste. THE THINKING OF SOME PEOPLE. This is the reason why we have ritualists and native doctors asking for the heads of "virgins" because the matter seems to be overflogged here in Nigeria. Virginity is only a mere status which does not, cannot and will never define the moral standing of any individual. AFTERALL, THERE ARE VIRGINS WHO ARE THIEVES.

Lastnote: The Ugandan House-help who physically assaulted and tortured that baby under her care could be a virgin

Lol
for dis our generation !!

loll......am a virgin......and by fire by thunder my wife also must be a virgin......I JUST PRAY DIS DOESN'T HAPPEN IN MY DREAM

So who was the thread created for? People 've been deceiving themselves since 1900... Virgin ko virgin ni

You want to be a virgin? pacK go France,for here, my oga wife na virgin, my Oga na virgin and all their shildren be virgins

The only reason I'm afraid of 'doing it' before marriage is because it's a sin....
Nothing else!


I'm kidding

Am still a virgin abeg...

MarthaK:
The only reason I'm afraid of 'doing it' before marriage is because it's a sin....
Nothing else!


I'm kidding

Meaning ur not a virgin....

prince3009:
Virginity is only a mere status which does not, cannot and will never define the moral standing of any individual.

May God slap you with blessings....
Best post I've ever seen in my life!

nairaland and dry topics these days.. Im out *yawns*