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picture of ur white skin or idontbelieveit

Previous deleted. OP not serious

Which type of white ? albino or bleacher

well

omophunky:
Which type of white ? albino or bleacher

I'm not sure what you mean, sorry.

omophunky:
Which type of white ? albino or bleacher

Naija and their low mentality, shey u think say everyting na joke?

@OP, I have just one advice for u, since u said u are a Christian, pray abt it, if possible u can meet ur pastor, Bishop or Reverend for counseling.

God see u tru dear.

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The man's parents are looking out for the best interest of their son. However they're wrong to generalized their perception about women because of their race. To me I think the ball falls on your man. He's the one to make the big decision. If he believes you are the woman for him then I see no reason why he should be afraid of his parents to marry you. He needs to stand up and take charge of his life. Not saying he should rebel against them but he should be able to communicate to his parents why they were wrong about you and why he believes you're the woman for him. If he makes a firm stand, they would see reason and respect his decision in the end hopefully. After all, marriage is between a man and a woman.
I know this is difficult to hear but truly, it's up to your fiancé to decide whether to marry you or not. Not his parents.

Mystery11:


Hey, f**k off from this thread.

You guys should be serious for once, if you want a pic, take ur fone and get a selfie.

and who is dz idiot ? did I mention ur name ? common swerve ...

I pray every day for our relationship and for his parents acceptance. I am trying to trust that what happens is Gods will.

major466:
The man's parents are looking out for the best interest of their son. However they're wrong to generalized their perception about women because of their race. To me I think the ball falls on your man. He's the one to make the big decision. If he believes you are the woman for him then I see no reason why he should be afraid of his parents to marry you. He needs to stand up and take charge of his life. Not saying he should rebel against them but he should be able to communicate to his parents why they were wrong about you and why he believes you're the woman for him. If he makes a firm stand, they would see reason and respect his decision in the end hopefully. After all, marriage is between a man and a woman.
I know this is difficult to hear but truly, it's up to your fiancé to decide whether to marry you or not. Not his parents.

How do I tell him this without sounding like I'm unappreciative of what he is doing already. I tried to say similar earlier and he asked me "why do you say things like this? Do you not see I am trying". I also do not want to sound as though I'm making him decide between me and them, because I really don't want to do that!

Take this to the family section and I hope the traditional roles you have taken up already is something you can keep up with .

It would be bad if you are doing all cooking and cleaning just to be accepted.you don't start what you can't finish

If a man really wants to marry you, you don't need to do the talking or anything.......he knows the best way to sort it out with his parent.(from experience) BTW a grown matuted man at 34 can decide for himself although age isn't maturity

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zeb04:
Take this to the family section and I hope the traditional roles you have taken up already is something you can keep up with .

It would be bad if you are doing all cooking and cleaning just to be accepted.you don't start what you can't finish

If a man really wants to marry you, you don't need to do the talking or anything.......he knows the best way to sort it out with his parent.(from experience)

In african culture, a woman does not marry the man alone,she marries the whole family.Every body must accept you or your happiness in marriage is not complete.(From known experience)

Op sorry oh! You are paying the price for another lady's action
but like someone said earlier, try to meet your man's father. He will be in a better position to fix this delima.



Wish you the best

Elliespotify:
I pray every day for our relationship and for his parents acceptance. I am trying to trust that what happens is Gods will.

We are all with you in prayers. Things will change for the better.

How do I tell him this without sounding like I'm unappreciative of what he is doing already. I tried to say similar earlier and he asked me "why do you say things like this? Do you not see I am trying". I also do not want to sound as though I'm making him decide between me and them, because I really don't want to do that!

Don't say anything to him about his parents. Let him deal with them his own way so he wouldn't get stressed out. Trust him to do his best for both of you.

Thank you all for your kind replys.
I will try and meet with his father before they leave on Tuesday.
Do you think there's anything I can do? I have thought about giving them a heartfelt present and writing his mother a letter. I don't know if this is/would be acceptable - this is something I would do but I don't know if this would be seen as correct within the Nigerian culture?

Washin you dirty pant on naiaraland
Bad of you

Mystery11:


In african culture, a woman does not marry the man alone,she marries the whole family.Every body must accept you or your happiness in marriage is not complete.(From known experience)

Major problem that most be changed.
What we need:
A man shall leave his father and mother and unite with his wife and the two shall become one. - The book of Genesis


Not this:
A man shall come with his father and mother and all his brothers and sisters together with cousins and unite with his wife and the many shall become plenty in the family. - African Costum. This needs to be stopped.

Mystery11:


If you quote me again, I will e-slap you and reset that your low mentality state.

rubbish ...look at this mentally unstable slowpoke .....I just quoted u ....so u can hit your coconut head on the wall

thot as much

Eh yah
You sound like a very honest type and trust me I know and can feel one when I come around one.
I pray you get through with this.
You seem to love him so much.

Try to be respectful when you meet the dad. Trust me he will give you audience. Men can be reasonable.
Kneel down completely when greeting him.
They have had a bad experience and it is like a nightmare the second brother wants to do same.
It can be overcome with your manner and attitude to them.
Keep fighting for what you want and I am certain you will get it with time except of course the man doesn't truly love you.

When you meet with them kneel completely.
When you call use sir and ma often.
When you are with the man help him with his bags but I'm sure they won't give it to you but at least try.

This is because they seem the traditional kind of people and yes you can send in the letter and get them gifts. Ask your baby boy what they would like.

Seriously, I pity this condition and am wishing you the best in this. African culture is one that more or less desire that Son get married to a spouse pleasing to their Parents. But all the same, the approach we give to all situations matters a lot.

PRAY HARD about this

Keep going about your business doing good.I believe TIME will sort things out and everything is gonna be alright with you.

It is well dear

This is one of the problems they have - his brothers wife does not bring their children to see them, not only not to Nigeria but she also doesn't bring them when they are in the UK. She never calls them either.
This is not what I would do, I think it is awful! Even if I did not like the parents I would call them frequently so they could have contact with their children, and I would travel as much as possible so that our children would know that part of them, just as I would want them to know my Italian culture and family.

I will continue to pray

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major466:
The man's parents are looking out for the best interest of their son. However they're wrong to generalized their perception about women because of their race. To me I think the ball falls on your man. He's the one to make the big decision. If he believes you are the woman for him then I see no reason why he should be afraid of his parents to marry you. He needs to stand up and take charge of his life. Not saying he should rebel against them but he should be able to communicate to his parents why they were wrong about you and why he believes you're the woman for him. If he makes a firm stand, they would see reason and respect his decision in the end hopefully. After all, marriage is between a man and a woman.
I know this is difficult to hear but truly, it's up to your fiancé to decide whether to marry you or not. Not his parents.

Let us be realistic. Ah ah.
But you know how important parents approval is. At least in Africa.

frankmoney:
rubbish ...look at this mentally unstable slowpoke .....I just quoted u ....so u can hit your coconut head on the wall

Mystery11:

If you quote me again, I will e-slap you and reset that your low mentality state.

NairaMode:
Eh yah

Please u guyz should stop all these....get serious.
This babe needs a candid advice, so don't use your exchange of words to derail the thread.

God bless you as you comply.

Who says you will not succeed.

NairaMode:


Let us be realistic. Ah ah.
But you know how important parents approval is. At least in Africa.

Yes you are right. Parental blessings is important. But the man's parents are wrong to judge this lady because of experience with the other son's wife of the same race.

adebayour26:






Please u guyz should stop all these....get serious.
This babe needs a candid advice, so don't use your exchange of words to derail the thread.

God bless you as you comply.

Oga, I am not so immature to just drop "Ehyah" on a thread like this.
I was moved and I wanted to think before typing and so she could see my advice easily.
You should have ignored though and just focus on the purpose of the thread.
I guess you are a teacher right?

NairaMode:


Oga, I am not so immature to just drop "Ehyah" on a thread like this.
I was moved and I wanted to think before typing and so she could see my advice easily.
You should have ignored though and just focus on the purpose of the thread.
I guess you are a teacher right?