DavidDylan:

pretty nice soundbite but it misses the KEY ingredient in marriage . . . unselfish love. What's wrong with building something FOR my mate? What if ur mate somehow couldnt help with family finances for unknown reasons . . . u'll chuck him out and find someone else to build WITH?

No you dont chuck him, because we have history together.  But to take up with someone who has nothing from day one is a no no no no.  Not when i already have my shit together, if i cant claim you on my taxes i aint supporting you.

I am talking about during the dating process not after marriage.  If hubby fell ill right now and could work i would build whatever he needed for him.  You just dont throw out someone you love because they are down, but you dont pick up the local homeless guy and make him your man.

Black women should consider Michelle Obama a much more significant role-model than confused but wealthy Oprah Winfrey. This will help them a lot!

DavidDylan:

Even Jesus said you shld be submissive to ur husband.

you must be living on a parallel planet.

[size128pt]LOL but there is a limit
No I don't live on a parallel planet, we just understand each other better [/size]

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cos they wanna stay single marriage is not for everybody abi na by force oga outlaw?

tRoOE:

[size128pt]LOL but there is a limit
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limit to what? Abeg be submissive to your husband joo before you start claiming "In Jesus name".

[b]The decisions isn't just on him, if we don't agree or come to a term than he can't do it[/b]The type of man i have, listens to me, my opinion is what matters, and Vice-versa
lol @cooking his food 1st, it doesn't work that way with us

Common sense should tell her to serve some drink to the visitors, and he can do the same

What you listed is not bad, but it the tone he uses that determines whether it submissive or not

What if a compromise is not reached?. . . .does that mean the decision should be left undecided?

The funny thing is that when the "left behinds" realise that they are almost "left behind" they now start to do what they should have done in the first place in desperation. Most of them now end up with low-life guys. Start cleaning up pews in churches and keep disturbing their pastors . . . . .shior!

RichyBlacK:

Black women should consider Michelle Obama a much more significant role-model than confused but wealthy Oprah Winfrey. This will help them a lot!

I see you are on a campaign.

tRoOE:

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The decisions isn't just on him, if we don't agree or come to a term than he can't do it

The type of man i have, listens to me, my opinion is what matters, and Vice-versa
lol @cooking his food 1st, it doesn't work that way with us

Common sense should tell her to serve some drink to the visitors, and he can do the same

What you listed is not bad, but it the tone he uses that determines whether it submissive or not
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my opinion matters but the final decison rests on his shoulders as the head of the house and what he says goes.  There can not be two heads, one person has to be responsible for those things, at least that is how i was raised and how i function now.  When the shit hits the fan he has to fix it too, so with that power comes responsibility and a real man wont buck under that presure but will welcome it.

I would never ever expect my husband to serve vistors that come into our home, i would feel embarrassed and would for sure chop off his head in private if he ever stepped into my terrorty to do that.

I would never feel comfortable with my husband serving me a plate of food, unless i was sick.

Does that make me a slave, I dont think so, i just know my place in my marriage and my worth in his heart.

whatever90:

@topic

because they want to stay single marriage is not for everybody abi na by force oga outlaw?

Who told you they want to stay single? Ol boy, you need to interact with Black American chics abeg. These women are looking for men like crazy!

Part of the problem though is that the percentage of eligible black bachelors is not impressive, relatively.

sistawoman:

my opinion matters but the final decison rests on his shoulders as the head of the house and what he says goes. There can not be two heads, one person has to be responsible for those things, at least that is how i was raised and how i function now. When the shit hits the fan he has to fix it too, so with that power comes responsibility and a real man wont buck under that presure but will welcome it.

I would never ever expect my husband to serve vistors that come into our home, i would feel embarrassed and would for sure chop off his head in private if he ever stepped into my terrorty to do that.

I would never feel comfortable with my husband serving me a plate of food, unless i was sick.

Does that make me a slave, I don't think so, i just know my place in my marriage and my worth in his heart.

Karmamod and Trooe pls learn from a married woman.

olalacious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Women liberation. Women bitch-ilation and women take-over-lation.

RichyBlacK:

Who told you they want to stay single? Ol boy, you need to interact with Black American chics abeg. These women are looking for men like crazy!

Part of the problem though is that the percentage of eligible black bachelors is not impressive, relatively.

the ones have ive spoken with,aint interested in marriage

sistawoman:

[size=18pt]my opinion matters but the final decison rests on his shoulders as the head of the house and what he says goes.  There can not be two heads, one person has to be responsible for those things, at least that is how i was raised and how i function now.  When the shit hits the fan he has to fix it too, so with that power comes responsibility and a real man wont buck under that presure but will welcome it.

I would never ever expect my husband to serve vistors that come into our home, i would feel embarrassed and would for sure chop off his head in private if he ever stepped into my terrorty to do that.

I would never feel comfortable with my husband serving me a plate of food, unless i was sick.

Does that make me a slave, I don't think so, i just know my place in my marriage and my worth in his heart.[/size]

Chai! This is the kind of woman we are looking for oooo!

Make all of 'em single black ladies come learn from sistawoman!

Who is posting obama's pics there? Do you even know what's going on under his roof? The guy could be beating her black and blue for all we know.
Why do you think her face looks like that?

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Since more Nigerian men are complaining about Nigerian women, why can't they go and marry them? shior

sistawoman:

my opinion matters but the final decison rests on his shoulders as the head of the house and what he says goes.  There can not be two heads, one person has to be responsible for those things, at least that is how i was raised and how i function now.  When the shit hits the fan he has to fix it too, so with that power comes responsibility and a real man wont buck under that presure but will welcome it.

I would never ever expect my husband to serve vistors that come into our home, i would feel embarrassed and would for sure chop off his head in private if he ever stepped into my terrorty to do that.

I would never feel comfortable with my husband serving me a plate of food, unless i was sick.

Does that make me a slave, I don't think so, i just know my place in my marriage and my worth in his heart.

You spoke well
I completely agree esp wit ones in bold

whatever90:

the ones have ive spoken with,aint interested in marriage

Simple. They've given up! Guys are getting smarter in filtering out those women who are not wifey types.

They should remain single so guys can concentrate on those who are interested in living in up to that dream.

sistawoman:

my opinion matters but the final decison rests on his shoulders as the head of the house and what he says goes.  There can not be two heads, one person has to be responsible for those things, at least that is how i was raised and how i function now.  When the shit hits the fan he has to fix it too, so with that power comes responsibility and a real man wont buck under that presure but will welcome it.

I would never ever expect my husband to serve vistors that come into our home, i would feel embarrassed and would for sure chop off his head in private if he ever stepped into my terrorty to do that.

I would never feel comfortable with my husband serving me a plate of food, unless i was sick.

Does that make me a slave, I don't think so, i just know my place in my marriage and my worth in his heart.

[size=13pt]Good for you, abi whateva rock your boat jare, so enjoy

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DavidDylan:

limit to what? Abeg be submissive to your husband joo before you start claiming "In Jesus name".

[size=13pt]hehehe maybe in the next life [/size]

sillyboy:

What if a compromise is not reached?. . . .does that mean the decision should be left undecided?

The funny thing is that when the "left behinds" realise that they are almost "left behind" they now start to do what they should have done in the first place in desperation. Most of them now end up with low-life guys. Start cleaning up pews in churches and keep disturbing their pastors . . . . .shior!

[size=13pt]Oh come on, we have to reach a decision no matter what happens

Too bad for the ladies that ended up with the low-life men [/size]

see them ,all u men especially u men wt traces of "igbohood" in u una too like respect from women,haba

Sistawoman

I dig your contributions on this topic.
Big ups

Dark_Rxn:

Who is posting obama's pics there? Do you even know what's going on under his roof? The guy could be beating her black and blue for all we know.
Why do you think her face looks like that?

@topic
Since more Nigerian men are complaining about Nigerian women, why can't they go and marry them? shior

[size=13pt]True talk[/size]

All we are saying is that not even two Ivy league degrees should not make any wife-material to shirk her wifely duties, talk less of all those RNs disrespecting well-educated and responsible brothers

Just looking at Michelle's face, any idiot can tell she's running things in their household. There are a number of clips of Obama being corny with her rolling herself and telling him to 'sharrap". wonder if you can take that Richy

and I don't know why you are celebrating a wife helping her husband carry things. who(man or woman) would have a problem with such?

You guys exaggerate too much

like hens.

Dark_Rxn:

Who is posting obama's pics there? Do you even know what's going on under his roof? The guy could be beating her black and blue for all we know.
Why do you think her face looks like that?

@topic
Since more Nigerian men are complaining about Nigerian women, why can't they go and marry them? shior

Commoooooon. Barack the gentleman would not lay a finger on Michelle.

All I'm saying in those posts is that black women should seek better role models like Michelle Obama and sistwoman instead of people like Oprah Winfrey and Beyonce (I give her marriage four years - by 2012 she'll be single again; she's definitely not a wifey type).

Part of the problem though is that the percentage of eligible black bachelors is not impressive, relatively.

There's also the fact that 70% of them are in jail

KarmaMod:

Just looking at Michelle's face, any idiot can tell she's running things in their household.

and I don't know why you are celebrating a wife helping her husband carry things. who(man or woman) would have a problem with such?

You guys exaggerate too much

like hens.

Exactly. . . . .

And no woman would respect a man who does not respect himself. Respect respect, no woman has a problem with respecting her husband, as long as he doesn't drag her down.

Let me say, I'll never respect a man who does not respect me.

RichyBlacK:

and Beyonce (I give her marriage four years - by 2012 she'll be single again; she's definitely not a wifey type).

Reason?

TrooE
You cannot reach agreement in everything. Somehow someone has to compromise for peace to rain.
I am not saying it has to be woman but i do not that women has a better capability to give in if they are not out of this world than the man with inborn ego problem.

The best way to handle a man is to take in the analytical input of the man which he naturally has and mix with her passionate input to get a product.
I am not saying women are not analytical.
This is only possible for a woman of understanding dealing with a reasonable man though

agaba123:

Sistawoman

I dig your contributions on this topic.
Big ups

Thanks

I love love love being his wife.  And having had been married before to a spineless man who could not find his way out of a paperbag and having to carry the weight of a family on my shoulders for 18 years I was more than happy to turn that over to him and give him that weight.

What i do for him, that may seem submissive and slave like to others, is done out of love and respect for him.  I love to see his smile as i bring him his plate and glass of wine.  I love to hear him say my shirts are always ironed and hanging perfectly thank you iyawo you spoil me.  I love to hear him brag to his friends about what a great wife, cook, mother i am and how lucky he is to have me.  

There are so many rewards for the things i do for him that it makes doing it so effortless and easy.

RichyBlacK:


Commoooooon. Barack the gentleman would not lay a finger on Michelle.

All I'm saying in those posts is that black women should seek better role models like Michelle Obama and sistwoman instead of people like Oprah Winfrey and Beyonce (I give her marriage four years - by 2012 she'll be single again; she's definitely not a wifey type).

Somehow, I respect beyonce for sticking with her man, when others have gone through 5 or more.


Barack is a gentleman, have you lived with him? Have you spoken to him? Things are not always what they seems.

KarmaMod:

Reason?

You're still asking for reason. Jay-Z is just having fun. When Beyonce will start her foolishness, he'll just let her be and go hang out with Rihanna. Who has time for nonsense?

Dark_Rxn:

Somehow, I respect beyonce for sticking with her man, when others have gone through 5 or more.


Barack is a gentleman, have you lived with him? Have you spoken to him? Things are not always what they seems.

See me see trouble o! Are you now attacking the most popular man in the world now because he is a brother?

You black women!

Rihanna that has C.B?

RichyBlacK:

See me see trouble o! Are you now attacking the most popular man in the world now because he is a brother?

You black women!

Richy,

I have to agree with her, one can never really know what happens behind closed doors.

i had a friend whos father was loving and supportive and everyone thought he was perfect.  Behind close doors he beat the hell out them kids and beat on her mom as well.

Every closed eye is not sleeping.