kandiikane:




I agree with confronting the man rather than the mistress but for the mistress to come to the home to phuck him, nah mehn!

temigracie:
Confronting the mistress is not the best option. Or if the relationship is really getting out of hand, you can decide to call or meet the mistress personally. In this case, you won't confront, abuse or rain insult on her. Just make sure you sit tete-a-tete about this is affecting your marriage and children.


Before meeting the mistress, try all your possible best to know what has gone wrong. Ask your husband what you are not doing right. Try and find out what he admire in the mistress that's not in you. Improve your dressing and package. Most importantly, work on yourself.

Don't nag. Call him, rain praises on him, pet him,make him fall in love with you all over again.

kandiikane:


Riggggght!! So if a man cheats on you praise him, pet him etc? This is like feeding a spoilt little brat candy when they throw tantrums. Nice! Encouraging spoilt behaviour

temigracie:


Hmmmmm....


How about if he is cheating because of my bad behaviour?... Maybe you are interpreting me wrongly. Praising him or petting him goes a long way, it ll soften his heart. Make him come back to me and withing that period I can conclude on what and where the problem lies and the way forward.

Do you know that sometimes, women don't need to prove to their men that they are right when dragging some issues. You need to keep quiet and ask like mumu just to allow peace reign.

temigracie:


Hmmmmm....


How about if he is cheating because of my bad behaviour?... Maybe you are interpreting me wrongly. Praising him or petting him goes a long way, it ll soften his heart. Make him come back to me and withing that period I can conclude on what and where the problem lies and the way forward.

Do you know that sometimes, women don't need to prove to their men that they are right when dragging some issues. You need to keep quiet and ask like mumu just to allow peace reign.

lalasticlala:
yomieluv what do u think?

Yomieluv:
why confront the mistress,when you can actually work on the husband.

As a wife,check your deficiency,try to work on it,rather than give the mistress something to hold on to,by seeing the wife as a weakling.

kandiikane:


There is no reason for one to cheat, the fact that you nag is not a good enough reason. This mentality is why men will cheat and blame it on you. What you are doing is encouraging him, if he cheats and you give him treats, he won't see anything wrong with what he is doing.

I am sorry I don't believe you have to act like a mumu for peace reign just because you are a woman. If something is wrong then you have to make sure he knows and that you are unhappy with it. If a situation arises and you need to be firm to put a stop to it, i don't see why you have to compromise your happiness for a partner who just don't give a shyt. Both parties should compromise and try to meet each other halfway, a relationship is made up of two people and both people should work together on whatever goals they are trying to achieve. When a person cheats they do so out of their own freewill. If anyone tells you they cheated because of you, just give them one resounding slap to correct their brain settings. Stop encouraging bad behaviour!

temigracie:
In this case, you won't confront, abuse or rain insult on her. Just make sure you sit tete-a-tete about this is affecting your marriage and children.

Improve your dressing and package. Most importantly, work on yourself.

Don't nag. Call him, rain praises on him, pet him,make him fall in love with you all over again.

Mizchief:
This can only happen in nollywood movies


Improve 'dressing and package' when he has already been fed efo riro and amala?


This is another scene from a nolywood movie

Smh @ petting husband et al.
Nowadays wey babes,both married and single eye dey shook for money and attention. Look,in our present naija,out of 100 girls on the streets, like 80 are into Voodoo to get men,especially success full men.When your Darling husband start s beating you up, scolding your kids,drinking and keeping late night all because of some women,something is wrong.When he starts renting house for his mistress, leaving town for days to be with her both home and abroad you go still dey fast and pray?(esp when you know its getting worst).That your caring husband now no longer even buy you good things but spends all his money on a small I Ashawo,you go still dey beg and pet am?When every little thing you do disgusts him and you say LYNPETRA will just pray,pet and beg him?I will that,he is my husband.I will pray ,I will fast,I will him,I go fucccck am well well,I will beg him to forgive me for any wrong doing,I will cook his dish and serve his best proteins,I will beg to massage his tired body, I will stretch his toes,I will take care of him and his kids,I will never cheat him,I will ignore his shortcomings especially when he tells me the truth. But the day he raise his hands to beat me because another 'towtow' or he stops being responsible to me and his kids, I GO WAKA FOR HIM HEAD.THAT WINCH WEY HIM CHOP FOR ANOTHER WOMAN KPEKUS,HE GO VOMIT AM.HE IS MY HUSBAND,HIM HEAD MUST ENTER HOUSE.HIV STD is not my portion.That will never happen,I Go ENTER BUSH. WHERE SOLUTION DEY NA THERE I GO GO,AS LONG AS I KILL NO PERSON.HIAN!!!OKWANU DIM!!!that mistress that choose to eat and still want my husband entirely to herself, double greed,the day my husband sees her,na masquerade him go see @ the next meeting.The speed wet him go take enter car rush go meet him wife wud be legendary!!! Some men are just dogs but rather deal with both the dog and the greedy BIT,CH.Housewives be wise!!!! Mistresses of these days are very diabolic.I know what my mom suffered.

FrancisTony:
Why would a man in his right sense have a mistress at first?

Why would a woman in her right sense keep mute after knowing?

In as much as I will act mature and ignore the mistress,there is a limit to what I can take ad a woman, especially when she calls persistently or message at night.Some ladies no just get sense,they don't mind blocking a married man in public functions when he is with his family.What kind of rubbish is that?Some men don't even find that funny at all. If tomorrow I am married,I will ignore but not for long.The mistress herself should be ready for me as for my husband,I NO DEY WORRY NA BENIN BUSH GO SUCH SOLVE HIM PRICCK PROBLEM.I GO PUT "OGBOLUKORKORMIYO"inside him banga soup ,after I don't hang the destiny if him priick for Iroko tree. As for the mistress, The day I mean DAT one We go naked fight for road, Na husband go be referee. If she beat me,no wahala.But if I manage beat am,I beat am reach ground naked.As for husband, e go wash pants tire.

temigracie:
Confronting the mistress is not the best option. Or if the relationship is really getting out of hand, you can decide to call or meet the mistress personally. In this case, you won't confront, abuse or rain insult on her. Just make sure you sit tete-a-tete about this is affecting your marriage and children.


Before meeting the mistress, try all your possible best to know what has gone wrong. Ask your husband what you are not doing right. Try and find out what he admire in the mistress that's not in you. Improve your dressing and package. Most importantly, work on yourself.

Don't nag. Call him, rain praises on him, pet him,make him fall in love with you all over again.

2romantic:



c question.

many men do that.

I knw of a young married pastor , he performs miracles & is rich, quite a small man not up to 28 years but he's always coming with different girls whenever he's coming for programs and he lodges in same room with d babe & bangs her. so no b new thing but na to play d cards well.

maxism2:
it may not be wise to confront the husband's mistress. If its inform of a dialogue, maybe but outright confrontational, bad.

my late uncle, his wife once confronted his mistress at a popular market. I can't remember the outcome of the confrontation but I learnt they both disgraced themselves there.

Then another occasion, he brought in another woman(another man's wife into his matrimonial home & claimed she was his long distant relative). At night, d wife who had her own room was monitoring them. He opened the door of the parlour small so that it won't make noise when the visitor would sneak in. The wife went and closed d door.
Later at midnight, d woman sneaked into his room & the wife woke up , that's if she was sleeping in d first place, she went into d husbands room, unfortunately d door wasn't locked, & she found d woman bouncing on top of the husband. She shouted & asked d woman what she was doing!! the woman answered that she was helping the husband to fight cold.
All of us in the house woke up due to d commotion.
The man just pushed the two of them out of his room & locked his door, leaving them to fight. It was an eye sore. Can't forget that, to think that the visiting woman was also married, left the husband in d village & came to help anoda married man fight cold.
Note: my late uncle & d wife weren't really in good terms, as she wasn't cooking for him. but d woman didn't want to leave d marriage due to her children. Thank God she didn't leave bcs she now has d last laugh.

lalasticlala:
NAWA O

Lilimax:
Not at all!.
I'll recommend the battle of the knee if you understand what I'm talking about

sexybash:
Been a mistress is far more interesting than been a wife I tell ya
And when the wife dies you step into her shoes in a grand style that time baba no go get power for too much jigigigy again

Papa die you continue to enjoy ya life

she suppose beat am add sef...

i trust my mama when my papa goes astray