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Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by poik(m): 3:56pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
[quote author=Sophyrocks post=27691226]That is the Nigerian context of a good african wife, a good wife material. she must be willing to put her life on the line for the sake of her family, most of the time for her husband. she must be willing to swallow all sorts of stds, must be willing to go through emotional stress for long periods using prayer as an antidote for any problem. The longer the stress, the more stronger and virtuous she is seen to be. My people, did the bible ever describe a virtuous woman as one who suffers? Is God in supporrt of the suffering of humans? She must be willing to be a deaf and dumb woman somewhat equivalent to a puppet or baby doll. Yet She must still be the one to hold the family together no matter what (now you wonder where the function of the so called 'Head' of family comes in). She must break her back and go through all sorts of iniquities so that she can be viewed as a 'wife material'. To the average nigerian, Marriage is pain, pain is love. That is why you see mentally unstable men who deliberately make their wives and even children, suffer. Sometimes it is done to prove a point. Such men believe that since their mothers suffered in the hands of their fathers, therefore, their wives must suffer. that is why you hear statements like "Our mothers went through this or that, why can't you go through the same"? Always comparing women with their mothers. My people, can two people from different backgrounds ever be alike? is it possible for two generations that are apart to be simiilar in choices and orientations? After going through all these stress and tribulations, she is still expected not to change physically but to remain a sweet 16 and her s*e*x*ual prowess in bed must be top notch. My people, is this ever possible? Anyone who reads this will be quick to sympathize and take sides with you. But the reality is that MOST times, this scenario of suffering according to you is the woman's side alone. A deeper dig will reveal something entirely different. When you say a woman must be deaf and dumb, deaf and dumb to what? We all know how desperately too much TV and westernisation is trying and succeeding at turning our wives to emperors and regents in their homes, and you expect the man to stomach it? When the ruling is done both subtly and emotionally, using all manner of weapons, only a gold digger wouldn't put up resistance. The fact that no two people from different generations will be d same does not imply that there are no benchmarks that are timeless. Challenging your husband under any guise is wrong and will be resisted. The proverbs 31 kind of woman is meek, hardworking, temperate, and considerate. I didn't add respectful. It is not suffering. And who says the task of catering for a home is not a suffering of sorts too? |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 3:59pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
[quote author=poik post=27779842][/quote] why are you requoting me? Answer my question truthfully. why are you dodging? do you have something to hide? are you a perfect man or not? 1 Like |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by vanitty: 7:32pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
All that matters is that you spend quality time with your family. I am very time conscious, I understand the concept of time and please everything I can do to cut corners and spend some private time with hubby and quality time with the kids, you best believe it I am cutting with all guns blazing. Why would I want to hand wash a whole load of laundry etc.all because I want to be seen as good, we get who we deserve truly because I trust my hubby, he will be like who send you message 4 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by londoner: 12:22pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
vanitty: Agreed 1000 % |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by ajuwarhodes(f): 8:09pm On Nov 08, 2014 |
Bitojoe: He shld go and marry her because of pounded yam na 3 Likes |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by soulglo: 9:41pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
ajuwarhodes: ROTFLMAO. Some people will write pounded yam into their marriage vows. Nonsense |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 1:10pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
soulglo: When are you going to make some pounded yam for me? |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by soulglo: 2:55am On Nov 13, 2014 |
SirShymex: Too busy pounding for my boss |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 4:20am On Nov 13, 2014 |
Nashville: Love your write up...really did. I'm not sure you got the facts straight about US women preferring no epidural, when in fact there is campaigning done to deter women as it is, much as 75% use epidural, pitosin is over prescribed and breastfeeding isn't mainstream. 1 Like |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 1:39pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
soulglo: Pounding what, though? A lot of things get pounded these days yano. Er, don't say - so you do have a big boss, despite the bosslady trait you show on here, no? Domesticating a lioness has always been my dream, now I know you can be tamed. 1 Like |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by tpia6: 1:43pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
Why does shymexx derail every thread he posts on? 1 Like |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 1:50pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
tpia6: I'm just not coachable, and even Phil Jackson can't coach me. The world is mine, tpia - and I'm just out for presidents to represent me. |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by tpia6: 1:52pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
1 Like |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 2:06pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by tpia6: 2:34pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
Lol |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 3:03pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
tpia6: Lol, I'm so elated I made you laugh cos you never smile. Darn! I'm the new Dave Chappelle before his trip to Africa! |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by tpia6: 3:45pm On Nov 13, 2014 |
lol |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by soulglo: 3:56am On Nov 16, 2014 |
SirShymex: It's very obvious you want a lioness to tame for some reason it's obvious. Sad thing is you can't handle it. You'd be eaten raw. Leave the lionesses for the calm wiser ones |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 1:20pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
soulglo: Lmao...why do you like taking shots at the throne, rather than respect it? I like the feistiness, though. And like Shakespeare said, "Modest doubt is called the beacon of the wise." Er, you think you know but you don't know. Just stick to the simplicity of understanding cos knowing is complicated. Anyway, the lioness can run faster, running farther is the name of the game. And if the waiting game is too long, you just feed the lioness, and both the predator and prey will live happily together. |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by soulglo: 1:50am On Nov 17, 2014 |
SirShymex: Awwww. And herein lies the problem. You wouldn't know how to feed a lioness. Not taking shots oh. You wouldn't do well with a lioness |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Nobody: 3:11pm On Nov 17, 2014 |
soulglo: Lol, you need to bring that adjective that stole my e-heart into it. The lioness craves satisfaction in that department the most. Once you feed it properly in that aspect, every other thing will fall into place as long as orderliness can be maintained. |
Re: Does Being A " Good African Wife"= Suffering? by Glo2Glory(f): 9:04pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
[quote author=scribble post=27704657]the only logical reason for a man complaining about yam pounder is he cannot deal with the cost of the machine I bought one the other year, cost like 50k but the convenience it brings is amazing if dish washer dey, by all means she should use that too she can spend her time more efficiently, nothing wrong with that if she is watching telemundo (for the love of God ) then she is giving me ME time, which is always desirable[/quote] pls wats d make of ur pounding machine? |
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