dein77:
God knows I'm really enjoying my marriage. It was a bit rusty at the beginning, but now the rough edges are no more.

God, I receive more wisdom and humility today.

EfemenaXY:

Lol!
They do? Shouting over what na?

EfemenaXY:

Lol!
They do? Shouting over what na?

moca:
Yes o!
Im a man and can testify that marriage has been good to me.
Any question,feel free to ask and i try my best to answer honestly.
Thank u.
(Have been happily married 10yrs now)

aisha2:


How wicked and bad their wives are.
How feminisim is spoiling their wives
How the west is running marriages after all their mothers tolerated cheating and black eyes small slaps and ordinary affairs now these women will be threatening to leave
How unsubmissive wives dont welcome them with hot food even when they find them cheating pet them and kneel and ask them to forgive their inadequacy that pushed them to cheat. Thats how submissive women are supposed to " tame" them not all these gra gra efe them

Godmystrength:
like birth control stuffs/family planning

sorry my question was incomplete..

I should be adding whether it would be wrong for that woman to be on birth control pills/family planning without her husband's consent

***I have updated my question

LewsTherin:


The wife practicing birth control without the husband's knowledge or support is a wife practicing deception in her marriage. That's the beginning of the end.

Both of them have discussed and the husband still wants another baby. Well he is the head of the house and she accepted that when they got married so except there are medical reasons against another pregnancy, I believe she has to do nothing actively to prevent a pregnancy. She can ask God to change the husband's heart if she believes in that but she should not be deceptive about it. That's a wrench in your marriage you don't need

Godmystrength:
...... in fact, he is even praying for twins ...2 boys

aisha2:


How wicked and bad their wives are.
How feminisim is spoiling their wives
How the west is running marriages after all their mothers tolerated cheating and black eyes small slaps and ordinary affairs now these women will be threatening to leave
How unsubmissive wives dont welcome them with hot food even when they find them cheating pet them and kneel and ask them to forgive their inadequacy that pushed them to cheat. Thats how submissive women are supposed to " tame" them not all these gra gra efe them

Godmystrength:


and please i never mentioned abortion..(i asked the question and i know what i was asking). the other thread was talking about birth control pills. Thank you...

Godmystrength:


Please i never mentioned abortion..(i asked the question and i know what i was asking). the other thread was talking about birth control pills. And please do not bring the other thread into this. Question has nothing to do with the OP of that thread....Thank you...

shizzleStar:


Other than these, i think it is highly disrespectful and selfish for a woman to decide alone when she wants to give birth or not

Godmystrength:
where i first asked the question, i didn't mention abortion neither did i make any reference to the OP

Godmystrength:


Please i never mentioned abortion..(i asked the question and i know what i was asking). the other thread was talking about birth control pills. And please do not bring the other thread into this. Question has nothing to do with the OP of that thread....Thank you...

LewsTherin:


It's actually quite easy Efe. I consider myself to be a very lazy person. But like Bill Gates once said, when he needs a job done urgently, he looks for a lazy person to do it because a lazy person will always look for the easiest way to do anything. I am that kind of lazy person. Acting like a "man" is so much hard work. I can't stress myself to be a "man". So I choose to be a lover, a husband, a nice guy. So much easier.

Godmystrength:


Please i never mentioned abortion..(i asked the question and i know what i was asking). the other thread was talking about birth control pills. And please do not bring the other thread into this. Question has nothing to do with the OP of that thread....Thank you...

Godmystrength:
I am not talking about deception.. It is about whether the wife can still go ahead to be on pills without the husband's consent if after discussing and telling him and letting him know and he still refuses to give consent...because some people already said that the wife MUST not be on pills without the husband's CONSENT even if he is aware of it.... He MUST give CONSENT. so no CONSENT, no PILLS??

mygeeZ:
I reside and do my business in Lagos while my wife work in Owerri Imo state.
We are married for 5yrs with two kids(girls 3yrs/6months and 1yr6months), She took her annual leave and visited with the kids.
I was having in mind to at least get her pregnant cos i really need a male child to seal the deal. She stayed close to 2months, Just yesterday as i was searching her bag, i found out that she has been using Postnior 2.
I felt betrayed and annoyed, i have not confronted her yet but am waiting to give the Pack at the park tomorow cos she will be going back.
Honestly am devastated and cant just believe she can use such drugs without my consent. I need ur suggestions..

EnlightenedSoul:


Is it not selfish and disrespectful for the husband alone to decide when and if the wife will birth?

2CatWoman:
This was the guys initial post

LewsTherin:
1. How is communication in your home? Do you all talk about issues and an agree or do you say what you want and madam has no option but to obey?

I'm not much of a talker. My Lady is tho'. But we talk about everything from the colour of our outfits (we colour coordinate everyday) to her issues with my dad. For decisions, we discuss and try to reach a mutually acceptable outcome. Sometimes someone has to give in for the other but hey, who cares. On my part, I follow Ice T's policy of "happy wife, happy life"

2. How do you handle finances? Do you work together or is it one persons sole responsibility?
We run a business together. I pay our salary jointly into my account. We have a joint account we use for savings and major expences like the new car etc. But she has the PIN of my debit card. My Lady knows all she needs to do is point and I get whatever it is for her but I may try to talk her out of some expenditures every now and then. Basically, we discuss before every expenditure or al most immediately after.

3. As the head of the home how are conflicts handled? Do you address them as they come or do you ignore her and hope she comes to her senses?
How are conflicts handled? With lots of common sense! Ephesians 4:6 tells us not to let the sun go down on our anger so we try to settle as quickly as possible. That's not to say I don't lead my home. But I don't need to act loke a drill sergent to know I'm leading my home. I like asking for her opinion on things. We see issues very very differently so her advice gives me alternate insights

4. As head of home how do you keep the romance fresh? Date nights? Surprise gifts or did all that end after the wedding lol.
Wednesday is date night. Not easy to surprise when we do all expenditures together tho but we try.

5. Whats your policy on extended family? Do they come first or does the immediate family come first?
My wife first. My daughter next. Anyone else in order of urgency. Tho we do give preference to our parents and siblings

shizzleStar:
I never said its a sole decision for the man to make, the reason i used agreed...and if you read my comment very well and understood it, you'll see i gave instances where each party may not have the justification to decide alone

dein77:
God knows I'm really enjoying my marriage. It was a bit rusty at the beginning, but now the rough edges are no more.

God, I receive more wisdom and humility today.

shizzleStar:
I never said its a sole decision for the man to make, the reason i used agreed...and if you read my comment very well and understood it, you'll see i gave instances where each party may not have the justification to decide alone