There is this guy who is two years older than me so I assumed he was a matured guy but dam I was so wrong.

I met him this year because we were in the same class. The guy was shy when we spoke. Long story short he came to me and confessed that he had feelings for me like two months ago and would like us to be together ...

I told him I admire his bravery for telling me how he feels but I wasn't looking to start any relationship because its almost the end of the year but I wouldn't mind being friends (Dont give me that look ... yes I friendzoned him)

He would ask to come over and chill but I always had an excuse...I didnt want awkward moments. Two weeks back I asked him to come fix something on the pc so he did and we chilled after he was done. Very good conversation...nothing awkward.

Next day around 8pm I get a message from him saying I miss you, please can I spend the night ... I lost it, I wanted to go all crazy on his ass but I just calmly asked him to explain. Without any remorse he just said that we would get snacks, watch a movie and he would sleep over!
I was so angry and insulted! what made him think he could just ask me something like that and I would agree? Did I look easy to him?

I know you will attack me for this but usually if a guy likes me and I have no feelings I ignore him completely so by asking if we could be friends I adjusted my usual method and this is what I get If a woman invites you to her room that is not an invitation for anything else.

He didnt apologize when i told him how it made me feel, he just said but you knew how i felt from the beginning! I have been ignoring him for two weeks now.

Is it ok for him to have asked me to spend the night? ... besides having poor game I guess he had nothing to loose

Am I over reacting?

Why would a guy do this? (except for the obvious) ... what gave him the green light?

Ps: I dont really dress provocatively...I swear. When he came over I was wearing a long boobtube maxi dress... nothing suggestive about that

Women are very complex and complicated creatures......poor him

Wolenice:
Women are very complex and complicated creatures......poor him

Why poor him? How does a guy just ask a girl for sex when he isnt even dating her... you can lure a woman into sex but to blatantly ask for it

I toUght we were in the 21st century

Yea clearly you over reacted

Kinkybraids:


Why poor him? How does a guy just ask a girl for sex when he isnt even dating her... you can lure a woman into sex but to blatantly ask for it

you didint mention sex oo you only said he asked to come over
Do you know if he meant that in and innocent way

Its obvious dat he want ur body.
You guys are not dating,and he want to sleep over...

samflexxy:
you didint mention sex oo you only said he asked to come over
Do you know if he meant that in and innocent way

He asked to spend the night...sleep over... in my head that equates to him asking for sex ... and back in the day when people werent so bold to say can I come over for a F**k ...that's how guys would ask

mizzkeji44:
Its obvious dat he want ur body.
You guys are not dating,and he want to sleep over...

Thank you...all the men here are making me feel crazy but thats what I thought too.

samflexxy:
I toUght we were in the 21st century

Yea clearly you over reacted

Ok so theres nothing about what he said that is insulting? I took it as him thinking im cheap... what fool asks a woman that. By being nice and friendly to him does it imply im open to sex?

Pls how Old are U, OP

Just tell Us U r missing him, and we will tell U what to do..

U ave been ignoring him for 2 weeks, so what else do u want? U r now coming here to Complain.. Are U this stūpid Or U r just naturally Stūpid

Lol. Op you should have asked him to come over. Boil hot water, add a generous amount of cameroon pepper and wait by the gate for him with a bucket-full of it.











on a serious note, maybe the guy didnt mean anything, maybe he actually meant something. If i were in your shoes, i wouldnt come down hard on him. I will politely give him a tangible excuse and that settles it.

u sound b.f u lyk d guy in question, jez dat u've vowed nt to cheat on ur b.f.
i av a feeling dat u av feeling remorseful 4 declining is request.

u sound as if u lyk d guy in question, jez dat u've vowed nt to cheat on ur b.f.
i av a feeling dat u r feeling remorseful 4 declining his request.

Bimfo:
Pls how Old are U, OP

Just tell Us U r missing him, and we will tell U what to do..

U ave been ignoring him for 2 weeks, so what else do u want? U r now coming here to Complain.. Are U this stūpid Or U r just naturally Stūpid

And what exactly makes me stupid? Its funny how even an innocent thread attracts ignorant comments No offence

But if you must know I've got a bit of time on my hands and Im re-evaluating whether I was justified in reacting like I did... should you care to know

Mprex:
Lol. Op you should have asked him to come over. Boil hot water, add a generous amount of cameroon pepper and wait by the gate for him with a bucket-full of it.











on a serious note, maybe the guy didnt mean anything, maybe he actually meant something. If i were in your shoes, i wouldnt come down hard on him. I will politely give him a tangible excuse and that settles it.

you are actually right... I think my response was mean but guys just dont respect women at all these days. You know when i said does he think im cheap he just said he does that with his friends all the time. So just because one of his female friends agreed to such then its okay to just go around asking other girls too.

I think im just generally angry at how guys think they can just get free sex from girl... what has he done to deserve it nothing but fix my pc

Emodeee:
u sound as if u lyk d guy in question, jez dat u've vowed nt to cheat on ur b.f.
i av a feeling dat u av feeling remorseful 4 declining is request.

I actually dont like him... I pity him thats why im friends with him cause i dont wanna hurt his feelings. If i did like him my reponse would have been more playful

Kinkybraids:


He asked to spend the night...sleep over... in my head that equates to him asking for sex ... and back in the day when people werent so bold to say can I come over for a F**k ...that's how guys would ask

I get you 'but'
No he might actually be innocent have slept in a room with a female friend for almost a month and nothing happened
Learn to trust people don't judge a book by its cover

Looking at this from the angle of the gods. This is my take: O.p didn't like the approach he used to ask for sex; Simple.

Ooooh my God!!!!! how on earth is this one take concern me

He certainly wouldn't have made those moves if he didn't get the green light. Kinkybraids, I believe you owe him an apology.

him coming over doesn't necessarily mean he's indirectly trying to ask you to have sex with him. you clearly over reacted. Am not on anyone's side here. But he might have had a different motive when he told you that But then you Thought otherwise. I have female friends that I call to inform them that I wanna sleep over, then they ask cunningly Why? I just reply that Am bored. And when I get to sleep over, Nothing happens. But it's not applicable to all guys though, cause some guys can be funny.

Kinkybraids:


you can lure a woman into sex but to blatantly ask for it

next time tell him to lure you

Dear op, I really do understand your reaction to his request of spending the night over at your place.

He got such worthy reply because you felt nothing for him, whereas he thought you did.

The boy guy is a learner.

Do not feel bad for what you did. He looked at you to be a free thing. Such insolence. Next time he would think twice.

Kinkybraids:


Thank you...all the men here are making me feel crazy but thats what I thought too.

Dont mind dem.
Be bold and take your stand.

Rubbish.

Hmmm... Why do girls like to ask favours from guys interested in them but in whom they aren't interested?

The guy is very childish, but you gave him reasons to act that way. A guy asks you out and the best reason you could give for saying no is that it's the end of the year? Alright, the guy waded through the watery excuse and kept trying to spend time with you. You kept refusing. I almost applauded you at this point.

Then you needed to fix your pc, and didn't want to spend money. What better work donkey around than the guy dying for you? So you called him over to the same room he had always wanted to come to. Of course he came over, and you even chilled with him (hoping it's payment enough).

Tell us, what sign have you given him to know that you aren't interested in chilling with him in your room at night? You gave him the green light.

He obviously thinks you are indecisive and need extra push to go back on your words. I agree. He just didn't know when and how hard to push.

Brothers let's mind our business, it's better to see a movie alone than end up as a boy friend(friend Zone) not Boyfriend .

Kinkybraids:


I actually dont like him... I pity him thats why im friends with him
cause i dont wanna hurt his feelings. If i did like him my reponse would
have been more playful

r u a virgin? if u r nt, let him enjoy d benefit of friends wid benefits.
btw dn't u knw dat aving pity 4 a guy smtimes means luv? if u dn't, ask ur female folks.

Guys nawa for some of you ooo...
Make a mistake of inviting them to yourself and regret afterwards...
Is either they are stealing from you or belittling you to a LovePeddler.


Op except you like a guy and want a relationship with him then you can invite him to your house but someone you don't like, pls just keep him at arm's length. (Outside your gate till he gets tired of visiting)

Op,you are right with your reaction.The boy is a learner.

However,you are wrong with your title.Please put 'some' in it or change it to 'why does this guy think.....'