braine:


Patience is the keyword..

see coded correction. thanks for being diplomatic but i doubt if she got ur actual "point"..."patience" not patient

Good job Op.

In married,understanding,matters alot,and put everything in God hand.

adonbilivit:
see coded correction. thanks for being diplomatic but i doubt if she got ur actual "point"..."patience" not patient

Lol. I didn't mean it like that. I didn't even see it.

@OP

If the couple got their indices right during courtship. Their first year will not be filled with conflicts

justcallbuki:
we have bypass that stage and its getting better everyday!
Uhmmn never knew i will still b in dis marriage till now! Thank u lord for d perservarance n patient

who no well?

Having to choose between THE CHILD/CHILDREN and YOUR SPOUSE!!!!

Women always choose THE KIDS!
Men. . . . Choose OTHER WOMEN!

Marriage don scatter be dat!

God pls help us build a happy home...how can i have issues with my partner when the wisdom, compatibility and understanding are there for us....?

Marriage is an institution one never gets to graduate from,"till death do us part"...one learns every day- forbearing one another even till old age#hmmmm

Interesting thread for prospecting husbands like myself. I'm sure I'll need it for reference in future. Bookmarked!

If no be me beg that man(husband) your eye for done finish by now.... You too get big eye...

justcallbuki:
we have bypass that stage and its getting better everyday!
Uhmmn never knew i will still b in dis marriage till now! Thank u lord for d perservarance n patient

justcallbuki:
we have bypass that stage and its getting better everyday!
Uhmmn never knew i will still b in dis marriage till now! Thank u lord for d perservarance n patient

Lol, Na Prison U dey

You are on points but remove parental influence, only if you want to allow that, I almost experienced all of them except parental influence

datguru:
It is not my portion IJN

Who be this ?

8 challenges cha? Was that why my friend defined marriage as public toilet, while those outside are in a haste to rush in, those inside are in a hurry to rush out? Hmmm, God help us o..

No 1 is not a problem, she will do all d house work

datguru:



My brother, you need Jesus in every area of your life ooo . Even to be able to cook your soup well, you need Jesus not to talk of marriage

nkan nse e

braine:

It’s said that the first year of marriage is the hardest one. The adjustments and changes that spouses encounter as newlyweds topple almost every other period in life — you and your spouse may feel stuck between the couple you used to be and the married couple you want to become. Marriage is a big risk; it can guarantee a lifetime of love, fulfillment, security and satisfaction, but it can also lead to quarrels, abuse, loneliness and divorce.
Here are the top eight challenges that spouses may need to overcome in their first year:

1) Domesticity Problems
The first thing that springs to mind is anything associated with domesticity. This means anything that can be lumped into what we like to call “household chores,”like washing the dishes, doing the laundry, tidying up or cooking dinner. For many recently married people, sharing a house with someone else is entirely new. Trying to divide the tasks in a fair and even way can put an enormous strain on a relationship.

2) Financial Issues
Financial issues always crop up in the first year of marriage. Being married means sharing everything, spending money together,saving money together and dividing the income fairly. For the first time ever, you can’t simply decide to save up for a holiday or a new car; nor can you impulsively buy that new pair of designer boots. Your partner’s financial sensibilities have to be taken into account.

3) Romance Challenge
When you’re married, it’s easy to stop being romantic.There’s an element of safety, and the “you’re not going anywhere” mentality comes with a dwindling of the things that can make a relationship worth it; texting and calling from work, going out for a nice meal, flirting and looking good for one another.

4) Personality Differences
Living together means spending a lot of time together, so it’s inevitable that certainlifestyle differenceswill become abundantly clear. You might enjoy eating out while your partner might like to stay in and cook. You might like reading, and your partner might prefer watching television. It’s important to negotiate, compromise and find a balance.

5) Lifestyle Changes
As a married couple, the first year will bring a whirlwind of lifestyle changes. In your dating period, it was probably very relaxed, casual and fun. In a marriage, these things are inevitably combined withsome of the more boring stuff, like planning, working, stressing over money and sleeping early as opposed to going out and dancing. It’s important not to resent your partner for this.

6) Parental Influence
When you’re dating, it’s just the two of you. When you’re married, it’s the whole family or both families. You have in-laws to impress. You’ve taken their child away, so they’re bound to stick their noses into your affairs.Parental influencecan be a real burden on your marriage before you get used to it.

7) Unexpected Fights
The first year of marriage is said to bring aninflux of fighting. This is probably because you’re with each other all the time for the first time since your relationship began. Plus, the fights may have an intensity that they didn’t have before, and you might feel like you have fewer places to escape.

Independent Plans
It becomes easy to start acting independentlyof one another in the first year.Bound by the wedding ring, you might feel more inclined to make plans without consulting your partner. If you get into the habit of doing this early on, there’s a danger it might affect your entire marriage.

Marriage can be the most rewarding decision that you’ll make in your life. If you make it to your first anniversary, you’re halfway there. By establishing a strong base on which to build, the rest of your married life should be something you can anticipate, plan towards and look forward to.

https://mydayregistry.com/gifts/8-challenges-to-overcome-your-first-year-of-marriage/

only for Nigerians marriage ! Westerns will pass this stages during BF/GF stages

till then...
right now its business all d way

Now, the question is ''why did you get married''??.

All the same, whatever it is...never ever leave your partner, even in a fire... especially in a fire.

PEACE!!

We are in our first year but nothing in this write up is worrying me more than our baby's sleepless nights which is making me visit nairaland this early ...not easy at all.God bless our parents for their love and care.

Dat's true

First year was very challenging for my wife and I. But we overcame the issues..... With over 3 years in marriage now, its been going on well. God is helping us.

For new couples, stay committed to each other no matter the shock you experience in the first year.

Don't leave God out in your marriage. He doesn't intrude, so if you don't invite Him in to help you He will not come in.

With love and patience, you will pass the first year test. I did!

[quote author=Wealthycharles post=28019278]Points are well articulated.I'm 8 months old in marriage,with a pregnant wife one really need to b very understanding,tolerant and patient. My wife confessed I kill her temperament with lovin kindness and positive attitude and it makes her melt in love @ d sound of my voice....may God continue to endow us with wisdom and understanding IJN

Amen, marriage is all about patience and understanding and also standing in d gap 4 1 anoder, wen 1 partner is down or misbehaves the other has to be patient and understanding. If only wishes were horses I would have love to change smtins in my partner cos if we both get married with both our temperaments( we share d same temperament) den the marriage will not work out.*sighs* it is well....

[quote author=Pamcrest post=28018357]Op, I don't agree with some of your points. If d couple had a reasonable courtship period, they wd have faced some of these challenges n mastered how to deal with them even before they get married.
Don't be surprised that some of d challenges may even surface after many years of marriage....that's why u see marriages of 6,10, 14yrs breaking up n leading to divorce.
ure wrg,I hav seen couples dat dated en courted 4 up 2 5-10 years but r divorced within 2-5 years of marriage,d secret 2 marriage is God,patience,love faithfulnes etc.d lenght or width of courtship and dating has no influeuce on hw sucessful ur marriage is.most of our parents didn't indulge in long dating en d hav stayed 2geda 4 up 2 50years in marriage

i think am ready to join d train next easter

braine:

It’s said that the first year of marriage is the hardest one. The adjustments and changes that spouses encounter as newlyweds topple almost every other period in life — you and your spouse may feel stuck between the couple you used to be and the married couple you want to become. Marriage is a big risk; it can guarantee a lifetime of love, fulfillment, security and satisfaction, but it can also lead to quarrels, abuse, loneliness and divorce.
Here are the top eight challenges that spouses may need to overcome in their first year:

1) Domesticity Problems
The first thing that springs to mind is anything associated with domesticity. This means anything that can be lumped into what we like to call “household chores,”like washing the dishes, doing the laundry, tidying up or cooking dinner. For many recently married people, sharing a house with someone else is entirely new. Trying to divide the tasks in a fair and even way can put an enormous strain on a relationship.

2) Financial Issues
Financial issues always crop up in the first year of marriage. Being married means sharing everything, spending money together,saving money together and dividing the income fairly. For the first time ever, you can’t simply decide to save up for a holiday or a new car; nor can you impulsively buy that new pair of designer boots. Your partner’s financial sensibilities have to be taken into account.

3) Romance Challenge
When you’re married, it’s easy to stop being romantic.There’s an element of safety, and the “you’re not going anywhere” mentality comes with a dwindling of the things that can make a relationship worth it; texting and calling from work, going out for a nice meal, flirting and looking good for one another.

4) Personality Differences
Living together means spending a lot of time together, so it’s inevitable that certainlifestyle differenceswill become abundantly clear. You might enjoy eating out while your partner might like to stay in and cook. You might like reading, and your partner might prefer watching television. It’s important to negotiate, compromise and find a balance.

5) Lifestyle Changes
As a married couple, the first year will bring a whirlwind of lifestyle changes. In your dating period, it was probably very relaxed, casual and fun. In a marriage, these things are inevitably combined withsome of the more boring stuff, like planning, working, stressing over money and sleeping early as opposed to going out and dancing. It’s important not to resent your partner for this.

6) Parental Influence
When you’re dating, it’s just the two of you. When you’re married, it’s the whole family or both families. You have in-laws to impress. You’ve taken their child away, so they’re bound to stick their noses into your affairs.Parental influencecan be a real burden on your marriage before you get used to it.

7) Unexpected Fights
The first year of marriage is said to bring aninflux of fighting. This is probably because you’re with each other all the time for the first time since your relationship began. Plus, the fights may have an intensity that they didn’t have before, and you might feel like you have fewer places to escape.

Independent Plans
It becomes easy to start acting independentlyof one another in the first year.Bound by the wedding ring, you might feel more inclined to make plans without consulting your partner. If you get into the habit of doing this early on, there’s a danger it might affect your entire marriage.

Marriage can be the most rewarding decision that you’ll make in your life. If you make it to your first anniversary, you’re halfway there. By establishing a strong base on which to build, the rest of your married life should be something you can anticipate, plan towards and look forward to.

https://mydayregistry.com/gifts/8-challenges-to-overcome-your-first-year-of-marriage/

I can't share my money with my future spouse he has to borrow and pay back. House chores is not add but don't force me to do things only God can change me and why should I impress my inlaws am I married to them

After the first year experience, one should become wiser and device means to save for the new car. After all experience is the best teacher

zinny2049:
I can't share my money with my future spouse he has to borrow and pay back. House chores is not add but don't force me to do things only God can change me and why should I impress my inlaws am I married to them

We have to let our singlehood selfish character after marriage!! Especially you the ladies, coz you would be no longer alone; especially when kids start rolling in!

Nobody likes been forced to do anything, but then you'd seem lazy which I think your future husband won't like.

When you marry a man, you marry his family too!! You should know this by now. And you most definitely don't want to be on their bad side!