RotrEmmanuel:
Typing now and crying in pains and praying God should show me love and place me somewhere!
My father had two women in his youth age and both had children for him. My mom got married to my dad officially and had 7 children for my dad( 5 guys 2-ladies of which three died )

The other lady had two children for him(a guy and lady) but later got married to another man with three additiinal male children(Divorced now)

I just finished my NYSC program without a job and currently in my father's house.
I was not at home today but met trouble in the house that was linked to issues of my father's old girlfriend(married to another man but divorced) trying to have have access to my father's bedroom!
This woman has children for my dad and her son is doing well as a navy personnel!
I have realized in recent times that my dad no longer see me and my other siblings productive!
Fellow Nairalanders, is it my fault that I'm jobless ??
Is it right for my dad to abandon me, my mom and my siblings because we are from a poor background?
I'm so tired of my house right now, no cash, no place to go after Nysc, life is something else.

I like my other brother in the navy but this recent cases could trigger automatic hatred! I'm also planning to leave my home to hustle for life but where do i go and how do i start?

Advice Please!

Cutehector4u:
mehn i understand ur condition brother.... I truely do.... Why dont rapul with dat ur brother who is a naval personell into helpin u out in joining the navy also... He may advice u on how to go abt it.....

RotrEmmanuel:
we are not of the same mom and recently I was linking him to help me process navy recruit form with my OND, though I hold HND but financial constraints is an issue here. I have changed my mind, don't want to join the military through him again before something else happened.

Cutehector4u:
alright..... So do u hav any other thing in mind.....

gidjah:
You a Rotaract?

gidjah:
What course ? What hav u bin doin afta svce?

Kanwulia:
No, it is not your fault that you are jobless.
It is in your genes.
Go forth and multiply like your ancestors!

anthoniaz:
@Op:I feel your pain honestly, don't feel it's because you are from a polygamous home you are being seen as an unproductive fellow.Most parents are like that, I don't even want to bore you with my experience even though I'm from a monogamous family.
Look for somthing to do, let's say Tailoring, Phone/Laptop repairs or anything. Don't just sit at home and brood, there are people who have stayed at home for 6-10years without a job and don't think you can be a millionaire overnight, you have to hussle and by His Grace, the Good Lord will bless your hussle.My dear put pride aside, you have to start from somewhere. Did you save during your NYSC? No matter how small, use it to start up something. I have been at home for 6years now without a job but atleast I didn't wait for any uncle, father or mum before starting something and I thank God for where I am today.
Don't put your hope on man cos the'll definitely fail you.God will bless you, all you need is a step.

RotrEmmanuel:

Thanks so much for your advice and courage!
Actually I'm very jentle and pride is not a part of me. I saved some cash during my Nysc but my lil bro sucked it all Cox I was actually assisting him to gain admission!
I broke pass broken bottle now my dear..... but God dey.

anthoniaz:

It's well.Just look for somthing to do no matter hw small it is, it's better than sitting at home.

Kanwulia:
No, it is not your fault that you are jobless.
It is in your genes.
Go forth and multiply like your ancestors!

Zeemoor:
Op, you need to get busy with something
Idle hands are the devil's workshop

How about starting with a small scale business since job isn't forthcoming?
There are many good businesses with low investment

Kanwulia:
No, it is not your fault that you are jobless.
It is in your genes.
Go forth and multiply like your ancestors!

pamcode:
why does this moniker's comments like to be diff from the others and the comments are always downgrading or insultive

pamcode:
why does this moniker's comments like to be diff from the others and the comments are always downgrading or insultive

samtol4:
Get teaching job....since you studied engineering physics and Mathematics will bring money to you without much stress.

RotrEmmanuel:
yes I'm a Rotaractor!
I was inducted during " Reach withing to embrace humanity rotary year"
A dynamic member of Rotapolyunwana of Ebony zone all in D9140 Nigeria
During my service year, I was with EKET family of rotary club.
But I'm currently in calabar doing nothing, I lost out to the recent job I applied for in my state and several others.

RotrEmmanuel:
Typing now and crying in pains and praying God should show me love and place me somewhere!
My father had two women in his youth age and both had children for him. My mom got married to my dad officially and had 7 children for him( 5 guys 2-ladies of which three died )

The other lady had two children for him(a guy and lady) but later got married to another man with three additional male children(Divorced now)

I just finished my NYSC program without a job and currently in my father's house.
I was not at home today but met trouble in the house that was linked to issues of my father's old girlfriend(married to another man but divorced) trying to have have access to my father's bedroom!
This woman have children for my dad and her son is doing well as a military personnel!
I have realized in recent times that my dad no longer see me and my other siblings productive!
Fellow Nairalanders, is it my fault that I'm jobless ??
Is it right for my dad to abandon me, my mom and my siblings because we are from a poor background?
I'm so tired of my house right now, no cash, no place to go after Nysc, life is something else.

I like my other brother in the navy but this recent cases could trigger automatic hatred! I'm also planning to leave my home to hustle for life but where do i go and how do i start?

Advice Please!

gidjah:
was a member of D 9120 in my college days.you should begin to think teaching,though u do not hav edu cert,try big schools around u,they shall likely gv u an opportunity to manifest.try some rotarians around too,they can realy b of good help as they hav always bin.the only slot i hav got now is 4 a fed sch teacher but not 4ur kind

Chillisauce:


All these stories of my father's mistress, divorced ex wife blah blah blah is no problem, the situation is you getting a job.
Don't you have a friend you could stay with while you hustle a teaching job. You are probably getting free food in your parents house that's why you seem laid back.

Carry your bag, look for a friend to squat with, then go look for a job. Even if it means working for little pay to gain experience.
You are done with Nysc and should be able to fend for yourself.. Quite the pity party and go do something beneficial.

gidjah:
was a member of D 9120 in my college days.you should begin to think teaching,though u do not hav edu cert,try big schools around u,they shall likely gv u an opportunity to manifest.try some rotarians around too,they can realy b of good help as they hav always bin.the only slot i hav got now is 4 a fed sch teacher but not 4ur kind

ogawisdom:


U jst said my mind op is probably lazy n enjoying his comfort zone. He gets free food n shelter n still talkin as if his background is d problem. D real prob is dt u ve refused to quit ur comfort zone n go n earn a living. Ur father won't live ur life for u so free d old man at least he has trained u in sch.

Anybody dt is totally jobless is a lazy man. There is a lot things to do lik teachin in primary n secondary sch or even goin to construction site to do job man if ur ego ll allow u. U can also ride taxi, bus or keke on high purchase. Op go n hussle otherwise ur situation may nt change soon. Nothing humbles a man lik hunger but u r gettin free food n shelter n blabbin.

ogawisdom:


U jst said my mind op is probably lazy n enjoying his comfort zone. He gets free food n shelter n still talkin as if his background is d problem. D real prob is dt u ve refused to quit ur comfort zone n go n earn a living. Ur father won't live ur life for u so free d old man at least he has trained u in sch.

Anybody dt is totally jobless is a lazy man. There is a lot things to do lik teachin in primary n secondary sch or even goin to construction site to do job man if ur ego ll allow u. U can also ride taxi, bus or keke on high purchase. Op go n hussle otherwise ur situation may nt change soon. Nothing humbles a man lik hunger but u r gettin free food n shelter n blabbin.