Hello people. Please I will like the house or matured people here to help me on this issue. Must a guy who is working and lives on his own be married before he is said to be responsible?

I got a job sometime last 2yrs. A job that pays over #100k a month. And the typical me an not comfortable yet with it cos that's not where I see myself ending up.

The thing is, everyone, my colleagues, parents, friends, even enemies are of the view that I should go and get married. Am in my late twenties. 28 to be precise. To me its not the first or even among the first ten things on my mind. But believe u me, my parent are on my case. The worst is their is this single colleague of mine that has sworn to make the office unbearable for me. She's single oooooo hmmmm.

I once engaged her in an argument and she told me that I should get married no matter what. I said even if am not mentally ready. And my salary can't take care of me not to talk of another. She said that is why I should get married so I will understand life, that I and my wife will suffer it together.

I feel that wickedness. Why would u force people to get married when they tell u they aren't ready. We still mount pressure on them. The other day my mum got a girl's number for me. She's a medical doctor. But I don't care. I am not ready to

What pained me the most is if u tell them do they want to see u suffering with your wife and maybe children till u stabilise. You hear them say, that's the right thing that it happens. That it makes u a man?

Also they are of the view that am irresponsible since an not married. That marriage is the only thing that makes a man responsible. Please who propounded this theory?
Please nairalanders help me cos even in that my office its now like a competition, every young man there is getting married this year. And u look like a judas. Though I wanna get married when I get to 30.

Paddle your canoe yourself.
It's your life,your decision and your business...


As for the lady giving you headache in your office,It would only cost you N50 to treat her Bleep up,here's how it works;
Get a pen and a paper,write "I WILL NOT MARRY YOU",take it to a cyber cafe and print two bold copies,then paste on her office door and table..

I will get married but it will be when I want to. Society isn't going to pressure me to dance to their tune and later regret it. When the problems arise, you'll hear them saying things that will shock you and you would wonder if they were the same people who pushed you into that situation.

Take your time, plan your life and get married when you are ready.
And when you get married, have a good home and people would forget all this brouhaha that's going on now.