danbrowndmf:
Am a Victim of Long Distance relationship.


buh We hardly go out of Talk sha.

Let's make a support group

Nairaland LDR
I need ideas mehn.

GlorifiedTunde:


Very true. But it can be annoying at times I must confess. She should know how to say it sha not to try to threaten u

My Ex used to do that.

Not as a threat but as a sign of submission.

Infact all my colleagues wooed her. She was irresistible unless you no be man.

And I expect such from a wife too.

Because most men reason with their Dic heads..

Pamcrest:


Honestly my intention was not to make him jealous. I just thought our relationship had gotten to that stage where we could be open with each other abt everything happening in our individual lives. Boy, was I wrong!
My humble submission

That's the point! Wanting to be open doesn't mean that you you should go about doing things deliberately and coming back to tell him, expecting him to understand! You're indirectly telling him, by your action, that he's not doing enough to make you happy and contented in the relationship!

He'd naturally react because his ego is threatened when you start showing him gifts from other guys who are interested in you! IMO.

Oahray:
long distance?

Yep

Evina:


Telling doesn't build trust. It mostly destroys it. What is the point in rubbing it in your man's face that he's got competition? Men have big egos, they want to be known as sole proprietors. Why deflate the ego?

Not wise, if you ask me.

Trust me, telling him won't deflate his ego- it does otherwise.
it makes you feel like a boss... and others snubbed are sub-ordinates. It doesnt hurt!

MissMeiya:


Let's make a support group

Nairaland LDR
I need ideas mehn.

how do we go about it?

JustCare:

just the reason I followed you... seems you've read
could you pls recommend some of such books?

Hi there.

Considering I don't know your area (or level) of philosophical interest, it would be hard for me to recommend a title outright. I can list my own personal favorites, but you may or may not enjoy them - there's just so much out there!

Have you had any kind of introduction to philosophy? The book that turned me on to philosophy in HS was "Beyond Good and Evil" by Friedrich Nietzsche. I thought it was very intriguing, and I can honestly say it changed my perspective. Little known fact, the popular saying "that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger" was coined by Nietzsche.

EnlightenedSoul:


Loll what are you implying?

That's because being unbiased can be so dang hard at times

Nothing sinister lol just a compliment.

I know it's hard, hence why I can't give you a better advise. Good luck.

I dey tell oo, I dey even show am all the love messages from other guys. Cos whether I tell or not him still know say guys dey come. There's nothing wrong with it, as I feel oo

Hmmmm that will make me keep an eye on her de more nd reduce the trust i have for her

EnlightenedSoul:


Hi there.

Considering I don't know your area (or level) of philosophical interest, it would be hard for me to recommend a title outright. I can list my own personal favorites, but you may or may not enjoy them - there's just so much out there!

Have you had any kind of introduction to philosophy? The book that turned me on to philosophy in HS was "Beyond Good and Evil" by Friedrich Nietzsche. I thought it was very intriguing, and I can honestly say it changed my perspective. Little known fact, the popular saying "that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger" was coined by Nietzsche.

chai! ...I'm enjoying your company already! actually, I have been a private philosophy student and a researcher into the extraordinary with deep curiosity. I have read a little on philosophy and more on spiritual works...but I have always been a rational thinker, and a question asker who's been getting answers as well. Just give me a list...and be rest assured that I will download and read them, I will also get hard copies as necessity demands.
thanks... *heading to download Beyond good and evil*

Who cares Nairalanders, get a job and save up for d 401k scheme.

My 1cent.

MissMeiya:


Yep

em... That one go hard small. Requires alot of time, creativity, and at times fooling around. On how many platforms do you guys talk? If you just talk on calls only, you could try chat apps. Share random thoughts at random times, initiate role-play games. Just step out of the regular.

NB: Do this only for serious long-term relationships. Can be energy sapping when it doesn't work out.

MissMeiya:


That's not the reason. We've talked about everything there is to talk about. We know virtually everything about each other. We used to talk twice a day, every single day for an entire year, for at least 2 hours each call. At least.

What are you, my twin?! O.o

The things you say sometimes..

Rival:
Every relationship that has the prospect of blossoming into something tangible strives to have its foundation built on trust, love and understanding!

In this regard, would you, as a guy, want your lady to tell you about the guys hitting on her on daily bases so as to gain your trust?
Would you trust her more if she does this?

As a girl/lady do you tell your boyfriend about the guys that hit on you?

Personally I dont want to hear about it.

Normally I know that guys will be hitting on my woman. That's normal. She wouldn't be my woman if other guys weren't hitting on her.

That said, I see as an affront that my woman will tell me about guys hitting on her. Its more or less like she's threatening me and trying to say there are other guys who would appreciate her.

Rem like Keshi's brag about other countries waiting to employ him. You get what I mean.

ArtanK:


Nothing sinister lol just a compliment.

I know it's hard, hence why I can't give you a better advise. Good luck.

Yh, I know bro. Thx

If she tells me in a manner that makes fun of the other men...its cool by me

JustCare:

chai! ...I'm enjoying your company already! actually, I have been a private philosophy student and a researcher into the extraordinary with deep curiosity. I have read a little on philosophy and more on spiritual works...but I have always been a rational thinker, and a question asker who's been getting answers as well. Just give me a list...and be rest assured that I will download and read them, I will also get hard copies as necessity demands.
thanks... *heading to download Beyond good and evil*

One of my cousins made me read "Plato's Republic" which was more enjoyable as I got into it.

"Siddhartha" by Herman Hesse

"The Concept of Mind" by Gilbert Ryle.

"The Prince" by Machiavelli - I actually have this sitting in my room right now.

Might you be interested in Eastern Philosophy? Why not give these a try, and see how you like it.

EnlightenedSoul:


One of my cousins made me read "Plato's Republic" which was more enjoyable as I got into it.

"Siddhartha" by Herman Hesse

"The Concept of Mind" by Gilbert Ryle.

"The Prince" by Machiavelli - I actually have this sitting in my room right now.

Might you be interested in Eastern Philosophy? Why not give these a try, and see how you like it.

Thanks. I will get them right away

Rival:


Lol. Guy don't get it twisted, love is a beautiful thing with the right lady in it with you!

"Hitting" is used in the sense of trying to get someone laid, not the act itself!

Hehehehehe......
I wasn't far from it...tho..with a wrong conception!

It's not a bad idea... But!
Most girls will tell you how ...how many guys have been hitting on them..just to inform you that if u ever leave her...she'll get another guy in a jiffy!

But, that's not withstanding!
It's perfectly good to discuss it with ur man!

Oahray:
em... That one go hard small. Requires alot of time, creativity, and at times fooling around. On how many platforms do you guys talk? If you just talk on calls only, you could try chat apps. Share random thoughts at random times, initiate role-play games. Just step out of the regular.

NB: Do this only for serious long-term relationships. Can be energy sapping when it doesn't work out.

Relationship counsellor... Counsel on

Shugaryme:
Relationship counsellor... Counsel on

ah! She's feeling me

Medunah:
NO!!!! Are guys even worth it??

If guys aint worth it, goats? Cows? Donkeys?
Fine girl, we are all we got, im sure ud find a man worth it someday (or a woman, if thats ur fancy )

Oahray:
ah! She's feeling me

hehehe.. What are you na feeling like?

Shugaryme:
hehehe.. What are you na feeling like?

someone special enough to be the object (or is it subject?) of your special feelings

From experience I get to realize that girls tend to tell their boyfriend when they didn't agree for the cheap hemp smoker hitting on them on the street. But when the so called big boy hit on them and they agree they won't make mention of it. U gotta find out yourself or die trying. So OP shouldn't think that telling abt this is a sign of trust and sincerity. My ex always tell me about silly old men trying to hit on her... She did it so much that I started bragging of how much she loves me. The next thing I know she was pregnant for a guy next 3 street. The question is y didn't she make mention of the guy she agree to date? Y mention only the ones she ignores?

If only she will be sincere to tell me when she has concide any of them

Hmmmm interesting. Well, I feel it depends on d individuals involved and their level of understanding. I for one do not fancy it cos I don't have the strength for such show of jealousy...can be irritating sometimes....but then I sometimes intentionally tell him about some guy or guys hitting on me and how serious they are, just to let him know he has competitors and must not relax until he secures the 'gold' This does not in anyway undermine ur luv for him and ur commitment to the r/ship.

Oahray:
someone special enough to be the object (or is it subject?) of your special feelings

You are not serious. *rolling eyes*

kandiikane:

it is good to deflate that ego sometimes. Having an ego is not something one should be proud of. He should know that if he isn't treating his girl right, there are many others willing to do it.

GO ON KANDI!!!!

Lolarez:
....but then I sometimes intentionally tell him about some guy or guys hitting on me and how serious they are, just to let him know he has competitors and must not relax until he secures the 'gold' This does not in anyway undermine ur luv for him and ur commitment to the r/ship.

Seconded