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10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by keemtarn(m): 4:32pm On Nov 25, 2014
there are all sorts.of mistakes men make with.women without even realizing it.
MISTAKE #1: Making Your
Move Before She’s Ready
.
We’ve all been there…
You have these intense feelings for a woman, and
you think “If she only knew how I felt, she would
like me back”…
And if you’re like most men, you’ve tried this, and
you realize it NEVER works in your favor. In fact,
the very act of telling her your ‘feelings’ can be a
huge turn-off to women.
It’s much more effective when SHE makes the first
move, that way you can sit back and let HER do
most of the work.
In fact, a girlfriend of mine just said this to me the
other day:
She said “I’d rather be IN LOVE with a guy than BE
LOVED by a guy.”
It might be counter-intuitive, but when you’ve
seen the research on the differences between men
and women, you realize it’s simply our biological
programming.
Women are MUCH more turned on when they are
the ones chasing YOU instead of the other way
around
(Not to mention, it’s a whole lot easier too…)
MISTAKE #2: Focusing Too
Much Energy On Your Skills In
The Bedroom
This used to be a huge insecurity for me…
A few years back, I went through a pretty bad
breakup…
And because my ex girlfriend never told me the
real reason she lost interest, I assumed it was
related to my “performance” in the bedroom…
I got pretty depressed about the whole thing, and it
really hurt my self-esteem.
It wasn’t until recently I realized I had it all
backwards… Pleasure starts in a woman’s MIND…
Not in her body…
In fact, the first time I had a woman attracted to
me on a deep, primal level using Pandora’s Box, I
was able to get her off OVER THE PHONE!
MISTAKE #3: Thinking
Attraction Is Based Mostly On
Looks
Ever seen a really ugly guy with a smoking hot
girlfriend?
Of course you have… We’ve all seen it happen…
And even though I’ve seen it dozens of times
growing up, I STILL used to think that attraction
was mostly about looks.
Yet — it wasn’t until I was able to get a smoking
hot girlfriend for myself that I was actually able to
shake this belief…
I’m pretty sure the reason why men think this way
is because that’s how WE become attracted…
We see a hot girl with a great body, and hell…
we’re ready to get married!!
And so logically we assume that attraction works
the same exact way for women… But it doesn’t.
Not by a long shot…
In fact… if you’ve ever had a woman who liked you
but then changed her mind because you said the
wrong thing…
…it’s basically the equivalent of being with a
smoking hot girl who suddenly gets 30 years
older, gains 100 pounds and grows a beard!
Yup it’s THAT important…
I’d rather be a bald, overweight, 75 year old guy
with a deep understanding of the female mind than
a tall, athletic male model ANY DAY OF THE WEEK!
(Sure, everything else being equal, a chiseled
jawline and ripped abs will help, but it’s more like
icing on the cake… Without the actual cake there’s
only so much of it you can handle before you
throw up!)
Because let’s face it… no matter how tall, ripped
and good looking a guy is, he’s still REPULSIVE to
a woman if he doesn’t have a basic understanding
of the psychology of attraction…
MISTAKE #4: Chasing Women
and Showing Too Much
Interest
When
someone
says the
word
“chasing”
it’s very
important
that you
understand
what it
means.
When
you’re
talking
about
dating, the
word
chasing is
basically
understood
to mean
EMOTIONAL
chasing…
So this could mean anything from calling or texting
her too much, buying her too many unexpected
gifts, or even giving her too many compliments…
It’s more of an ENERGY thing above anything
else… It’s something that women can feel.
And trust me, women are VERY sensitive to this
type of thing.
When a woman senses that you’re CHASING HER,
here’s what goes on inside her mind:
“Ok. It’s pretty obvious I’ve got this guy wrapped
around my finger. And yeah he might be a decent
guy, but because I can have him whenever, I’m
going to see what else is out there first…”
You have made yourself one of her OPTIONS… And
let’s face it, if she’s an attractive woman, she has
plenty of options.
After getting to know many attractive women in my
own life, I’ve realized something that would shock
most men…
The average woman has no less than a THREE
guys who are chasing her at any given time in her
life… (and if she’s actively going out and meeting
people, the number can be MUCH higher!)
That’s why it’s so important for you to be the ONE
GUY that’s so valuable that SHE CHASES YOU…
MISTAKE #5: Not
Understanding How Women
Think
You probably already realize that men and women
think VERY differently from one another…
A man and woman can have two completely
different impressions of the same exact experience!
I remember getting stuck in an elevator with a
girlfriend a couple months ago, and after we got
out, I realized that while I was like focused on
logical things like how to get the doors open, or
how to get peoples attention if it was stuck for a
long time…
She was immersed in the different emotions of the
experience! She was experiencing fear, and at the
same time, forming an emotional bond with me
and the other couple in the elevator based on all of
us sharing a scary situation together!
The point is, while men’s thinking is dominated by
logic and reason, a woman’s mind is dominated
and directed by EMOTION.
And quite often, her thoughts and feelings don’t
even make sense to HER!
That’s why having a man who TRULY understands
the female mind on a deep level is SO RARE AND
VALUABLE to her…
…just like having a TOP MECHANIC is extremely
valuable to a RACE CAR DRIVER…
And even though Pandora’s Box was initially
created to develop mind reading tactics, it comes
with a STAGGERING side effect…
You’re going to know her EVEN BETTER THAN SHE
KNOWS HERSELF…
In fact that’s a big part of what I talk about in this
video
Ok moving on…
MISTAKE #6: Impressing
Women And Bragging
Flirting
Girl
Alone”
width=”237″ height=”358″ />I get it…
You work hard on something, you want to be
respected for it, right?
Yeah of course, we’re MEN. That’s what we do…
We get a promotion at work, we make some
money, get some nice things, or we create
something amazing, we want to let people know
about it!
That’s fine! You are certainly entitled to get your
fair share of recognition…
But there’s one big catch:
NEVER brag, or try to impress the woman you’re
trying to attract…
WHY?
Because to a woman, this comes off like a HUGE
insecurity… (or an insecurity about something
that’s not huge at all, if you catch my drift)
And even if you think you’ve got the most clever
way of indirectly letting her know… DON’T DO IT!
She’ll smell it a mile away… Women have a ‘sixth
sense’ for male insecurities.
Trust me on this one…
(check out the 3 questions that turn a girl on )
MISTAKE #7: Waiting For
‘Destiny’
Don’t laugh…
Now I’m not sure if it comes from watching too
many romantic comedies or listening to my mom…
As a young man growing up, I kind of always had
it in the back of my mind that ‘the one’ would just
someday magically show up in my life…
I’m dead serious here…
I really believed that if I just focused on my own
life, at some point when I was spiritually ready, my
soulmate and I would bump into each other
through some random chance and live happily ever
after…
What a crock!
The ONLY WAY you’re going to end up with that
AMAZING, woman who’s totally compatible with
you is to GET EXPERIENCE dating several different
women so that you can CHOOSE the one you like
best!
Ok ok… Now before you start calling me cynical,
on some level I can agree…
YES, it’s totally possible you’ll bump into your
soulmate while you’re out grocery shopping or at
the mall…
But when you do…
Don’t you think you’ll have a much better shot at
getting her if you know exactly what to say?
Yup.
MISTAKE #8: Being The Nice
Guy
When I was really struggling with women and
frustrated with dating this confused the hell out of
me…
How come women are always talking about how
they just want to find a “NICE GUY” but somehow
always end up stuck with abusive losers and jerks?
It never made sense to me… until recently that is.
I was out at a party with my girlfriend and a few of
her friends…
And after a couple drinks her best friend started
COMPLAINING about all the jerks she was dating,
and how she just wants to find a NICE GUY…
I asked my girlfriend about it later, and here’s what
she told me:
“Oh yeah, that’s just what girls are supposed to
say. It makes us look sweet and vulnerable to
want a nice guy… but the truth is, women don’t
FEEL ANYTHING for nice guys. So most of us
would rather date a jerk.”
Fortunately, you don’t have to be a jerk to trigger
powerful emotions in a woman…
MISTAKE #9: Making Excuses
For Yourself
(Too Broke, Too Short, Too Bald, Too Old, etc…)
Sometimes when I’m coaching clients, they’ll say
things like this:
“If only I were taller meeting women would be
easier… If only I lost 20 pounds meeting women
would be easier… Once I get my hair transplant,
THEN I’ll start meeting women…”
And part of me relates to that because when I used
to struggle with women, making excuses somehow
made me feel better about getting rejected, or not
getting the girl I really wanted.
I guess in my mind it was somehow not my fault,
and instead it was this external thing I really didn’t
have control over…
If you look back at the history of Pandora’s Box,
you’ll realize that most of the guys who did the
original research were some pretty old scientists
and college professors…
Old… Nerdy… Totally out of shape… Most had no
hair to speak of, and I think one of them was even
in a wheelchair…
Well these guys still wanted to date all the hot
young college girls in their classes. They designed
Pandora’s Box to be the great equalizer… They
wanted something that could give them a leg up
on the tall, muscular basketball players and the
pretty boy rich kids who’s parents were paying
their tuition.
Look, every guy on this planet has SOME
disadvantage, but at the end of the day, the guy
who ends up with that awesome girl you’re
thinking about is going to be the one who TAKES
ACTION without making any excuses for himself.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting
Help
As men we don’t like to look helpless or weak.
Most guys won’t even stop to ask for directions
when they’re lost!
A few years ago I had some kind of ‘pride’ in
trying to ‘figure it all myself’…
Sure, I had friends who were good with women,
but they were the LAST people I wanted to ask for
help… Not being able to get a girlfriend is
embarrassing enough!
I remember the day I asked out a female friend of
mine I had a crush on, named Katie.
My buddy Jimmy offered to give me some advice…
And I told him no, it’s ok “I got this.”
So I called her up, and when she answered, I
asked her if I could take her to dinner sometime…
She said “Sure, why not?”
And I said “No… I mean… As my date.”
And she started laughing… She thought it was a
joke! I played along, but we both knew the
awkward truth of what was happening. And by
noon the next day, all of our mutual friends knew
exactly what was happening too…
So yeah, it was embarrassing, but if there’s one
thing I learned is that you don’t get better from
getting rejected over and over.
Making the same mistakes over and over only
leads to more rejection…
And most men who never seek out advice from an
expert never really improve — in fact, most of the
time they only get more fear, more anxiety and
more nervousness as they get older.

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Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by orobs93(m): 4:39pm On Nov 25, 2014
Stupidity

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Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by ronald4lif(m): 4:40pm On Nov 25, 2014
Noted!
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by will1am: 4:50pm On Nov 25, 2014
Too long..
Someone please summarize the article for me ...
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by youngds: 4:53pm On Nov 25, 2014
undecided Another dude trying to make up for his low self esteem
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by agarawu23(m): 5:03pm On Nov 25, 2014
cant read all this trash undecided





























i gat homework to do
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by Exjoker(m): 5:14pm On Nov 25, 2014
With this long post my instinct told me that there are more than 10 mistakes on the list
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by Nobody: 5:19pm On Nov 25, 2014
Boring
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by Cholls(m): 5:38pm On Nov 25, 2014
My brother it is well with you sorry o. I can feel your pain cry
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by yinkeys(m): 6:55pm On Nov 25, 2014
Truth is Bitter. It's game tips though
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by constance500: 7:05pm On Nov 25, 2014
So y get married or be in a relationship at all undecided
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by festusfeezy(m): 7:13pm On Nov 25, 2014
And you xpect me to sit down and start reading all this s h i t
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by Adaeze003(f): 7:16pm On Nov 25, 2014
Errrrrm.... i'm black... n u know we don't like to read much wink

Poor editing btw....
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by prettyjo(f): 7:17pm On Nov 25, 2014
nawaooo
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by BreezyRita(f): 7:19pm On Nov 25, 2014
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by lanxlot(m): 8:11pm On Nov 25, 2014
op u try, if na 4 d typing alone...attraction does help in no sma way....what's attractive is loved.
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by pyyxxaro: 8:31pm On Nov 25, 2014
I would think about it

Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by kokoA(m): 8:40pm On Nov 25, 2014
OP, what is "deadly" about what you've written? Abi your life depend on women only?
Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by Missmossy(f): 8:55pm On Nov 25, 2014
Even your fellow guys aint understanding you undecided

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Re: 10 DEADLY Mistakes Men Make With Women They Have Feelings For. by solomonbrown64: 9:27pm On Nov 25, 2014
...Fantastic Write- up

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