Mynd44:

The fact is that there are no clearly defined signs called"green lights" it is just you reading whatever you want to see. For all you know, she might be acting the normal way she behaves but you see it as some kind of sign that she wants you.

If you want to take the plunge, go ahead but do not take it because you saw some signs that it means she wants you

Mynd44:

Whose DNA: Mine or yours?

ihedinobi2:

Bro, you can't woo a woman that doesn't want you. You can only harrass her.

Hmmm,,expantiate please.

UjSizzle:

In your teensy weensy sphere?

mikeomo11:

U'd better learn from matured minds

naijaboiy:

Hmmm,,expantiate please.

ihedinobi2:

The fact, ehn?

That's like saying that there are no clear ways of saying "give me cool clean water to drink."

All languages have a single root. One single code that relates every single language system. That's how we manage to make sense and communicate with each other.

The same thing with romance. The fact that we abandoned the old rules does not mean that there are no more rules and Nkechi can hang out with me all day everyday and call me about everything and mean nothing by it. She's just being childish if she does not mean anything by it. Childish, as in irresponsible or ignorant.

There are clear signs. If you don't mean to show those signs, discover them and turn them off. It's as simple as that.

ihedinobi2:

The human one. You could be some kind of sophisticated bot, for all I know.

Mynd44:

SMH...

JoeCutie:
Chei! Uju, which one be that na?

UjSizzle:

I'm saying unless you've studied women outside your sphere, then you can say 'most'

BuddhaPalm:
@ Mynd44

"Green-lights" are very very real - like your arm, or the device you are looking at, right now.

And they are not some 'nice' things another human being does. They are tangible Indicators of Interest - sexual interest. And can be consistently relied upon - if you know what to look for.

Actually, it would be quite weird if we didn't have them - other animals do.


As humans, a massive part of our communication is sub-communicated. Body-language, tonality, etc. And these are largely unconscious.

So most of our mating signals are sent and acted upon unconsciously.


What do most girls say after they've just had sex with a new guy? "It just happened". They are not lying. As far as they consciously know, it really just happened.

So those times you thought you saw a green-light, you most likely did, but what you saw was maybe, Step 1, in a multi-step mating dance. And this you cannot talk about, because she's largely unaware of what she's doing. Or more accurately, what is happening - because its her body doing this on its own.


These are the most common IOIs:

=> Eye-contact: if she repeatedly holds you gaze longer than normal: Sexual Interest.
=> Touches you more than normal: Sexual Interest.
=> Proximity: This takes many forms, and I find instances of this quite funny. She walks right into you as if you're a glass door - as in she go jam you . Crosses the road to walk on your side. Slows her pace, or increases it - so you guys cross...in hopes you will do your job. Drops something, or bends to adjust her footwear.
=> Aha...Preening: flicks her hair, repeatedly (no hands) - like she's some bird or packs it, to the sides, continuously. Displaying neck or revealing nape.
=> etc

But the biggest one, even in the absence of these, is COMPLIANCE! If she's compliant to your touches, invasion of her personal space, your leadership - let's go over there, stop that, sit on my lap; kissing, etc. She's in.

But your best option is to assume that EVERY girl you like, likes you already and will be interested - if she gets to experience you. So you give her the opportunity by going over to engage her.

In fact, if you're masculine, and she's there listening to you - on some level, she wants your cóck in her mouth, period. She just doesn't know it yet.

Even when she's standoffish, has a big scowl on her face and pretends not to hear what you're saying. She will soon come around.

Delusional? Maybe.

Potent? You bet.

UjSizzle:

I'm saying unless you've studied women outside your sphere, then you can hardly say 'most'

ihedinobi2:

I don't see what more I need to say. If you woo a woman who doesn't want you, you constitute a nuisance to her. And while she may try to politely ask you to leave her alone, persistence can make her ask the cops to tell you to leave her alone.

Or, you think women want to be wooed by just anyone? They just want to be wooed by guys they like or can like.

ihedinobi2:

The fact, ehn?

That's like saying that there are no clear ways of saying "give me cool clean water to drink."

All languages have a single root. One single code that relates every single language system. That's how we manage to make sense and communicate with each other.

The same thing with romance. The fact that we abandoned the old rules does not mean that there are no more rules and Nkechi can hang out with me all day everyday and call me about everything and mean nothing by it. She's just being childish if she does not mean anything by it. Childish, as in irresponsible or ignorant.

There are clear signs. If you don't mean to show those signs, discover them and turn them off. It's as simple as that.

naijaboiy:

Yea that's the point. If she says "NO"...a man has to move on,,no time.

ihedinobi2:

So...no wooing, see? Not easy, my friend, "possible".

If you really want a woman, you dig in for the long haul. Ask men.

Ok...I accept your correction.

ihedinobi2:
BuddhaPalm! Lol! This guy knows how to cook soup sha. Lmao.

Yes, there are green lights. And they always emphasize one thing, she wants your attention and likes being around you.

For the guy, he wants you to admire him. So he'll puff up like a blowfish and show off. Even by acting cool and uninterested because he knows that that impresses the hell out of you

On point

UjSizzle:
Lol BuddhaPalm I guessing antispam bot just banned you


Farano, Pasqal09, Seun, Ishilove biko release him.

Meanwhile the rest of you can read the post I just quoted (that's the only way I can unspam it for now).

naijaboiy:

On point

Mynd44:

Stop trying to convince yourself

UjSizzle:
BuddhaPalm,

Correct me if I'm wrong.
You're saying the green light is very biological, not something women control because they are not always aware they're emitting these frequencies, right?
You used animals as an analogy. Say when the females are ready to mate, they make it obvious (feral calls and all that pheromones other animals can smell). Then the males come, pop their colors and let her make a choice.

If this isn't a conscious move, rather people acting out biological scripts, why the hell do men take it that she has a particular interest in any one person? For all she knows, you all (everyone who picks the signals) fall in one category: Possible mates if you fulfill whatever criteria she's set.

When she's playing out the script, they name her a flirt.

When she starts kicking applicants off the list, she's a biitch, and playing with people's feelings.

When she decides some are keepers but not mate material, then she is a serial friend zone-r.

You want to explain why?

pryd:
Green lights are for real, as real as the air you breathe; but it doesn't necessarily mean she wants sex. Maybe she likes ur company or finds ur personality intriguing.

AfricanApple:
seriously speaking, guys get it wrong most of the time, they mistake friendly speech, smile and gestures for green lights

the koko is that just like op said, your mind might just be the one playing games with your heads and this is so because u actually want her to show u some green light

thats why i dont play or joke with guys anyhow, i maintain my level always