ojuetti:
Please I need some candid advice on some issues; I am separated with 4 kids from the father of my kids a few years ago. He brought me and my kids from Nigeria to UK but was very useless in terms of taking care of me and my kids, all he did was womanize, drink and stay late at night. I was working part time while he was working full time, but still, he spent his money on women outside. I could not do anything because then, I was not entitled to any benefit, but as soon as I got my papers, I decided to act, I was not ready to take all his rubbish again, so he had no choice than to leave the house for me and my kids. I felt what was the point in having a useless man around me.
I am now able to claim all my benefit as a single parent from the government, more so my pastor had told me that he was not my husband that my husband who will love me will come and find me at the right time.
Throughout this ordeal, I was seeing a guy who was with me throughout and loved me very much. We promised to be together forever, even though we both have kids. The problem now is that my pastor recently told me that, this is not the man for me, that another man that will take care of me is coming, but I am in love with this man, should I listen to my pastor and let this man go or just ignore this prophecy.
This man in his forties just like myself, so we are adults and know what we are doing, but this prophecy is getting me confused.

Veralaw:

Becareful of your words,
if he hadn't taken you along,you would have no idea what he does.
he was "useless" yet remembered and brought you to a place where you seeked for your "right" and got it....

If you know what's good for you,you wouldn't need a pastor to control you...

chaircover:
please do not call the father of your children useless in front of them. You will damage their self esteem. 50% of their DNA come from that man and you are indirectly calling them names.

Stillfire:
This kain prophecy wey dem dey see for you despite the dysfunctionality you are surrounded by? Stop mocking God, please.

ojuetti:
Please I need some candid advice on some issues; I am separated with 4 kids from the father of my kids a few years ago. He brought me and my kids from Nigeria to UK but was very useless in terms of taking care of me and my kids, all he did was womanize, drink and stay late at night. I was working part time while he was working full time, but still, he spent his money on women outside. I could not do anything because then, I was not entitled to any benefit, but as soon as I got my papers, I decided to act, I was not ready to take all his rubbish again, so he had no choice than to leave the house for me and my kids. I felt what was the point in having a useless man around me.
I am now able to claim all my benefit as a single parent from the government, more so my pastor had told me that he was not my husband that my husband who will love me will come and find me at the right time.
Throughout this ordeal, I was seeing a guy who was with me throughout and loved me very much. We promised to be together forever, even though we both have kids. The problem now is that my pastor recently told me that, this is not the man for me, that another man that will take care of me is coming, but I am in love with this man, should I listen to my pastor and let this man go or just ignore this prophecy.
This man in his forties just like myself, so we are adults and know what we are doing, but this prophecy is getting me confused.

ojuetti:
Please I need some candid advice on some issues; I am separated with 4 kids from the father of my kids a few years ago. He brought me and my kids from Nigeria to UK but was very useless in terms of taking care of me and my kids, all he did was womanize, drink and stay late at night. I was working part time while he was working full time, but still, he spent his money on women outside. I could not do anything because then, I was not entitled to any benefit, but as soon as I got my papers, I decided to act, I was not ready to take all his rubbish again, so he had no choice than to leave the house for me and my kids. I felt what was the point in having a useless man around me.
I am now able to claim all my benefit as a single parent from the government, more so my pastor had told me that he was not my husband that my husband who will love me will come and find me at the right time.
Throughout this ordeal, I was seeing a guy who was with me throughout and loved me very much. We promised to be together forever, even though we both have kids. The problem now is that my pastor recently told me that, this is not the man for me, that another man that will take care of me is coming, but I am in love with this man, should I listen to my pastor and let this man go or just ignore this prophecy.
This man in his forties just like myself, so we are adults and know what we are doing, but this prophecy is getting me confused.

dridowu:
with due respect , i think you are the one useless here. If your husband is useless he would't have arrange you and your kids travelling . I can't judge your husband since i don't know his own side of the story but i will judge you only since you started believing your pastor than God. Your pastor told you that your husband is not your future husband (after 4 kids), hmmmmm that smell fishy, i am so sure your pastor is interested in having you that is while he is trying to convince you so that you won't go back to your husband.

ojuetti:
I appreciate all your responses, but who wears the shoe knows where it pinches. I have seen a lot within the period of marriage to this man, so if I called him names and wanted him away from my life, I think I am justified. My pastor is not interested in marrying me or have anything to do with me amorously, he is a man God, please let us be careful how we talk about men of God, as a father and concerned clergy, he told me what he saw.

Throughout this ordeal, I was seeing a guy who was with me throughout and loved me very much. We promised to be together forever, even though we both have kids.

ojuetti:
I appreciate all your responses, but who wears the shoe knows where it pinches. I have seen a lot within the period of marriage to this man, so if I called him names and wanted him away from my life, I think I am justified. My pastor is not interested in marrying me or have anything to do with me amorously, he is a man God, please let us be careful how we talk about men of God, as a father and concerned clergy, he told me what he saw.

ojuetti:

I am now able to claim all my benefit as a single parent from the government, more so my pastor had told me that he was not my husband that my husband who will love me will come and find me at the right time.
Throughout this ordeal, I was seeing a guy who was with me throughout and loved me very much. We promised to be together forever, even though we both have kids. The problem now is that my pastor recently told me that, this is not the man for me, that another man that will take care of me is coming, but I am in love with this man, should I listen to my pastor and let this man go or just ignore this prophecy.
This man in his forties just like myself, so we are adults and know what we are doing, but this prophecy is getting me confused.

ojuetti:
Please I need some candid advice on some issues; I am separated with 4 kids from the father of my kids a few years ago. He brought me and my kids from Nigeria to UK but was very useless in terms of taking care of me and my kids, all he did was womanize, drink and stay late at night. I was working part time while he was working full time, but still, he spent his money on women outside. I could not do anything because then, I was not entitled to any benefit, but as soon as I got my papers, I decided to act, I was not ready to take all his rubbish again, so he had no choice than to leave the house for me and my kids. I felt what was the point in having a useless man around me.
I am now able to claim all my benefit as a single parent from the government, more so my pastor had told me that he was not my husband that my husband who will love me will come and find me at the right time.
Throughout this ordeal, I was seeing a guy who was with me throughout and loved me very much. We promised to be together forever, even though we both have kids. The problem now is that my pastor recently told me that, this is not the man for me, that another man that will take care of me is coming, but I am in love with this man, should I listen to my pastor and let this man go or just ignore this prophecy.
This man in his forties just like myself, so we are adults and know what we are doing, but this prophecy is getting me confused.

ojuetti:
@mutter, when he was with us, he worked full time and paid his own part of the bills like rent, council tax and all that, however apart from that, nothing else for me and the kids. he would have abandoned us without looking back if i had not contacted CSA to track him down and make him pay child maintenance, that's how bad he can be.
@edwife, My current partner is divorced, so he was like my comforter while I was going through all these, and as a woman, these things affected me a lot, else I would have suffered depression from deep thinking. I was weak and vulnerable. While not justifying seeing another man while married, i had no choice at the time. But a man who leaves his own woman to chase other women has created the opportunity for other men to chase his own.
Like I mentioned, my pastor is an elderly man that knows most of my travails. He had intervened on many occasions but things did not improve. My current partner is kind and caring.