firstEVA:
Abeg jor, It's penis that disvirgins, nothing else.

I cant help laughing. If it wasnt you, I would have said you're a nine year old ignoramus.

christabeli:
Another virginity thread? Atimes I wonder if people deliberately open this threads so that e-war will ensue between virgins and non-virgins. You don't keep your virginity just for a husband. Rather keep it for yourself.To Op can you stop this nonsense please? You are not married and you know it. I saw your post where you talked about your fiance less than 3 months ago. What is wrong with some people in this forum?

y u pained?

darlenese:
You obviously don't know the meaning of virginity!
U can't claim to be a virgin when u have no HYMEN!
U took ur virginity along time ago while pleasuring urself,
For a better understanding
The presence of d hymen is what makes u a virgin, and once it's broken it's bye to virginity

You are very wrong about hymen, even in the bible, when a virgin is mentioned, the explaining version will tell you it is a women that has not known man, stop deceiving yourself please.

Platnum1:
To be honest I just let it go. It pained me so mmuch but I decided to let it go for real. It has humbled me cos before now I expected my future husband to worship me cos I was a virgin.lol. Now I am having non of that I just feel God used this to humble me. It is painful but I have to turn a blind eye to it and enjoy my marriage no matter what. Come to think of it I was molested as a child but I don't remember the details.not once or twice. Maybe that's why I didn't bleed. I wondered alot but I have decided to bury it n move on.

Lol, truth don dey come out small small

Platnum1:

I decided I won't bring it up again but sometimes like last night he asked me how far I went intimately wit my ex and that it's not possible I didnt sleep wit him...it pisses me off

Perhaps you were dangling the "I'm a virgin" stupidity before him during dating. I wonder when girls will learn. Keep your virginity crusade to yourself when you're with me. I dont need it. It is the least of what I'm looking for in a woman I want to marry.

I hope every lady learns from this how to shut up during dating. If he asks you, tell him you're not, even if you are. If you really are, it will be a surprise package for him on the wedding night.
If you are not, then he has already taken you for who you are during dating so no frowning of face from him after the wedding night. He loves you to really have gone all the way to marry you though you told him you're not.

If his criteria for dating you is whether you're a virgin or not, please allow little Johnny to march on joor. He doesnt know what he wants yet.

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

self service is bad shey u knw, nd again its not every virgin lady that bleed on her first sex, it is cause by so many factors, such as the self servicing, too much exercise like jogging/ running bca*se of friction that cause the himen to tear, also as one grow it expand on it own: our mother's did marry a at younger age so their are usually intact wic made theirs to bleed.
Their is a fake way to bleed and claim to be virgin ( these where don by the white during the medieval period ), where the mother's do tell the daughter to take along with dem a sharp object like a razor, so during sex she gives herself a cut on her thigh.....
So what i mean to say here is that, u are part of ur problem cos u sef serve ursef deal with that first...if it isn't that den one of the above factors i mention are contributor.

You don't have to doubt bro.

UGLYS:


I am doubtful of your new life. 9 Virgins, na sacrifice?

Omotayor123:

I share ur pain. sorry abt it don't let it kill ur Moral. I hope he believe u soonest. u can take him to a specialist so dey can explain to him dat not all Virgin bleed at their first.




I hope I won't b disapointed on my wedding night.

i won't be disappointed ...i trust ya..

Pls I'm looking for my virginity;sorry,I mean the lady that disvirgined me. Just incase my future wife decides to ask.

Blayze007:
If he dosnt believe u now, it means he dosnt trust u. U need prayers cos TRUST isn't dat easy to get from someone... try and earn it. Dont flirt, dont give him any reason to believe he was right afterall.

You can also suggest that he does some research to know if every virgin bleeds after first s.3x. I dont think every girl bleeds tho.

Good luck!

What do you mean? Penis enters to disvirgin and she has been using an alternative to enter before now. this means she herself has disvirgined herself long long time ago

I feel your husband's pain, it's painful to marry a non virgin. anyway, there's nothing you can do to prove that he married you a virgin, it's just between you and God.

so if a guy you're dating asks if you're a virgin u should say No, even if you are? what if he wants sex then but u don't cus u want to wait till ur wedding night? then he might think you're not attracted to him or have something to hide. i get ur point abt not dangling "I'm a virgin" but if the topic comes up, y lie? if he finds out on ur wedding night u lied this might even pose problems n he might start thinking u've hidden other things from him .

mentorandfriend:
Perhaps you were dangling the "I'm a virgin" stupidity before him during dating. I wonder when girls will learn. Keep your virginity crusade to yourself when you're with me. I dont need it. It is the least of what I'm looking for in a woman I want to marry.

I hope every lady learns from this how to shut up during dating. If he asks you, tell him you're not, even if you are. If you really are, it will be a surprise package for him on the wedding night.
If you are not, then he has already taken you for who you are during dating so no frowning of face from him after the wedding night. He loves you to really have gone all the way to marry you though you told him you're not.

If his criteria for dating you is whether you're a virgin or not, please allow little Johnny to march on joor. He doesnt know what he wants yet.

tochimas:


You are very wrong about hymen, even in the bible, when a virgin is mentioned, the explaining version will tell you it is a women that has not known man, stop deceiving yourself please.

You are getting it wrong. There is always a way to prove it and that is through the hymen. tell me another way to know if a woman is still a virgin

Platnum1:
To be honest I just let it go. It pained me so mmuch but I decided to let it go for real. It has humbled me cos before now I expected my future husband to worship me cos I was a virgin.lol. Now I am having non of that I just feel God used this to humble me. It is painful but I have to turn a blind eye to it and enjoy my marriage no matter what. Come to think of it I was molested as a child but I don't remember the details.not once or twice. Maybe that's why I didn't bleed. I wondered alot but I have decided to bury it n move on.

Now you are just talking, these are all the things you should have talked about during courtship. It's good to say everything before marriage

ammyluv2002:
Virginity is a big deal

You're a virgin!
That's a good thing...I only feel that the most important thing in relationships isn't prioritized.
This whole virgin thing has brought harm to healthy relationships than good!
It's just all overwhelming

I don't trust the man sef. after knacking all out there, he finally dreams to settle with a virgin... as he didn't see blood then he now doubts his wife.

when I unvirgin I didn't see blood too, humans are unique. he should meet a doctor to explain that. maybe he wants the blood of a virgin for ritual sef.

Platnum1:
I knw I self serviced but thats different from actual sex with a man.u knw d second entails alot

Ma5turbation is actually sex. It is both physical and mental. You were not married a virgin, hence, the delusion which could lead to vices like depression on your part, insecurity/mistrust from your husband and gross dissatisfaction from both parties(you were used to one way to achieving orgasmmm before the real deal). You both need counseling. See a shrink, hence your marriage would die a natural death. And by natural death, I don't mean divorce, but the spark and other combining ingredients that make for a good and enjoyable marriage.

I understand how your husband feels. Believe me, he'd find it difficult trusting you into the marriage. The underlying conclusion being that, there were other things you lied about. Don't think he's not discussed it with his friends, who'd now be looking at you like you're one cheap who*re.

BTW, what's it with Nigerian ladies and keeping their virginity for a man who pledged to shagging several years back? You're just punishing yourselves. It's a very vain and stupid thing to do. Very few men place expectations on virgin brides.

Wizkoko:
I feel your husband's pain, it's painful to marry a non virgin. anyway, there's nothing you can do to prove that he married you a virgin, it's just between you and God.

Between her and God, truth is, she ws disvirgined several years back, just not the conventional way.

Hurtful. Why not go listen to 'it hurts like hell- aretha franklin or why does it hurt so bad- whitney houston both 4rm d same soundtrack album. Just kidding

ammyluv2002:
Virginity is a big deal

Are u a virgin then

ammyluv2002:
Virginity is a big deal

Are u a virgin then

Platnum1:

I decided I won't bring it up again but sometimes like last night he asked me how far I went intimately wit my ex and that it's not possible I didnt sleep wit him...it pisses me off

Ur marriage is just 5 months..take things easy ma

Lady cycling can loose her virginity

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

You certainly lost your virginity to your finger not to him.

Nothing is wrong with them, dey know the type of post NL appreciate cos when people bring out meaningful post people dnt comment, but when its anoda 'not so making sense' post, comment dey full everywhere.

christabeli:
Another virginity thread? Atimes I wonder if people deliberately open this threads so that e-war will ensue between virgins and non-virgins. You don't keep your virginity just for a husband. Rather keep it for yourself.To Op can you stop this nonsense please? You are not married and you know it. I saw your post where you talked about your fiance less than 3 months ago. What is wrong with some people in this forum?

ammyluv2002:
Virginity is a big deal

As if yhu sef b virgin

christabeli:
Another virginity thread? Atimes I wonder if people deliberately open this threads so that e-war will ensue between virgins and non-virgins. You don't keep your virginity just for a husband. Rather keep it for yourself.To Op can you stop this nonsense please? You are not married and you know it. I saw your post where you talked about your fiance less than 3 months ago. What is wrong with some people in this forum?

Thanks a lot.

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

U must av fïngèred ur püssy like 30+ times and sucked like 20plus dïcks to kill ur kônji b4 marriage so u'll appear like a saint to ur husband, now u're looking for Virginity, my dear u can't eat ur cake and have it!! Only God knows if u're telling d truth sef!!

braine:



Men take things like this seriously. Did you explain to him that you pleasured yourself by yourself? I wonder how one can still claim to be a virgin after self service tho

What? Why the Bleep should she? MARRIAGE is not to be played with by KIDS! I am sure your husband is not a virgin. After sowing all his 'sour grapes' here and there, he is now looking for a tear rubber. Tell him to go and hug a virgin transformer, I am sure his mojo will not be disappointed.

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

There are two virginity's.

There is the physical virginity - where the hymen is intact, and the moral (cultural) virginity where the person hasn't been involved in sexual activity. You can loose your physical virginity without having sex.

The hymen can stretch and rupture during other activities, such as horse riding, dancing that involves splits/high kicks, sports injuries and severe falls. A person who hasn't had sex can therefore be a physical non-virgin, while being a moral virgin. And a woman who involves herself in sexual activities which don't involve vaginal penetration, can be a physical virgin without being a moral virgin. To me this includes MouthAction. And of course when there is sexual intercourse, the virginity is lost.

So when does a woman lose her virginity? It depends on your point of view. But to me physical virginity is nothing compared to the moral virginity. And it is important to remember it is a gift given but once.

While hymens can be torn during sex or other physical activity, they don’t “break.” These torn areas can bleed, but it doesn’t always happen.

Idowuogbo:
Cut the crap abeg! You no give husy meat chop, your fingers dey damage you, you think oga go dey happy say u deprive am and you dey give yourself doggi€? Then to worsen matter kwa, the great day came for white to turn to red, it turned to yellow cus na only p!ss you pis-s for bed. You sef think abourrit na...is it fair?

Right tho

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

This is what happens when you rub your virginity so hard in a man's face.

Even if he had seen a couple of blood drops, he would still have complained. He probably would be expecting a 'bucket-full'.
You painted your virginity so loftily that the man began to nurture unreasonable expectations.

I'm happy for you though. The experience has sure made you a better person