echobee:

Itumoooooooooo?

dre11:
What kind of man is he that he can't provide for his household....... And he still demand to be respected?

echobee:

Itumoooooooooo?

GoodGirl2:
Take a trip to Kenya. You'll find plenty of such men (85% of them).

dre11:
Am so sure u know more about them because I did know you from the BBA thread.

But, is it the women that owns the children in that place that makes them to behave like that
Or
It's a cultural thing

abbey621:
What do you expect when you mix poverty+ illiteracy+ polygamy.

GoodGirl2:
It's a question we all ask ourselves up to this very day. We don't understand that phenomenon.
My father's generation was so different though as they were very much responsible.

holatin:
That silly of her.
She endure 25 years of beating regime, her son may Ve learn of that from the dad as she endure all this years and tomorrow we will Ve another woman beater on loose.

To all man that beat woman, God curse are on you Holatin chapter 44vs 9

GoodGirl2:
Take a trip to Kenya. You'll find plenty of such men (85% of them).

Ilekeh:


At least she left before the "we don't do divorce in Africa" winches caught up to her.

No one should endure or tolerate abusive relationships. But we know how una for Nigeria like to carry marriage untop of your head like destiny.


They say Yorubas have high divorce rate. I respect that because as a Yoruba woman I know that I won't be culturally forced to stay with a husband that verbally, physically and/or emotionally abuse me. Yoruba man would gladly welcome his daughter back home if her husband abuses her. We don't do marriage by force, marriage by fire over here.

dre11:


That means the mother have to search inward and check out what kind of manners and home training they give to these guys during their formative years

Because that's where u begin to shape the kind of person you want your child to be. ........

#mothers are the person I blame from this collapse

denisfidha:


Your 85% is exaggerated
If you took a trip to Kenya you will find out that women beat men too, And its just as common as the men.


In 2012, there were 460,000 cases of domestic abuse were reported in central Kenya by men alone. Central Kenya is where there is the largest number of men beaters.

Of these, 150,000 had reported undergoing emotional abuse while 300,000 cases had been physically assaulted. The 300,000 men in Central Kenya who were battered by their spouses, makes the region the worst place in the country for men in wedlock.

in 2013, It was found that 1/3 of men in marriage are abused by there women.

oloworulz:
I wount judge, some ladies are naturally stubborn . African ladies are different from western ladies. They deserve it atimes

ajuwarhodes:



Ode ni Bobo yi ke! So that's how ur dad beats ur mum cos she deserves it, na so ur brother in law go kill ur sister, go marry oyinbo na,she will use police to send u out at 3am..
The nansence u guys try with black women,u can't try it with white ladies o! Ode buruku

zboyd:
Hmmm...where are the voices of those Nairalander women who say...

...they will never leave their husbands, no matter what because God hates divorce?
...they will only leave their husbands, due to infidelity?

Where are the voices of those Nairalanders who say things like this to a woman who dares divorce her brutish husband..."Some ladies are naturally stubborn. African ladies are different from Western ladies. They deserve it at times", "What guarantee does a divorced woman have that the next man she marries won't be worse?", "Who does she think is going to marry her at her age?", "Good luck finding a new husband!" "Selfish woman! No thought of her children!", ...whenever a thread or story pops up like this?

...and the silence is almost deadening

GoodGirl2:
I was responding to something different, not domestic violence.
A member of the forum was talking about men who fail to provide for their families, hence my comment telling him to take a trip to Kenya where such men do exist in plenty.

denisfidha:

I think you can find men who can't provide for there families in plenty of african countries with a poor population. Angola with a population of 22million has 43% living below poverty line - thats roughly 9.5 million, kenya with a population of 45million with poverty rate at 44% - thats about 20million, Nigeria approx 180million with poverty rate at 33- thats roughly 59million folks, egypt population 87millio poverty @ 25%, thats 21million folks that cant provide for there families