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Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by olamisegbe(m): 8:13pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Hello Nairalander. I really need advice from you guys...matured advice thou. My gf (maybe my ex) cheated on me. The gist is this There is this childhood friend of mine in my area that they skld together but she doesn't seems to knw him. Not untill I used her pic as a dp on whatsapp he didn't know we dating(although they done with skl and wrking). Due to the kind of wrk she does we would only see during the holiday period. Due to the Ebola compulsory holiday we use the time to see. But pending that she left home to do her long overdue clearance in her school unknowing to me she first went to visit a guy in a Hotel( that's where my friend came into the equation cos he works there. That's same location with the skl) my friend called me immediately and asked after her and I told him I knew she was in skl for clearance and she's coming over to my place afterward, he smiled and said wen we see.I was beginning to think of diff tinz so i called her immediately but didn't notice anything. Afterward she was with me for a while and left(all happened in sept). Fast forward to yesterday,I saw my guy and gisted I was shocked to the brim cos I never excepted that from her. I put a call to her all she shouted was MY LIFE i'll tell you the truth(she listed all her story, how she meet the guy, how he came to meet her,the hotel tinz and some unrealistic lies also).I asked her wat did I do wrong? Cos the clearance she did I had to borrow money for her cos I don't have a job, yet sold my phn to pay off the debt cos I though I would gt a job on time. Thou she admitted her fault saying it's Satan( I told her let satan be, cos all those time I was always monitoring u with phn) but there's no way I can ever trust her again. I forgave cos it's over 4 month but I can't FORGET. Pls advice and Help me. Thnks |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by pasqal09: 8:16pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
The trust has been damaged You can forgive her if you want but the question is, can you trust her? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
E 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by ronald4lif(m): 8:23pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Based on what you narrated she's yet to come clean and tell exactly what transpired between them, I find it suspicious that she chooses a hotel of all venue to meet him. For you to decide whether to forgive and forget she has to be truthful first, so you at least know what you're pardoning her for and know how to deal or avoid future occurrence. But I don't know why it's hard for us guys to forgive our bae when they cheat but it's somewhat easier that most of them forgives us easily when caught out, just thinking aloud though. |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by GANJAFARMER: 8:29pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
olamisegbe:Any woman that causes you any sort of negative concern is not yours and the same thing goes for the ladies too. Leave her alone,walk away and never look back. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by Nobody: 8:29pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Hmmmm beware of her...... how many other guys has she gone to meet who will never tell you.....when a woman cheats its not just cheating its more .........and if she has learnt to chop and clean mouth you can be sure whenever the opportunity presents itself she will go a fishing 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by iceberylin(m): 8:30pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Bro, you need another HOLE 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by LillyAnne(f): 8:39pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
All of the above. She cheated on you once, she'll still cheat again...might not even be the only time she has cheated. I just can't tolerate cheats Let her refund your money sha 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by OohMpa: 8:46pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
olamisegbe: This guy bearing Satan is enjoying oooo, always sleeping with different girls at the same time Satan, Satan, Satan how many times ooh Mpa call you? Leave our girls alone 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by Dotwillis1(m): 8:51pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Forgive her, but dnt forget... And dönt chase her, replace her!!! |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by adexsimply(m): 8:56pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
LillyAnne:why can't you tolerate cheats? |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by fuckshit: 9:03pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
OP no dulling O! just fücking get yourself another babe & while your fücking at it, know this; to some of them bïtches, relationship is a fücking game. they ain't fücking loyal. they always have a plan A, plan B, plan C... there is always a fücking big chance that you are not the only man fücking that woman you fücking call my girlfriend 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by Nobody: 9:07pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
That b*tch. But boss u sef no try o. U sell phone take pay babe clearance form? Nawa you o. Girls of nowadays aren't worth that. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by LillyAnne(f): 9:12pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
adexsimply:The same reason you can't tolerate them |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by hushmail: 9:15pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
thank ur stars her true character came to d fore now. Is up to you to decide ur next line of action. If ur babe na runz babe, treat her like one; if she is a responsible girl, treat her like one 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by adexsimply(m): 9:20pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
LillyAnne:But you cheated on me |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by Ucheosefoh(m): 9:26pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Meeting a guy in a hotel room that is how prostitution starts I think you are dealing with a bitcch who can fucck for money sake. Next time don't borrow to pay for any girl that is not your wife or sister, niggas learn this girls ain't loyal 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by LillyAnne(f): 9:27pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
adexsimply:With who? |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by adexsimply(m): 9:30pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
LillyAnne:with another guy of course! |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by LillyAnne(f): 9:31pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
adexsimply: I dunno how to cheat o |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by adexsimply(m): 9:36pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
LillyAnne: |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by olamisegbe(m): 9:39pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
pasqal09:thank you so much I appreciate ur advice...but it's a no |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by olamisegbe(m): 9:45pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
LillyAnne:Well the Bible said it all the heart of man is wicked...so untill u get there u wouldn't knw. Thanks till thinking |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by pasqal09: 9:46pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
olamisegbe:If you can't trust her then there's no point continuing with her. Relationships is not just something you can fix. Trust can be likened to glass and when a glass is shattered, it can't be fixed. |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by olamisegbe(m): 10:22pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
pasqal09:thanks so much......I knw I can't fix it up again...but the passage of the they say heals all wound. Let me give a 1percent conviction. If it doesn't I discontinue |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by oshe11: 10:28pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
here it is ADVICE take d advice u sed u nided |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by roymary: 10:30pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
olamisegbe: Strenuous to read - what happened to paragraphs? I read through and hey- you gotta go through these phases. Understand females wants good life- they function a lot better when they feel financially secured.( I kinda thing its a natural phenomenon for this specie of homo sapiens) During your extreme hustling state( like you should be right now) , its better to have an open relationship - do not expect so much from a lady plus your attitude and vibe will show any lady that comes around you what state of mind you've got at the moment. Get that job, work on that career, step it up, meet people and expand your social network in the right direction- and pray to be successful in whatever you lay your hands on- Come back on here December 21 2015 and lets see if you feel like you do right now. In the mean time, what's that girl's number- Let a kinsman talk to her. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by olamisegbe(m): 10:56pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
roymary:this is not a letter nor story to be documented, so english laws doesn't exist. Thanks for the epistle learnt a lot but I couldn't find an ans to should I or should I not? |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by roymary: 11:08pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
olamisegbe: Really? You don't care about the readers? Nigga with this attitude , i understand why that lady left your sorry behind. Y'all come over here acting victimized but no one knows the other side of the story. Dude, you need a should or shouldn't?? I think you should get a Job. |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by emperorchedda(m): 11:33pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
roymary:dude you were doing well till your last paragraph. Should he continue with the hoe? |
Re: Should I Forvive And Forget Or Let Go? by roymary: 11:43pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
emperorchedda: Dude gave me attitude. Did you find it easy to read Op's epilogue? Well, anger and sentiment aside, NO he shouldn't continue with the girl - but i was trying to make dude see beyond the girl and the next girl he might meet then he got defensive. |
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