iice:

Half of them are just dense.
I give them the cold shoulder and if they still don't get it, i turn down the heat till it's positively freezing. Half of them know when to beat it when i get irritated, obsessive doesn't do well around me. Dangerous for him

chika98:

Sometimes you just have to be MEAN. I practically had to yell at someone like "dude! If I girl was chasing you like this . . won't you be very vexed with her?" You just hope they get the point sha.

sistawoman:

Brothers, uncles and male friends always help me explain to them that they should stop going down the current path and find another way because this road is blocked for them.

ibkaye:

Lmao

That's one way sha

Even though sometimes, they still don't get it

chika98:

Not everyone has brothers or uncles or even male friends to tell them. Besides why get all that crowd involved? It isn't even remotely that serious

sistawoman:

Brothers, uncles and male friends always help me explain to them that they should stop going down the current path and find another way because this road is blocked for them.

ibkaye:

Lol!

I can imagine sha, what of the really stubborn ones, after all your shouting, screaming, gentle speaking, teeth hissing and they still won't leave you alone

I don't know about other people but, if someone pesters me too much.  I just cut them off.  And if they find a way around that -- ta da! they'll be meeting some of my family members they would not want to meet in this lifetime

chika98:

Not everyone has brothers or uncles or even male friends to tell them. Besides why get all that crowd involved? It isn't even remotely that serious

True, but there are friends, sisters (my sister na terror ooo ).  Some obsessive people are scary.  Sometimes dealing with it yourself is not enough for them.  

chika98:

Not everyone has brothers or uncles or even male friends to tell them. Besides why get all that crowd involved? It isn't even remotely that serious

sistawoman:

They always get it:

One brother is 6'4 290lbs Federal Police officer
the other bro. is 6.6 400 lbs Thug
I have two over 6 foot tall nephews both play ball
All my uncles are big and tall men.

they get the message loud and clear when one of them walk up on them.

I don't know about other people but, if someone pesters me too much.  I just cut them off.  And if they find a way around that -- ta da! they'll be meeting some of my family members they would not want to meet in this lifetime

sistawoman:

They always get it:

One brother is 6'4 290lbs Federal Police officer
the other bro. is 6.6 400 lbs Thug
I have two over 6 foot tall nephews both play ball
All my uncles are big and tall men.

they get the message loud and clear when one of them walk up on them.

davidylan:

An overweight thug?

davidylan:

An overweight thug?  

ibkaye:

Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't  

sistawoman:

You aint seen nothing till you seen one of these.

davidylan:

@ topic . . . Ibkaye you shld be reading your chemistry textbook not worrying about "obsessive" chasers.

Women do a lot to encourage these "chasers" . . . turning around to pretend to complain is a way of boosting their fragile ego.

If you don't want a boy to chase you simply tell him in blunt language, unless he is a criminal stalker he will leave you alone. You keep giving him vague answers, your body language is not saying the same thing as the "no" your tongue is saying, you go out of your way to make sure he notices you . . .

and then you come here complaining about obsessive chasers? Give me a frigging break.

MrCrackles:

IBK you are too young to be delibrating on an adult issue!

Pikin of nowadays no wan grow sef

Where did you copy your story from?

Anyway, if you don dey get bobo wey dey chase your unripe bobbi, if you have a chemistry lab in your primary school, organise acid

Make you shower the guy!!

chika98:

Yeah like going to a hotel room with him after a night out partying and getting upset that he's in bed trying to touch you. Some chics sef

This is not about 'forming, playing hard to get etc'

ibkaye:

I was just wondering sha, this is not necessarily a problem that I am having but I am speaking in general.

Guys and ladies, what would you do if there was a lady/guy pursuing you for a relationship and you just were not interested, you had your reasons, but this lady/guy just would not take no for an answer?

The more you told him/her to leave you alone (in both a nice and not so nice way), the more he would confess his love for you and carry on with the chase.

This is not about 'forming, playing hard to get etc', but you had your reason/reasons and you even let these reasons be known to him and yet, he still would not let you be.

What exactly would you do?

LadyT:

If you can, block his number. Scream at him in public to leave you alone. Tell him if he continues to chase you, you will go to the police.

The sad thing is some women give in after being harrassed for ages. You should never give in no is NO!

tangent:

you are 100% accurate with this statement. women have dug their own graves in the past by giving in to a man's persistence. men know this and they don't stop because they have been successful with it in the past.

LadyT:

Exactly! I don't understand why some women [b]degrade [/b]themselves in this way.

chika98:

I wouldn't use those words rather[b] naivety[/b].

A-40:

Every dude has a threshold trust me there is a limit of rejection any guy can take all you need to do is find this guy's limit and push him there he would drop you like a hot potatoe

sistawoman:

A-40 you for get about those dudes that are mentally challanged (that the PC term right). They don't tell you when you start dating them that they are mentally challanged but you find out as soon as you try to end it with them, they just don't understand you anymore. It is like they stop speaking all human languages.