armyofone:
It looks like you are still in love with him, can you file spousal visa for him to join you, how about that?
Never quit a great job.

Juzzybabe:

Juzzybabe:
THE STORY HAS CHANGED AND AM ABOUT LOOSING MY 9MONTHS OLD MARRIAGE
I posted the above story here last year seeking help but I came back to let u all know that the story has changed again! To God be the glory I had a baby girl 2weeks ago. My huby who said I will leave the kid after 6months which I didn't agree to,has changed his words again. Since I put to bed two weeks ago,my inlaws,has been furstrating my life. They are angry I had the baby through CS which wasn't my making. My huby as usual is on his family side.since I put to bed,I have soo troubled as my mother in law is doing everything in her power to frustrate me. My husband said even after 6months he will not be ready to sent for me. He has given me indefinite time. With the current development at home I told him I can no longer continue living with his parents but he says if I don't want to live with them I should leave his child with his mum and go wherever I want to go.
The thing is,since I got back from the hospital,I have had no peace of mind with my inlaws especially my mother inlaw. Am exclusively bossom feeding my baby and i realise the psychological effect of all this on me is affecting my baby as well.i have made up my mind am leaving the house with my baby.whenever my husband is ready,he can come and find me and if not the marriage is over. I don't want to die young all in the name of marriage. Financially am down,but my family are there to help.

I hope my decision is the best

Juzzybabe:
This is no joke please as it has to do with my marriage.I just want to be sure that my decision to reject his offer isn't going to be a mistake. I will appreciate advice from married and mature individuals. Thanks

Juzzybabe:

Thanks for saying what you have to say,but am not feeling guilty because "the cheek cannot tell eyes not to pour its tears on it while it is sitting under the eyes." meanwhile I need to be sure I am not taking an awkward decision. and am glad every1,no matter the addition or subtraction supported me in not leaving my kid in search of money as my husband demands. I think am ok,that's all that matters as far as my post is concerned. so thanks for your opinion. lastly,I pray you don't find yourself in my shoes.

Juzzybabe:

It will so surprise you to know that I dated him for 9 years.I loved him but his attitude since we got married has killed all I felt for him. He is my first. I knew he was a stingy man but I didn't care because i was always independent. moreover i didnt know he would get this worst after marriage.At the 9th year,i left him and told him i cudnt cope,but when i left he called and begged me to come back and marry him. He said all the nice things and made all the gud promises. He promised to love me and treat me like a queen.*smiles* but here I am today. one good thing about him which really made me married him is the fact that he is hard working and ambitious. But what is the point now that am benefiting nothing from him,not even happiness. Since I got pregnant I av never for once gotten a nice and pampering words from my husband. At first I thought he was just having pregnancy fobia,so I wud always send unclad photos of my tummy and my look so that he can at least av a taste of what we are about to have.But he never appreciated any! I am not a perfect woman but I have tried so hard to kip peace. He wants to control me even more than his mum is controlling his dad,yet I accept bcus he is the man in my own case,but rulling out my happiness, especially that baby that am so exiceted about,no that is the part I cànt swallow.

acmesuccess:
First, accept the fact that you've made the wrong choice in marrying him

Second, stay happy. Do t be bothered, anything can change in few weeks

Third, have a contingency, and prepare for a divorce if eventually he didn't yield. And you dont want to either leave your baby or live with his parents.

From my deduction: your husband is a control freak, and a stubborn man. He is not really a kid-lover, and would prefer cash over kids anytime. He is obsessed with making money and don't expect a family relationship with you or the kids.

Like I said: wrong choice.

* note: my suggestion will o my work for you if you are working/have a business.
For your sake, let's hope you didn't go for the money in the first place.

Juzzybabe:

I understand your point and living alone isn't my desire only that living here isn't my joy either. My husband has money but he will do everything he can to avoid cost.I can bet my neck my husband will not send for me and the baby together,he's lookin at the general cost of accommodating his wife and kid. he knows if its just me,I must work either I like it or not but with the baby,it will either involves paying a nanny or me being a full house wife while he alone work.If I insist am not joining him without the baby,he wouldn't mind if I stay with his parents all my life! as it will rather save him much spendings.But I don't want to keep staying with his parents because his mum especially is a silent killer,she wud so agree with her son as she rules over her husband.why am eager to work is because my husband doesn't meet half of my needs.He takes care of hospital bills only. it was October and november he sent 10k each which he asked me to give full account of how its spent. I used it all on hospital bills. I just can't help staying in this house,my mother inlaw will torture me.

Juzzybabe:
Am learning a lot here...Its a good thing I shared this burden,am feeling relieved already.

Abiagirl777:
He is just selfish.
BRB,i want to sleep small.
Xmas tinz.

Mimzyy:
Phewwwwwwww. Bump