I dont know what to do. it has never workd out with girls. every time i see a girl i like, wooed her, i always get 'no' for an answer or "i have someone am dating". i have never enjoyed being in a relationship with someone.
The only one i managed to get broke my heart only a few month she accepted. i used to envy my friends who are in relationship. i have startd to think am bad looking or am not attractive.

pls i need some advice.

I'm the love doctor, welcome to my office. First things first, how old are you?

phabulous88:
I'm the love doctor, welcome to my office. First things first, how old are you?

thank you. am 21

On mobile, atm. Will get back to you.

1. How do u look?
2. What do you tell them?

No. However you look or whatever you're, I believe you're good looking enough. I think the big problem is how you approach them, and how you express yourself. Look deep.

LaurelP:
1. How do u look?
2. What do you tell them?

am not sure if am bad or not.


some of them. we hangd out as friends before i woo them

Op why re you getting worked up over a lady. Ladies aren't worth the troubles, concentrate on your studies, pursue your dream. And watch ladies run after you.

just tie it back... oluku

alexdellafonte:
Op why re you getting worked up over a lady. Ladies aren't worth the troubles, concentrate on your studies, pursue your dream. And watch ladies run after you.

You should take his advice

Just work hard and focus on making money,,when ladies see u r already made,the ones who are dating will break up to be with u.

Just focus on your studies and self improvement

horlahwaley:
am not sure if am bad or not.


some of them. we hangd out as friends before i woo them

Well, d problem might be dat u don't build rapport with dem.
I always say it dat its not compulsory to 'woo' a girl b4 she becomes ur girl. Be friends with her first and every oda thing will come naturally without u even telling her I love u. Get close to dem, call dem often, hang out togeda and all dat. Don't forget to flirt with her to avoid landing in d friendzone.
Just act like ur already her Bf and watch her become urs.

Firstly,a man is never ugly,so do away with dat thought.
Then,make friends with girls,it wl build ur confidence....i hope dis helps.

losing confidence in wooing a lady at 21? I think you are doing more harm on ur future and ur right girl, first thing first, It would have been a serious matter if you ar heading to 30years

Nice One there. U just NAILED it! they dont worth d headache bro. Focus on ur dream and vision.

alexdellafonte:
Op why re you getting worked up over a lady. Ladies aren't worth the troubles, concentrate on your studies, pursue your dream. And watch ladies run after you.

My broda,hypo is the best solution jare!...go and drink hypo...probably mix it with 2 Teacups full of Otapiapia..u'll see the end result within a Day!...Thank me later!

alexdellafonte:
Op why re you getting worked up over a lady. Ladies aren't worth the troubles, concentrate on your studies, pursue your dream. And watch ladies run after you.

oh u mean gold digging ladies right? Instead of u to help him on how to get a stable relationship u are giving him temporal solutions. Be Pratical!!!

Unibenstudent:
Just work hard and focus on making money,,when ladies see u r already made,the ones who are dating will break up to be with u.

if he can't keep dem dey will chop and den dump his sorry ass. i think the guy is having some problems with himself and not his pocket or back account

MimeeTee:
My broda,hypo is the best solution jare!...go and drink hypo...probably mix it with 2 Teacups full of Otapiapia..u'll see the end result within a Day!...Thank me later!

dorlapoh20:

if he can't keep dem dey will chop and den dump his sorry ass. i think the guy is having some problems with himself and not his pocket or back account

anyway there is no man that is well to do that doesn't have sense,,because u can't make money with foolishness,in nigeria u have to be wise like Solomon to get riches,,

[quote author=Unibenstudent post=29249604]anyway there is no man that is well to do that doesn't have sense,,because u can't make money with foolishness,in nigeria u have to be wise like Solomon to get riches,,[/quote
so after making money he will buy love right?
hmmmmmmm wonder why rich pple divorce then

dorlapoh20:
so after making money he will buy love
right?
hmmmmmmm wonder why rich pple
divorce then

seriously won't u like a situation where u and ur kids and enjoying wealth from ur hobby,,seriously I made a thread on requirements for marraige..a guy should have @ least 1 Milla in account because nigeria is hard on its own,u can't impoverishment to ur families problems

Unibenstudent:
seriously won't u like a situation where u and ur kids and enjoying wealth from ur hobby,,seriously I made a thread on requirements for marraige..a guy should have @ least 1 Milla in account because nigeria is hard on its own,u can't impoverishment to ur families problems

sure it's very nice but i won't spend a day with him if he doesn't treat me right not even if he is the richest man on earth. Only gold digger will sacrifice their happiness for money

horlahwaley:
thank you. am 21

At 21 you still got a lotta learning to do. Are you boring or do friends find you attractive and interesting? Do people wanna hang out with you? What's your dress sense? What are you good at? What do people look up to you for? What's your selling point, something you can capitalise on? Why do you need a girlfriend now? For conji reasons or..? Do you have MONEY? Can you take care of a girl, financially and otherwise? Girls love 24 hours attention, do you have that time? Won't it clash with your studies? Girlfriends come with loads and loads of drama/troubles, can you deal with them?

And most importantly, If you were a girl, would you want to date a man like you? Find answers to these questions and if you're found wanting in any, work on yourself. Good thing is that you're still 21, I know guys who had their first at 24/25.

Good luck!

dorlapoh20:

oh u mean gold digging ladies right? Instead of u to help him on how to get a stable relationship u are giving him temporal solutions. Be Pratical!!!

What makes you feel most ladies are gold diggers, or are you one? And you think trying to keep a healthy relationship would give him the time to concentrate on his studies and pursue his dream?

dorlapoh20:

sure it's very nice but i won't spend a day with him if he doesn't treat me right not even if he is the richest man on earth. Only gold digger will sacrifice their happiness for money

so what do u mean by treat u right..u need love he sends u on trip to Dubai,u need sex ,he can deliver,u need food he employs a chef for u,,what do u mean by treat u right?

Unibenstudent:
so what do u mean by treat u right..u need love he sends u on trip to Dubai,u need sex ,he can deliver,u need food he employs a chef for u,,what do u mean by treat u right?

what's your definition for d word 'love'

dorlapoh20:

what's your definition for d word 'love'

love is that feeling in a man that makes him want to please his mistress regardless of consequences and the urge to satisfy her within his power.

alexdellafonte:


What makes you feel most ladies are gold diggers, or are you one? And you think trying to keep a healthy relationship would give him the time to concentrate on his studies and pursue his dream?

if he can't handle a healthy relationship he won't be worried about it.He won't complain. Moreover having a healthy relationship is not as tough as u made it sound.

Unibenstudent:
love is that feeling in a man that makes him want to please his mistress regardless of consequences and the urge to satisfy her within his power.

lolzzzz ahhhhh!!!God save kristina1
well u just define lust