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Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by dhabeautyjas(f): 3:16pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
Rep042:was she like this before marriage? Rep042:bro, a woman should pray for her dh not vice versa. with all this things she is saying, i would advice you let her go,God will not let any of these curses follow you. Rep042:its not a big deal if she assists provided you are doing your best and she is suppose to be your better half. Rep042:this got me laughing, butt pad, but what if she is having inferiority complex with her butt. try to know why she is wearing it and know how to tolerate if you can. the only part that beats me is the assasination threat OP, sincerely answer these questions: 1. was she forced on you? 2. Do you love her or have you once loved her? 3. Has she always been like this? 4. what kind of family does she come from? 5. Were you aware of her abusive family before marriage? i need all these answers before i know what next to say. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 3:19pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
aswani:very intelligent contribution. its like wearing a padded bra, that should not concern the op na. this does not mean the wife has a good attitude, they both have to chill and work on their marriage. #TeamNoToDivorce |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Eberex(m): 3:19pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
lollipop25: You are wrong. Not with a woman who has a mission. I dated a girl for two years, and then proposed. She accepted whole-hardheartedly we even celebrated it. After two weeks she called and told me she wasn't interested, and that she has been pretending all along to love me. Meanwhile i believed her all through our courting whereas she was playing along. So you see, we men can never be too careful. I collected my ring back sharp sharp 2 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by lollipop25(f): 3:54pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
lol this is serious.. at least she saved you the heart ache and told you instead of waiting till you are married and then start showing who she really is, "a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage".... Eberex: 1 Like |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by awa(m): 4:21pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
@ Poster, I must advise you to keep away from this your "wife" for now and try as much as you can to define if the marriage should go on. I really wish you understand that your own family needs you most and can't afford to loose you. Whatever you are passing through now could be said to be your own decision. Having dated this lady for two years, you should have at least get to see this ugly side of hers. I am not saying that she should be perfect but there are some certain things that can be managed in a marriage and perhaps it is not this kind of situation you are into. Please make out time and talk with her and find out if she wants the marriage to come to an end. Thereafter, you can make your decision concerning divorce because you may not change this lady from the look of things. Above all, please take this case to God in prayers and don't forget that God can change any situation in life. I really wish you the very best in every thing. But in all, you must be very careful with this lady and ensure your personal safety at all times. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 4:21pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
The part where you tore off her butt pad is tooooo funny. Can't stop laffing. Obviously your wife has self image issues reason why she has a butt pad to make her feel secure. Try and understand her you did marry her happily sef. You are too focused on controlling your wife maybe you should try and control yourself. Sorry about the other issues you are going through i hope you sort yourselves out. Divorce is the easy way out working through your issues and toughing it out is it. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by SavageGarden(m): 4:27pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
Goodness me.... and why will you even think of having a child with that Monster....and the baby monster will have your name....Do you need to be told to get the heck out of this marriage...what are you gaining from it besides daily abuse...Guy life is too short to keep putting up with one ladies vile monstrousity all in the name of marriage...Divorce that retard and live your life to the fullest....you made the futile mistake of marrying an evil genius don't make the mistake of staying..... |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by colored(m): 5:24pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
haryormeedeh:why wont you encourage divorce in a case like this? You are gonna end up dead if you ever fall a victim of dosmetic violence and abuse by your partner. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Rep042: 5:55pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
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Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Rep042: 6:09pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
Natasha2: No, she is not aware. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Natasha2(f): 6:11pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
Rep042: Okay, at this point I'm short of advice but I think you should ponder on Pomsky and awa's advice. You'll definitely get a thing or two from it. I really wish you all the best in what ever decision you finally make, don't forget to be very careful at home. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by bola4dprec(m): 6:43pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
Rep042: |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by akpur1(m): 6:53pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
Rep042:please man divorce and save your |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by ukandi1(m): 8:38pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
Do u mean she asked for a divorce? What are u waiting for ? Bros, don't let me call u a mugu. Grant her her wish immediately.. If its her family that gave u ur job, resign from it. Chai.....! See torture.... I am a married man too and know that marriage is sweet( 3yrs in marriage). If my wife at anytime tries just 15% of what u just mentioned here, i will ask for divorce. But wait oh.... U just explained exactly another copy of my mother. But my Dad's type are not found in our generation. I feel ur pains and i am angry... |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by ggood: 8:47pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
take hard |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 9:04pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
When is the part 2 coming out? Of this screenplay? Abi? Woman say she wan go, you dey seek advice again. What do you want Nairalanders to do? Give you the same advice I'm sure you have been given severally? Or you just looking for justifications. Well, leave her be.m a woman that cusses/curses her husband is an enemy of progress. Or you can start seeing someone else an make sure she is prettier than her. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by killjoy(m): 9:22pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
Feraz: my broda don't mind dem jor.... we Nigerians, na we spiritual pass, yet na we hypocrite pass. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 9:33pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
winnieG1:FYI, omugwo is not an exclusive reserve of a man's mother in-law. When my elder sis gave birth to her second issue, her mother in-law was the one that went for the omugwo. my mum went for the first issue though. 3 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 10:19pm On Jan 05, 2015 |
bros, move on now . what more do you need to hear . abi you want to die before your time . if her family dont respect yu , do you think it will ever work. 1 Like |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 12:47am On Jan 06, 2015 |
That's what you get when you don't give up on the most beautiful girls, you might have escaped these torrid times if you settle down with an average beautiful lady who won't have to impress anyone but you. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by DONFASZY(m): 1:05am On Jan 06, 2015 |
Sleekyshuga: U on point...did we also heard d oda side of d story sef....Bt to make peace....he is in a bera position to decide |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 1:34am On Jan 06, 2015 |
muyiwaadekunle1: If she is beautiful, why is she using butt pads? From my experience, ugly girls' insecurity have made them to become defensive, offensive and aggressive. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Drone007: 2:00am On Jan 06, 2015 |
Sleekyshuga:Quite out of context. The OP didn't say he cannot raise a family. On the contrary, he says he earns four times what his wife earns. He only asked her to step in and contribute to the rent on a one-off situation. NOW ABOUT 21st century women... These 21st century women, are they Christians? Do they want to marry? Do they want to start a family? If it is 'yes' to the three questions, then they have no choice than to do the three as per the manual of the One who invented marriage and family. Otherwise, they are free to invent another institution of their own, but certainly not of God'making. When they so do, they must also be ready for the consequences thereof. And, the last time I checked, the wages of sin is still death, 21st century or no 21st century. One more clarification: Please, don't get it all mixed up. Reference to Proverbs 31 is not meant to cover up for men who are lazy and irresponsible; not even as a carte blanche to make men abdicate their role as providers for their families. Not when the Word of God says that a man that fails to provide is worse than an infidel. Rather reference to Proverbs 31 is to bring balance to the discussion: Marriage is actually supposed to be between two people who can separately stand on their own 100 per cent. And when it is love that brings them together, neither party should watch the other die cave in to burdens of life when they in a position to help out. Another name for this concept is Mutuality! That's got nothing to do with 21st century, or any other century for that matter! 2 Likes |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Sleekyshuga(f): 7:53am On Jan 06, 2015 |
Drone007: After our traditional marriage on December 2013,I had some financial challenges,and then my rent was due for renewable,she offered to assist, at first I was skeptical about it ,because I know her kind of person, knowing full well that she will use that to ridicule and abuse me in no distant time. But,then,I didn't have any alternative,so I allowed her pay d rent. Now,she's claiming ownership,saying ..."which house,the one that I have been paying the rent or another one"... And yes, he had an alternative knowing the kinda viper he married for a wife but yet, he threw cautions to the wind.. Maybe, I had issues reading the context the 1st time .. I had to read it again, and again, and I never saw where the OP mentioned earning 4 times better than his wife.. I'm done with the topic.. The OP should have gotten the advice he seek.. Good day.. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 7:59am On Jan 06, 2015 |
Let me guess, na Igbo woman you marry |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Eberex(m): 8:09am On Jan 06, 2015 |
2buff: I just went through your profile and i found out you like picking on the igbos. But sorry to disappoint you bro, but this kind of attitude from a woman cannot be seen in an igbo woman. You should know better. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 8:11am On Jan 06, 2015 |
Eberex: Abeg let the OP answer |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by nitrogen(m): 8:48am On Jan 06, 2015 |
Jarus: Egbon ti binu o, chai, to be realistic sha, some ladies are interestingly crazy! |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Rep042: 10:01am On Jan 06, 2015 |
Sleekyshuga: @ bolded I will like to correct an impression that most posters had,though,it may not be necessary,but I will just have to say it so as to keep the record straight. I'm financially independent of my wife, I pay all the bills at home, I only allowed her assist me when I had some financial challenges and that was immediately after our trad, I have since bounced back, plz ,be guided that what I earn in a month,my wife earns same in 4 months or more.Thank You. |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Sleekyshuga(f): 10:20am On Jan 06, 2015 |
Rep042:You just made your points now, OP.. The 1st post you made, it wasn't there... The choice is yours .. Peace!! |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by smartigo: 2:37pm On Jan 06, 2015 |
@rep042. I would have loved to recommend divorce based on the threat to your life but the decision lies with you. What I will suggest is distancing yourself for awhile for your sanity. But I still feel there is smthing you are not saying except she was designed to torment you. Good luck 1 Like |
Re: Separation Is Imminent In My Marriage. by Nobody: 3:30pm On Jan 06, 2015 |
smartigo:. Chai, ..''designed to torment you''.........hahahaha...nairaland una go kill person with laugh..... |
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