I have confronted and he has explained that he didn't marry the girl but only done an introduction thing to be able to pass from a boy to a man.

mutter:

I even LIKED your post!!
I advised her to polygamy because she is hell bent on not leaving the man. She got that advice so often here. I also mentioned that if I were in her shoes I would get rid of the man.
But No! she wants to have the man enslaved to her. Have complete control of his money and by so doing he will never be able to go home.
Thus I advised her to polygamy.
Better for her to share the man.
If she does this she can still have a part of it.

I know many cases where the men divorce to bring the women abroad but still have a relationship with the wife abroad. It is just for the paper formalities.
Besides most nigerian men are now keen of having a family raised in Nigeria to have their base there too. I know many nigerians married to nigerians abroad who go home to marry a second wife.
Years back we encouraged it thinking they did it because white women cannot understand our culture but today it is happening to Nigerian women.
Besides I know quite a few men who have a polygamous home. One wife abroad and one at home. It works but it has it`s challenges.

But in the pictures people were congratulating and blessing the marriage. His reason for this is because they assumed they would marry.

findingtruth:
Are these actual wedding photos or an introduction

findingtruth:
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findingtruth:
I am not sure how to handle the situation. I am pregnant by him is the whole issue now. What about our son? Do i have the right to deny our son a family and a father because of this betrayal and wrong doings?
Do i wait until the baby is born to report him? Do i just chuck it up and report him now?
I just don't know the right path in life to take... I am not a revengeful person i don't want to do him wrong but i can't do this either.

eclectic7:
hey I like trending topics, DieeDiee do you crave sexual satisfaction? I only ask because I care and who knows maybe more.
I aim to please.

Ilekeh:


Woman, do you have a job?! Stop the nonsense about family.

A man that cares for his family won't seek for another family outside of his matrimony home.

Just imagine, the money you make will go towards sustaining his new family while you live in poverty.

Divorce him unless you don't mind being a second wife.

Give him parental rights, but tell your child (when he is grown enough to understand) that his father is a snake.

DieeDiee:


You're still here? I knew you were looking for attention from me. Nah nigga, unlike you I'm not so desperate to solicit strangers. What if you look like pig? Can't take that chance.

eclectic7:
You know I get it, DieeDiee is a lesbian and mutter is a homosexual (gay man) trapped in a woman's body hence their weird chemistry , get it people! on that note mutter I truly laud and admire your sense of judgement you know how to see things from both ends of the table and that is the hallmark of objective reasoning...

DieeDiee:


Watch it ... Watch it ... Watch it ... Did you catch it?!?!? Yah me too, it lost its course and missed the bulls eye

eclectic7:



don't mean to sound cocky (no pun intended) but im actually not bad looking, handsome in most books, young and with tons of cash.
Anyway my Magnum is loaded and pointed at you, are you blind cant you see I am beguiled by you, I have thing for feisty women for Christ sake, last I checked ITS ALLOWED

eclectic7:



don't mean to sound cocky (no pun intended) but im actually not bad looking, handsome in most books, young and with tons of cash.
Anyway my Magnum is loaded and pointed at you, are you blind cant you see I am beguiled by you, I have thing for feisty women for Christ sake, last I checked ITS ALLOWED

DieeDiee:


Its allowed but there are better ways to gain a lady's attention. Ever heard of charming and wooing?

eclectic7:


what unnerves you? my lecherousness, the fact im not ugly as you prayed I will be, or the fact I am rich which has no downsides by the way?

eclectic7:




touche, I didn't mean to get on your bad side, just rocked the boat a tad bit, who knows we could take this cyber romance to the next level if you game.

DieeDiee:
If you were really handsome you would gladly do it. No, I'm not. Nothing off about my writing. It just shows I didn't go to school for nothing I actually learned grammar and punctuation

eclectic7:


And I admire you learnt well, sorry for being pervy earlier, its in my DNA, nice to have you onboard Nairaland, you can make many new friends on here and maybe find your deepest heart desires here too, best of luck, okwakwa(harmattan) is not smiling this year, so we spend more time indoors, you should come to Nigeria sometime tho.

DieeDiee:


Lol! No I doubt I'll find my deepest heart desire here.

Thank you for your apology and you are forgiven.

What? Now that you know I'm not in Nigeria you are no longer lusting? A rich boy like you shouldn't have any problem flying to where I am to visit every month unless you were only after my zex (pun intended)

Don't blame your DNA for your douchebag behaviour. Own it, take responsibility and hopefully do something about it.

What? Come to Nigeria and get kidnapped by Boko Haram if Ebola doesn't catch me first? No, thank you. I'm playing, maybe one day but for now I'm happy where I am.

Ps: I still want to see what you look like. PM me your picture. Don't even think of using someone else google can now allow you to search by picture so I'll know if it's a pic of someone else.

wierdpsycho:


hi, my name is wierdpsycho, and you are a RABID BÁSTARD

rofemiguwa:
As in eh!!! The kill am kill am kill am die' advise in this thread no bi for here.
You advisor [b]forgot one thing, let her kuku abort the baby [/b]so she won't have to explain to her child anything about his 'devilish,criminal minded, fraudulent, selfish dad' in the future.

The milk has bin split , is the only way forward breaking the glass too??.
You advisors should please put both parties in your shoe.
Abeg I don tire to talk.
At op it is not an entirely hopeless situation, the guy might actually love u and wanted to fulfill all righteousness at home.
I suggest you talk to him with thE facts you have. And find an amicable way to resolve this,putting your state of health in consideration. Not all nigerian men are killers and con artist. All the best in whatever decision you make.

crowns2:

Ha!!! i shouted when i read your post. How can you, a woman for that matter advice someone to abort her baby? A baby that was even conceived in wedlock and out of love? May God have mercy on you.
@OP love the baby when he arrives. Its your flesh and blood. And he doesn't deserve all this drama his irresponsible father is trying to play out.

rofemiguwa:
PleAse Reread my post Slowly thiS time arounD. From the begining.

There is a sometin called sacarsm. I was referring to the posters advising her to jail her husband, trow him out, kill him, do dis do dat forgeting they had a child togeda,some even went as far as saying she is foolish for getting ppregnant for her husband!.
I was telling them to kuku advise her to abort the baby so she will finally do away with every traces of her criminal nigerian husband as they have labelled him.as if the man has commited murder or some heinous crime by marrying someone else.
Bigamy isn't the worst crime on earth. Even dou is wrong, other advise apart from jail him, kill him shud be given to the poster

That is my stand!