RedBenson:
Bros, when did 6+2 become 10?

dhtml18:


The Child
- Abnormal children - all those down syndrome etc.

MissMeiya:


OP, this is a great suggestion! There's no reason for you to do it alone. In fact, it would be a terrible idea to do it alone.

There's one TV series I love called "Shameless" (the US version), and it's about a group of siblings who have to fend for themselves because their mother abandoned them and their father is a drunk. The eldest sister gave up on going to university to take care of her younger siblings, but eventually she started to take her life back, because she started letting the next eldest siblings take some responsibility. She had to let go of the mentality that everything was on her head. She learned the lesson the hard way when the pressure finally got to her and she crumbled: she got arrested, she lost her job, her siblings were all taken into foster care because she was the only legal guardian... When everything settled down, she started doing things differently.

You have a life to live. You are more than a caregiver. Make this a team effort.

You mentioned that your next two siblings are somewhat close to you in age? Confide in them, discuss, and plan. Maybe, depending on your family dynamic, the three of you can speak to your mother together?

Don't lose hope. This experience will surely forge you into a strong man.

Nobleval:
excuse me please!,what are you trying to prove? The guy know very well about his family and from the look of things his father isn't financially capable of taking care of 5 kids,talk less of 8! C'mon dude,lets face the fact!,this isn't about their life,it's about family planning. Take a look at Northern Nigeria,you'd see what lack of birth control has done to the region,:apart from poverty and illiteracy it has aided in churning out terrorists. When a mother breeds like rats and let them run around without proper home and formal training,what do you get at the end?...potential gangs,armed robbers,419ers,touts, e.t.c

You have to agree with me that the Op has every right to be concerned,because apart from the economic burden which this kid and others before him/her will bring to the family,which could hinder his education,it is certainly a future burden waiting for him.

In a family like this it's expected that the first issue continues from where his parents stopped which is very tasking and uneccessary. He has his life to live,his future and aims in life,he has to marry and adding these avoidable burdens to them isn't advisable.

And also you have to consider his mum's health,c'mon! What's she doing with eight kids at her age?,that's very risky...she should go on pills after this kid. I'd advise the Op to have a serious discussion with his parents on this issue,so that this mistake will not be repeated.
We've gone past the age when we give birth to scores of kids because we believe that they're from God...this is 21st century.

Elinob:
Why must he not be comfortable in his mum's pregnancy

virginboy1:

I am 26yrs old,my younger bro 24yrs just graduated,i have a younger sis (22yrs) in the unversity,another sis(19yrs) battling with admission. And two siblings(10 and 8 yrs) still in primary school.
My dad is about to be retired.
I ought not to be complaining,but i just have to because its bodering me alot.
And am here battling with varsity fees.



Thanks for your humble contribution

striktlymi:


I expect adults to know that it imlpies 8 children when you exclude two parents.

RedBenson:


Did you make any significant inclusion of parents in your post? You clearly stated 10 children.

striktlymi:


Don't make me doubt your ability to comprehend.

RedBenson:


And dont make me think that every post is meant for comprehension.

virginboy1:
Eight years ago when I got the news that my mum was pregnant,I was devastated,while everybody were busy expressing the mantra "every child is a blessing".I wasn't happy because another child from a family of 7 will be coming to join this difficult society and as the first Issue of the Family I wasn't comfortable due to the unforseen burden I was going to carry.I pondered over it and got over it with time.

Fast Forward to this year 2015,I just got a news that my mom is pregnant again.
As the 1st child,I am really worried,perplexed and scared.Why?"Finance Responsibilities".

I wonder why many parent create burdens for the first child knownily and unknownily.Moreover,I am still a student.Am disappointed in my dad though.
Also,my mom is in her late 40s,I am afraid of her health,at times I do feel pity and sad for her whenever she walks with weakness and tiredness.

Please all expereinced and knowlegable nairalanders,I need your opinion,discretion,assertions and adviced on this issue please.Thank You.

DesChyko:
If it is God's will that the child will be, then the child has to be.

Simoneblosson:
I feel your pain brother. in 2010 when my mom called me aside to share a supposed good news, i became mad and melancholic when she told me i we were expecting another child, i actually cried for several days and thought committing suicide because in a family of 5kids where we virtually surviving off relatives, my immediate younger sister died of kidney issues the previous year cos we couldnt afford the surgery fees, i expressed my concerns with tears but i almost curses from my mom which heightened my frustration. Well iv since resulted to accepting things the way the are but with a resolve to do the much i can we the time comes with straining myself, life is full of many issues for me to kill myself on the ones my parents chose to create for me i suppose

emusmith:
Op, Can I ask you?


1. Have you really sat down with her (or them) to discuss this as the FIRST Son and a Responsible Young Man?
If Yes, What's their reply?

Yes Sir,reply was there is nothing they can do about it now,mother was saying it has happened it has happened "its not funny at all"

If No, Go and do that. Having not done that and "complaining" isn't an attitude of A Man that is ready to TAKE responsibility sooner or later.

Have done that,too much responsibility can be suicidial,whether being Real man and Any man.

2. Saying you're disappointed in your dad is enough to "shut the heavens over you"- I found it in my Bible. " Your parents are still your parents. Don't disregard or disrespect them in your heart or actions- It's Costly.

Really, so whenever parents acts in an obnoxious manner or acts without respect their kids should be happy and proud of them?just asking.

3. Who even told you just because you're the first means that you will be the one to "shoulder the responsibility" in your whole family? Who told you?
Joseph was the 12th child out of 13, yet they all survived through him! David was the last out of 7 and became their king and provider! I could go on and on, using real life examples...

Yes,in the society and evironment we find ourselves,please lets be objective Sir.It is, especially when the parents dont have the resources.
Moreover,why compare the old Testament to this our 21st century "where na manage we dey manage"

Take no thought for the morrow, sufficient to the day is the evil thereof- This is your predicament.

NB: I'm not saying they should keep bearing kids any how.

Don't be offended at my use of Scriptures. It's all I know.

emusmith:
Op, Can I ask you?


1. Have you really sat down with her (or them) to discuss this as the FIRST Son and a Responsible Young Man?
If Yes, What's their reply?

If No, Go and do that. Having not done that and "complaining" isn't an attitude of A Man that is ready to TAKE responsibility sooner or later.

2. Saying you're disappointed in your dad is enough to "shut the heavens over you"- I found it in my Bible. " Your parents are still your parents. Don't disregard or disrespect them in your heart or actions- It's Costly.


3. Who even told you just because you're the first means that you will be the one to "shoulder the responsibility" in your whole family? Who told you?
Joseph was the 12th child out of 13, yet they all survived through him! David was the last out of 7 and became their king and provider! I could go on and on, using real life examples...


Take no thought for the morrow, sufficient to the day is the evil thereof- This is your predicament.

NB: I'm not saying they should keep bearing kids any how.

Don't be offended at my use of Scriptures. It's all I know.

diesel86:
Pls leave God out of this, if i were to have my way there would be a law forbidding people not to have more than two children, any more than that would attract heavy tax.... 7 kids haba.

diesel86:
Pls leave God out of this, if i were to have my way there would be a law forbidding people not to have more than two children, any more than that would attract heavy tax.... 7 kids haba.