Nori:
you sound more like an anti social person to me like u want to be left alone. people judge you based on your actions and not your intentions, so if you don't call or chat with your loved ones and ask them how they are doing, then yes they would think u dont care about them and its not their fault for thinking that way because no one can read your mind, and in no time your friends will dump u if u dont reciprocate because friendship is a two way thing,whether you like it or not u live in a world with other humans and u should care to an extent what other people think of u. if u dont want to be seen as uncaring or wicked then change and learn some social skills, smile and greet people and be friendly.

And yes it would affect your love life negatively, most people dont want to be with someone who acts uninterested in interacting with other
human beings, who cant be spontaneous and open up to them. infact men would hardly approach u, because when u go out your body language will send out negative vibes to the opposite sex. i advice u work on your social skills, u can still be an introvert and show interest in people and have a likeable personality. by the way am also an introvert. goodluck.

winnieberry:
Helloo am an intovert by nature ,quiet love been indoors watching tv reading novels browse with my phone rather than chat with people.it gives people a wrong steroetype of me to them am wicked oor lack sympathy becos I hardly call or chat with people,even they collect my number.My family and friends nag me a lot E.g am not sociable,I don't go out its bad for a girl hw will toasters or my Future husband find me. It hurts me at times why can't people let me be for who I am cmon everyone can't be d same.To them am too secretive and sensitive,I choose to be secretive cos people can't just keep secrets , u tell smone somting .d nxt ting every else knows wat u told them.A lot of people tink am probably suffering frm insecurity,inferirity complex ,lowself esteem,Hell no .Pls anything wrong with been an introvert?

lovely17:
Whoops I found my kind there is just one disadvantage it's really hard to get over a break up/rejection even after a year it's still hurts

standd:

introverts don't go out, or go to parties or even mix with people

standd:
so it's always hard for young introverted ladies to find men quick.

eleojo23:
Introverts...the most misunderstood beings on the planet even though they have contributed immensely to the progress of mankind (great scientists, musicians, inventors etc).
If you need someone who will think outside the box by reflex, you'll most likely find that among the introverts.

Nothing wrong with being an introvert.

It is your nature and you did not choose to be made that way. But the problem is that the world prefers and celebrates extroversion.

One thing however is that both are needed to create balance in the human society.
Look at a picture of both personalities.

The extrovert is an outgoing person who is excited by being among/around people, he/she is easily bored when there is no activity to engage in. Yeah, he's got lots of energy to spare. He has no difficulty expressing his feelings. When he's angry, you know and when he's happy, it's also very obvious ('cos he can just throw a party to show his happiness). He may not be so much interested in deep intellectual talk (not in all cases though) but he likes small talks like discussing about the weather and things like that.

But the introvert is different. He is the quiet type who does most of his talking in his head. Yeah, he thinks a lot and likes to engage in deep and intellectual conversations. He can stay alone for days and not get bored. He is not so easy to 'read' when compared with the extrovert. You may not know when he's happy or sad because his default expression is
'blank'. He could be experiencing intense joy on the inside but the best he may do to show it would just be a smile (no, he won't go jumping up and down, screaming in excitement). He likes depth in whatever he does and as such prefers quality to quantity. He may be slow in doing stuff but when he is done, you would appreciate his work because of the quality of it.
He is very good at understanding people but unfortunately for him, the gesture is not reciprocated as he is often misunderstood by many.
He doesn't make friends and get attached to people easily but once he considers you his friend, you are most likely going be his friend for life. You can now see why he has to keep someone on his 'probation' list for some time before admitting that person into his circle of friends (which is usually small).
He likes to work from the background, away from the spotlight. He hates noise!
Cool music playing in the background and a book in hand is a perfect way for him to spend the day.
When he loves, he is usually very committed to the one he loves...

#my fingers are already getting numb from typing... #

Hence, you see that both are needed to complement each other so don't ever entertain the thought that something is wrong with you because you're an introvert.
However, you can try making friends with a moderate extrovert and you will see how it will help you open up a little, just the same way an extrovert's excesses are curbed when she has an introverted friend. I say moderate extrovert because a highly extroverted friend can drive you nuts with too much stimulation (from talking and other activities peculiar to her nature).

Pardon my long epistle

highbeeola:
lie introverts has great power of resilience

ChynoBEATS:

Well yeah you're right.......


I do endure, withstand n recover 4rm difficult situations quickly......

.....Thats normal 4an inTrovert ......

Ajiswaggs:
Am an introvert also, so wat I observe about myself is dat I lik isolating myself frm other people,

Ajiswaggs:

I dnt to go party even though na one of my family dey do party,

Ajiswaggs:

I hardly greet people in my area,

Ajiswaggs:

I can stay in my room for 3days witout going out or talking wit anybody, sometimes I always ignore calls from friends.

Ajiswaggs:

When I lik someone, I can do anytin for the person

kclein:
. Yea,shock absorbers.

demolaprof:
I think u guys should just stop talking about me

INTROVERT:


You are intelligent and a deep intellectual cos you spend a lot of time reading books and surfing the net

moscobabs:

Thank u very much sir....I have a question. My wife is extrovert and I am introvert .we always fight cos we are not of the same nature. Sir is there anyway We can settle it?

Achilies:
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Nothing is wrong with being an Introvert
It just our nature and there's nothing we can do about it.

People tend to wonder why will a mature good looking guy like myself love to stay mostly indoors even on weekends but the truth is I love it.

I have all I need indoors.
Ps4
Dstv
Dvd
Books
Psp
And my phone to call family members and girlfriends..

With enough drinks in my fridge and foods in the kitchen and 24 hours electricity ( generator and nepa) I don't see any reason why I should go out and hang out in an uncomfortable place and gossip. if u need my company I can give u 15 minutes of my time and you will have to do all the talking ooo as I don't talk much.

People around us view us as alpha male/female because we are unpredictable and extremely mature for our age. We don't talk much but when we do people tend to listen..

With such nature people tend to give u some certain level of respect as they don't really know much about you..

We are more.
Mentally and Emotionally mature than people think. Our strength and weaknesses is a mystery to them
We are playful but only to those who are really close to us. We are fun but our fun must be indoors.


When I marry my wife will really enjoy my companionship.

In my next life I will still be an Introvert.

eleojo23:


There is a lot to be said on this subject and I may not be able to explain everything here.
There are many couples like you. So I will refer you to the links below to read the opinions of those who have had the experience.

http://m.selfgrowth.com?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.selfgrowth.com%2Farticles%2Fintrovert-extrovert-relationship-3-tips-to-make-it-work#2902

http://ask.metafilter.com/211596/Me-Extrovert-She-Introvert-Can-this-relationship-survive-Should-it

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a6401/introvert-extrovert-relationships/

http://www.eharmony.com/blog/five-tips-for-a-great-introvert-extrovert-relationship/

These are just a few. You can search for more online and read about how couples like you have been able to peacefully coexist despite their personality differences.

I also recommend Tim LaHaye's book, Opposites Attract. You can get it in most bookshops in Nigeria.

highbeeola:

lie introverts has great power of resilience

INTROVERT:
WHO IS TALKING ABOUT ME

Hey Winnieberry I feel your pain but being an introvert is totally awesome for many reasons.
Being an introvert dosent mean you won't have friends or go out or have fun or boring. Take me for example, ave been a guest on NL for 2 years and I just registered last month but am well known now for just causing ish on FTC. As an introvert, It means you are in control of yourself and your emotions. Even if you are misunderstood don't mind them or give an F.
But serious sis, u are jobless. GEJ! See what u have caused? Forward ur CV I may help
You Don't need to suck up to any friend.
You are intelligent and a deep intellectual cos you spend a lot of time reading books and surfing the net
[s]You become a goddess of the front page of NL[/s]


Don't let any one change you and as for your man, Hey sister don't rush or push it cos at the appropriate time you will get the best God has planned out for you.
Besides many men are looking for quiet(introverts).

xo xo.

chalantmike:
the question is why do you want to be left alone.

omoadeleye:
people don't mingle with a boring people, you will just be dulling spirit.

Kizmarty:


because she simply want to be left alone...that's enough reason, I think

winnieberry:
Helloo am an intovert by nature ,quiet love been indoors watching tv reading novels browse with my phone rather than chat with people.it gives people a wrong steroetype of me to them am wicked oor lack sympathy becos I hardly call or chat with people,even they collect my number.My family and friends nag me a lot E.g am not sociable,I don't go out its bad for a girl hw will toasters or my Future husband find me. It hurts me at times why can't people let me be for who I am cmon everyone can't be d same.To them am too secretive and sensitive,I choose to be secretive cos people can't just keep secrets , u tell smone somting .d nxt ting every else knows wat u told them.A lot of people tink am probably suffering frm insecurity,inferirity complex ,lowself esteem,Hell no .Pls anything wrong with been an introvert?

winnieberry:
Helloo am an intovert by nature ,quiet love been indoors watching tv reading novels browse with my phone rather than chat with people.it gives people a wrong steroetype of me to them am wicked oor lack sympathy becos I hardly call or chat with people,even they collect my number.My family and friends nag me a lot E.g am not sociable,I don't go out its bad for a girl hw will toasters or my Future husband find me. It hurts me at times why can't people let me be for who I am cmon everyone can't be d same.To them am too secretive and sensitive,I choose to be secretive cos people can't just keep secrets , u tell smone somting .d nxt ting every else knows wat u told them.A lot of people tink am probably suffering frm insecurity,inferirity complex ,lowself esteem,Hell no .Pls anything wrong with been an introvert?

Keyana:
this ya own is strong o.

lovely17:
obviously you aren't one you just can't understand

mutter:
No! great minds need their own company.

The problem is you are like a closed book, but the moment you open up: they read you, use you, abuse you and dump you.

Remain the way you! Be true to yourself. The world has got enough court clowns.

Keyana:
I'm an introvert as well but funny thing is I can strike a convo with anyone at anytime; could even go for hours, yeah! I could be a talkative. I have friends, but no close friend as I hate attachment.