cococandy:
I'm sure you can't father another man's son.
I would bet top dollar on that.
Abi you want to tell a bold faced lie now that you won't mind marrying a woman who has kids for another man?

What has it got to do with baggage? Did I ever discuss that with you on any other thread before?

crackhaus:

crackhaus:

Cococandy, sometimes you shouldn't type certain things when you obviously don't realize how it sounds.
@bold text - she raised kids that weren't hers sounds to me like you mean she did them a favour...I mean don't you think that may be the exact same thinking that must have got her in this mess?

Okay the kids are over 18yrs old now, so what?
The husband says she fights/quarrels with them a lot...did she confirm this? YES!

Did you stop for a second to think that maybe she has indeed been maltreating/starving them since they were kids, and now they come of age they finally have the guts to be rebellious and stand up to her?

Will kids that received all the love and motherly affection from a woman they know isn't their biological mother suddenly start disagreeing and fighting her at every opportunity?


Free yourself from linear thinking!

alutacontinua:


Truth is this kind of relationships can be dicey.
Some step-children can NEVER be content!
Some step-mothers can be wicked!
The story above is just two sides of a story, unfortunately, the 3rd side(which is the truth) is not something we have access to. If viewed from various angles, the story truly does not add up.

My mum might cook for my 10-year old cousin staying with her and assume I'll find my way out. I wouldn't crucify her for that, my dad wouldn't too. If it were to be the other way round, I being the 10-year old and my cousin being me, they'll say she's maltreating. It's SOMETIMES the paranoia associated with complicated relationships.

cococandy:
I wonder why this is not easy to understand.
also considering that what a parent would normally do or say to her child, if done by another woman may be considered mistreatment.
So easy to buy into the evil step mother stereotype. While the lady could have been doing her best in the way she knew how,

cococandy:
you can't wiggle out of this one.

Can you or can't you?

crackhaus:

Girl, whatever you wanno think is your BIZNIZ...

Just know that you can NEVER be sure of anything about me that I didn't tell you, except you just enjoy wallowing in delusions...

crackhaus:

So it is not possible that she treated them right in her husband's presence, while turning around to do the opposite in his absence?

Did he force her to marry him? Didn't she know what she was signing up for?

Aside the starving, that the children and her don't see eye to eye and that she stopped them from visiting home after he rented them another apartment, still doesn't tell you the kind of woman she is?


So tell me, what exactly don't you believe here?
That some women are capable of maltreating their step-children, or that the man should not use it as an excuse for divorce?

She said the children were too rude and
troublesome and that one of them slapped her
when she cautioned her.
“My husband’s daughter slapped me when I
corrected her, she and her siblings always fight
me,” she said.
Jumoke said it was her husband that asked her
to stop washing his clothes.
She claimed that she used to cook for her
husband and stepchildren and that she always
respected her husband and his parents.

crackhaus:

- she always handled them in a rough and cruel
way. “My wife always maltreats my children, she
hates them to the extent that she only cooks for
her children and refuses to give her stepchildren
food.

- “Due to frequent fighting and rivalry with them, I rented another apartment for my children but she still refused them to visit me.”

- she does not respect me and she talks to my parents rudely.

soulglo:


That using this particular excuse tells me he is full of shit. He could have said she's difficult to live with. She's violent. She's financially irresponsible. She's an unrepentant adulterer. I would buy any of those but not this one. Keep in mind that I personally think that NIgerians make the worst and most dangerous step parents I have seen. So I am not saying that she's an angel. I'm just saying that if he actually came to the court and those were his specific reasons for ending this marriage then he is full of poop.

alutacontinua:


Truth is this kind of relationships can be dicey.
Some step-children can NEVER be content!
Some step-mothers can be wicked!
The story above is just two sides of a story, unfortunately, the 3rd side(which is the truth) is not something we have access to. If viewed from various angles, the story truly does not add up.

My mum might cook for my 10-year old cousin staying with her and assume I'll find my way out. I wouldn't crucify her for that, my dad wouldn't too. If it were to be the other way round, I being the 10-year old and my cousin being me, they'll say she's maltreating. It's SOMETIMES the paranoia associated with complicated relationships.

alutacontinua:


Truth is this kind of relationships can be dicey.
Some step-children can NEVER be content!
Some step-mothers can be wicked!
The story above is just two sides of a story, unfortunately, the 3rd side(which is the truth) is not something we have access to. If viewed from various angles, the story truly does not add up.

My mum might cook for my 10-year old cousin staying with her and assume I'll find my way out. I wouldn't crucify her for that, my dad wouldn't too. If it were to be the other way round, I being the 10-year old and my cousin being me, they'll say she's maltreating. It's SOMETIMES the paranoia associated with complicated relationships.

crackhaus:


- she always handled them in a rough and cruel
way. “My wife always maltreats my children, she
hates them to the extent that she only cooks for
her children and refuses to give her stepchildren
food.

- “Due to frequent fighting and rivalry with them, I
rented another apartment for my children but she
still refused them to visit me.”

- she does not respect me and she talks to my
parents rudely.


If you read deep, you will see that there are three sides already:
The husbands', the children's, and the woman (whose side coincidentally prove there is indeed some animosity between her and the children)

So the question becomes, is this not enough reason for the man to ask for a divorce?

cococandy:
convenient. I will catch you soon dissing single mothers

alutacontinua:


Don't you find it convenient that you choose to believe the man's story but not the woman's?
The woman and the kids are not friends, no doubt! And that is exactly the point! We cannot say whose fault that is!
As for the man, pfffffttttttt! Did you even notice he kept impregnating her even when he knew he was gonna file for divorce? How do you even have sex with a woman he described like that?

As for the marriage, it's all crap anyways. When your child starts slaping your wife, that's no longer a marriage, it's a jungle! I am not an advocate of divorce though! But this marriage needs a huge re-structuring, which I doubt will ever happen!

soulglo:


That using this particular excuse tells me he is full of shit. He could have said she's difficult to live with. She's violent. She's financially irresponsible. She's an unrepentant adulterer. I would buy any of those but not this one. Keep in mind that I personally think that NIgerians make the worst and most dangerous step parents I have seen. So I am not saying that she's an angel. I'm just saying that if he actually came to the court and those were his specific reasons for ending this marriage then he is full of poop.

cococandy:
Add washing of clothes to the pathetic excuses and you will know it is a classic case of a bored man seeking new adventure.

crackhaus:

Standing by the opinion that kids need father figures in their lives, and thus single motherhood is not something to be glorified - is this what you call dissing?

I can do this real long, just keep trying to crawl out of the hole you dug for yourself at the beginning of this thread while canvassing for support left, right, and centre.

crackhaus:

That she also stopped the children from visiting their father's home and that she talks to her in-laws rudely, are also pathetic excuses? (remember, she didn't deny these)

Oya na, CONTUNU!

cococandy:


Lmao. I don't need support to air my opinions. I didn't email anyone what to type here. You obviously can't stand different opinions. Now cococandy is the one canvassing their support.


Can we manage not to get childish today? At least for once.
I was almost happy it wouldn't veer that angle.

So much for hoping.

My opinion at the beginning remains the same.
Dude has a pathetic excuse. So I ain't trying to dig out of anything.

crackhaus:

It's childish stating (which is evident for all to see) that you are quoting left, right, and centre the ladies that support your line of thought - but it is not childish when you tell me to my face that I can't father another woman's children?

So apart from the excuse of her maltreating the children or not washing clothes, the other complains are pathetic?

Me I like being childish o, that line always bounces off me like ball on rock...

Na you go taya...

cococandy:
yet they managed to visit?

They probably visited and fought her because she didn't make fried rice and chicken to serve them on her knees . I'm almost certain that's when the slap happened.

And
Yes she denied being rude to her in-laws.

crackhaus:

How did you know they managed to visit, and why are you almost certain that's when the slap occurred?

cococandy:
where did they slap her before? In their own rented apartment?
They came to their father and his wife's house and slapped her.

Brb.

cococandy:
Of course it is childish you have problems With who I'm quoting.
Thank God you noted their points of view supported my line of thought. So tell me again how I'm canvassing for support.
One would have thought I was trying to convince them to change their posts to type what supports mine.
Since it already did, how did that make sense for you to say I'm canvassing for support?
Oh your problem is that I quoted them
Nothing I won't hear from you.

Ok I won't quote them again.
In fact I won't like any posts that doesn't agree with your opinion anymore since all those things give you headache.

Of course I maintain you can't father another man's kids. All you have to do is say you can and I will stand corrected. Who are you kidding?


Let me go and pray. I will be back.
Na you dey keep vigil.

crackhaus:

How do you know the slap didn't occur before they got their own apartment, and does this change the fact that the woman stopped them from visiting?

crackhaus:

- Childish? - I don't mind.

- Can't father another man's kids? - your opinion, I can't be bothered convincing you of anything personal to me.

- Headache because of you? - only in your wet dreams.

Did I leave anything out? Cos it's about time we get back on topic fruit-cake

cococandy:


If you really like to stay on topic, you wouldn't love so much to deviate from the issues and complain about who's quoting who.

Well you obviously have a headache with who's opinion I like especially if it is against yours. You can prove me wrong by remaining on track next time instead complaining about it.

cococandy:
mmm. Nothing is impossible anyway. But I'm wondering how she stopped them from visiting.
They are more than one and probably in their twenties.
One can believe they don't get along when they visit but to say she stopped them from visiting as if they are infants that can be told what to do makes me have further reasons to doubt this man's bogus tales

dinachi:

Console yourself, Skank!

laplace12:


Who said she is feeding them So cooking food that is provided by the man means feeding them?

Truth is the man wants to bond with his children before they eventually leave the house but the woman is not letting it happen. His children seem more important to him than the arrogant, angry and rude woman. It is his choice.

SAMBARRY:
this wimp doesn't want to give up sha.pele employment will soon come for you and your likes entertaining yourself on nl and putting food on seuns table. Awon loosers and weaklings association of nl




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