NiceMan4:
Dating is good, it exposes both of you. You know yourselves better, and yes, no one is perfect, but you are aware of each other's imperfections, you work to adjust it.

I know many people will argue that dating helps you to know the right man or woman-there is actually no perfect one, dating only helps us to get familar with each other, along with our good and bad sides. Because of that argument, people continue to jump from one girl/boy to another in search of mr or mrs right, and most times this search is frustrating because non of those you meet seem to be right in your perception, so who then is the right or perfect one? Are you perfect to start with? At the end of the day, we hurt ourselves instead of finding what we desired.

These are the effects of dating who you'll not marry.

You feel guilty of your past deeds. Especially the females, you remember all the rough play you had with some guys back then, and you feel guilty.

You are hurt: As one relationship terminate and the other, there are always tears of heartbreak.

You may develope feelings for your past lovers, and then you may just cheat. This can kill your marriage, you know.

You are likely to love your present spouse less than you normally would.. Because you've loved several men or women before, and it seems love is not even real again.

You may be ashamed of some people you dated before, especially when you attain greatness.

Please, keep to one boy or girl and be faithful to him or her. Let your first love also be your last love. I know what I'm saying. The love and affection you share is unqualifiable.

xpac01:
Nice one. But all these effects only sets in if the person in question has a sound conscience. I've met lots of people who don't give a damn about the past and not even the future. Smh for them sha.

MzNelly:
99% of everyone on earth won't get married to their "first love."

Yes, welcome to reality.

MzNelly:
99% of everyone on earth won't get married to their "first love."

Yes, welcome to reality.

rokiatu:
I got married to mine.

rokiatu:
Yea thanks indeed very rare. Destiny brought us back together.

NiceMan4:
Wrong statistics

Wrong orientation

False reality.

rokiatu:
lol I don't relate my happiness to only a man really, I believe we are solely responsible for our own happiness. But no doubt he make my life brighter, he's a wonderful guy. I couldn't ask for better. But I'd don't think am happy because he's my first love but rather because he's the man for me.

MzNelly:


Lol

Life is not white and grey, anymore.

The times have changed.

This is OUR reality.

NiceMan4:
Sounds romantic. Thats good.

NiceMan4:
I just understand you are being influenced by your experiences to hold that view. Actually, I'm aware of what OUR present reality is turning to be like, hence my advise. However, I know there are people (many) who still get married to their first love, not because they wanted to from the onset, but because of the overwhelming power of their bond as "new and fresh lovers", they can't afford to loose each other. I know you are aware of cases many people confess to still being attracted to their first love-well, its the work of first love chemistry, as I would term it.

MzNelly:


I'm not talking of experiences here; I'm talking of things I've seen.
Many people? Truth be told, the only "first lovers" I've seen get married are my parents and...well, Mrs Rokiatu.
Factors may warrant that "first lovers" who swear heaven and earth in promising not to leave each other still part ways and find, even greater happiness in someone else's arms.

This whole "first love" issue is seriously overrated. And I stand here to say today, that THERE IS NOTHING SPECIAL ABOUT ONE'S FIRST LOVE.

Are you still with yours?

NiceMan4:
I submit.

naijaboiy:
Its possible for you to get married to your first Love.

But I don't know if it's possible for the both of you to be together from the onset till you finally get married.

Most times they separate and end up meeting other people that they may date for a while before fate brings them back together again.

sekzy99:
Abegi, na wash jare

rokiatu:
I got married to mine.

elantraceey:
ok

nomabeeee:
destiny brought u guys back together? Can I ask a question pls..how did it happen? Did u guys really date till he asked u to marry him..pls I rily wnt to understand the phrase "destiny brought us back together" waiting..thanks

fuckerholic:

Nelly am beginning to love you by your phylosophies..so real like mine..

klodike:
I want to follow you

fuckerholic:

Who is this flirt

naijaboiy:
Its possible for you to get married to your first Love.

But I don't know if it's possible for the both of you to be together from the onset till you finally get married.

Most times they separate and end up meeting other people that they may date for a while before fate brings them back together again.

Samito247:
nollywood series...lemme guess the title uhmm Everlasting love or that kind thing shaaa...smh

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