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Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Ezeanna: 10:33pm On Jan 27, 2015 |
Lateralmaths: in as much as I admire your desire to counsel people to have succesful marriages by insisting that the woman be submissive and the man love unconditionally, I would like to point out to you that your expectations are impossible. The hearts of humans is inherently selfish; and asking one partner to submit without limit and expecting the other to be true and just and not take advantage of the situation becomes an impossible concept. In my opinion, marriage needs love and respect from both parties to grow. That is what makes it a partnership. The concept of demanding total submission from the one and then exhorting the other to love without reserve is equal to saying marriage is meant for the gods alone. Cos neither the man nor the woman can achieve that kind of perfection. Mytwocents. 7 Likes |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by crackhaus: 10:41pm On Jan 27, 2015 |
donpeey22:A president is the head, leader, and administrator of a country - he does not call all the shots or make all the decisions. Mere recognizing that someone is the head of the home can't equate to submission because that's not the definition you like - you prefer the intelligent/dummy definition you've been going on about. To answer your question, yes it is possible for two people to jointly own and manage an institution equally provided there's a set rule governing such partnership by which both partners must abide, and which will determine who makes what contributions in the partnership.It is impossible, but I wasn't expecting you to type otherwise at the risk of digging holes in your own argument. 3 Likes |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 10:51pm On Jan 27, 2015 |
Ezeanna:the foundation is God. with God all things are possible. 1 Like |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Nobody: 11:24pm On Jan 27, 2015 |
crackhaus:I asked u a question which you have not answered. We agreed in one of my posts that submission in marriage means one partner yielding to and being led by the other, and I asked to what does the submissive partner yield if not to the decisions of the other. Your analogy with the President can only be acceptable if you agree that a woman can as well become the leader of the home same way she can be elected president of the country.And mind you, a good President does not and should never expect total submission from those he is leading, unless he is autocratic. And yes, mere recognition does not in any way equate to being submissive. 2 Likes |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Nobody: 12:25am On Jan 28, 2015 |
NickiRoman: Buhaahaha. abeg see me see wahala. Trouble sleep yanga go wake am. E dey nag all over the place. |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 5:43am On Jan 28, 2015 |
In the bible Sarah called Abraham her lord. Is that submission? |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by pickabeau1: 6:23am On Jan 28, 2015 |
Lateralmaths: Its like you are new here The anathema here is one word that begins with S |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 6:34am On Jan 28, 2015 |
pickabeau1:I don't get you sir. |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 6:35am On Jan 28, 2015 |
Lateralmaths:Abraham also listened to Sarah. |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by crackhaus: 6:43am On Jan 28, 2015 |
donpeey22:Whatever works for you bro... Cheers! |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 7:58am On Jan 28, 2015 |
Ewuro4:lol stoopid |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by pickabeau1: 8:05am On Jan 28, 2015 |
Lateralmaths: You will get it soon |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by EfemenaXY: 8:05am On Jan 28, 2015 |
anthoniaz: And what do you get in return? Or were you trained to believe that a "good" wife is one who bends over backwards to give the man everything, yet expect nothing in return for herself? 2 Likes |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Nobody: 8:15am On Jan 28, 2015 |
The wifes greatest weapon" is to be able to have her husbands listening ear & soft spot and she needs to find out how to do acheive that posiiton. All men/marriages are different so she should work out what exactly "trips" her own husband Not all men want a woman to kneel down and not all men want to be called "My Lord" and not all men want their women to go head to head with them, so what suits A may not suit B When a wife has her husbands listening ear and his soft spot, he would want to do everything to please her and make her happy. So very early on in the relationship the woman needs to find those spots and establish her self there. When I have time, I will post my thoughts on the "Husbands greatest weapon" thread as well. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 8:21am On Jan 28, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:stooping to conquer. The aim is to conquer him (to find his mumu button,and knowing how to press it). 1 Like |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by EfemenaXY: 8:22am On Jan 28, 2015 |
blublahd: Are you insinuating that the working wife should spend her hard earned money to act / become the "safety deposit box" of the man's extended family? Despite her fully shouldering the responsiblity 100% of her nuclear family? And what would the broke ärsëd nigger be doing in the meantime? Acting the "head" and directing her on how and what to spend on his family while she submissively complies without a squeak? This is unbelievable. Nigerian women in Naija don suffer. 2 Likes |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 8:24am On Jan 28, 2015 |
chaircover:I agree with you ma. Every woman find your man's soft spot (warri people call it 'mumu button') and establish yourself there. |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 8:25am On Jan 28, 2015 |
pickabeau1:ok I am waiting. |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by EfemenaXY: 8:34am On Jan 28, 2015 |
Lateralmaths: And what does stooping mean to you? Why must she "stoop" to get across to him? Is she his inferior? 1 Like |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by pickabeau1: 8:34am On Jan 28, 2015 |
Lateralmaths: OK. |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by crackhaus: 8:34am On Jan 28, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: EfemenaXY: EfemenaXY: It's much too early to be antagonizing, misinterpreting, and making use of sensationalism in an attempt at passing a cliche point. What is your own opinion regarding the topic? What is a wife's greatest weapon? 4 Likes |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 8:39am On Jan 28, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:Efemena mavo? to me stooping means this chaircover: |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by EfemenaXY: 8:46am On Jan 28, 2015 |
Lateralmaths: Ma rëi. Ko bu wö? I disagree with your concepts. Totally. The qualities you advocate for aren't wifely qualities, but those of an obedient servant. 1 Like |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by EfemenaXY: 8:50am On Jan 28, 2015 |
Lateralmaths: Let's assume for the sake of this argument I have no religious afflictions. How would you level with me? #In your own words# 2 Likes |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 8:58am On Jan 28, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:What religious affiliations did our fore fathers have? we know marriages were more successful those days compared to our days. 1 Like |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by anthoniaz(f): 9:10am On Jan 28, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:I get everything in return. 3 Likes |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Amhappy(f): 9:20am On Jan 28, 2015 |
@Lateralmaths you are a good counsellor. However there are no two methods for everyone. A collegue told me a painful story of how her brother's wife died. She was this dovey loving,submissive and humble type to the extent that she was condoning her husband's bad behaviours ;infidelity and keeping late nights even to the dismay of her MIl and Sil. She saw it as a way to get into his heart and stop his bad ways. To cut the long story short,the husband mistress killed her and now he is married to that woman. |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 9:26am On Jan 28, 2015 |
Amhappy:Thanks. Like it has been said stooping is not foolishness. You need wisdom to understand what stooping is. No woman should stoop at the expense of her life. 1 Like |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by 5minsmadness: 11:26am On Jan 28, 2015 |
pickabeau1: I tried to warn him... |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 11:31am On Jan 28, 2015 |
5minsmadness:Pls explain further |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by pickabeau1: 11:42am On Jan 28, 2015 |
5minsmadness: He has been dished to a load of this weapon by our resident femmes Maybe he will know how far |
Re: A Wife's Greatest Weapon. by Lateralmaths(m): 11:46am On Jan 28, 2015 |
pickabeau1:Submission? |
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