12 Characteristics Of TRUE Love.
It makes the world go ’round, right? Well, at
least that’s the how the saying goes. But is it
true? It should be, but so many people
confuse love with things like jealousy or
possessiveness. True love isn’t either of
those things. But these 12 things are.
So here are the characteristics of REAL love:
1. Love means letting go of expectations.
Sure, we all want people to behave the way
we want them to. We want them to be more
affectionate. Or more outgoing. Or smarter.
Or more ambitious. All of these things are
expectations. Expectations are just your
requirements for “acceptability” of loving
someone. But true love has no expectations.
It simply loves “as is.”
2. Love doesn’t play the victim role or blame
others.
Love doesn’t think others are “out to get
them.” Love doesn’t think their loved ones are
wrong. Love works together. It takes
responsibility. It forgives and allows other
people’s actions to be their journey. Love
doesn’t take things personally.
3. Love includes letting go.
Love doesn’t equal possession. Just as the
saying goes, “If you love something, set it
free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it doesn’t,
then it never was.” There is truth to that. Love
allows people their freedom. It doesn’t hold
tightly and crush their wings in attempt to
keep them. True love doesn’t want to
possess. It is willing to set you free if you
want to be.
4. Love doesn’t require you to continue a
relationship.
You may love someone very much, but you
may not be compatible with them. Or they
may drive you crazy with their continued
disregard for your feelings. You can still love
them, but that doesn’t mean you have to be
with them. Love doesn’t mean that you have
to stay, and stay and stay. You can leave the
relationship and love them anyway.
5. Love has no room for jealousy.
Like possession, jealousy doesn’t equal love.
We think that if we’re not jealous of our loved
ones that it means that we don’t love them.
True love has confidence in the quality of the
relationship. It knows that the other person
is happy and content coming back to you and
only you.
6. Love is the absence of fear.
You can put all emotions on a continuum. On
one end, you have love. Then appreciation.
After that, it’s joy, happiness, contentment
and satisfaction. On the opposite end of the
continuum of love is fear. Other fear-based
emotions include, hatred, insecurity, jealousy
or greed.
7. Love is not needing and wanting. One of
the things we try to teach kids is that there is
a clear difference between a want and a
need. Needing someone is a feeling based in
fear. You fear that you can’t live without
them, so you need them. And remember, fear
is the opposite of love. Wanting someone in
your life gives them the freedom to leave, but
still shows them you love them.
8. Love is an action, not just a feeling.
Humans tend to be addicted to intense
emotion — especially when it feels good. So,
when we’re in love, we want to feel that way
forever. But guess what? That higher than
“Cloud 9″" feeling goes away after a while.
That doesn’t mean you don’t love the other
person anymore, it just means that it’s not
new anymore. So that’s where the action
needs to kick in. Show the person you love
them. Don’t just assume they know.
9. Love is unconditional.
The word ‘unconditional’ means that there
are no expectations or limitations set. To love
unconditionally is a difficult thing, and most
humans aren’t good at that. But true love
really does love without trying to change the
other person.
10. Love means putting other people’s needs
equal to — or before — your own.
While people may be inherently selfish for
survival purposes, this does not serve us well
in relationships. If you don’t put other
people’s needs at least equal to your own,
they will grow resentful. Real love truly,
genuinely cares about other people’s
happiness and will go to great lengths to
make people feel valued.
11. Love is the highest vibration emotion that
there is.
Science has proven that emotions like love
and fear have very different vibrations. They
can actually measure them. Love vibrates very
fast, whereas fear-based emotions (think
jealousy, possessiveness, hatred, greed, etc.)
vibrate very slowly. When you love completely
and unconditionally , there is no fear
involved. The vibrations of love make you feel
good at all times.
12. Love requires attention.
Love doesn’t ignore. It doesn’t look the other
way. It wants to be present and be together.
When people are in love, sometimes they
think that they don’t have to “do any more
work.” But real love actually enjoys giving
attention to another person. It feels good,
and doesn’t see giving attention to another
person as a chore

Nice.

13 love does not exist in Nigeria

Recently dumped babes be like

AyokunleRuth:
13 love does not exist in Nigeria

Copy and paste!

iceberylin:

You must have been dunped like 1million times

Not really dumped.
But heart broken

Iceberylin, quote me when this hit FP.

AyokunleRuth:

Not really dumped.
But heart broken

Sorry love...
Its all about finding the right one

Wuuworld:
Iceberylin, quote me when this hit FP.

How much you go pay

iceberylin:

Sorry love...
Its all about finding the right one

thanks
but i gave up on that search long ago

AyokunleRuth:

thanks
but i gave up on that search long ago

It will find you..dont worry

iceberylin:


It will find you..dont worry

iceberylin:

How much you go pay

Are u Judas iscariot?....why d love for money

Wuuworld:
Are u Judas iscariot?....why d love for money

I be igbo man

Gini bu love?