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12 Characteristics Of True Love by daniwealth(m): 8:52am On Jan 30, 2015 |
12 Characteristics Of TRUE Love. It makes the world go ’round, right? Well, at least that’s the how the saying goes. But is it true? It should be, but so many people confuse love with things like jealousy or possessiveness. True love isn’t either of those things. But these 12 things are. So here are the characteristics of REAL love: 1. Love means letting go of expectations. Sure, we all want people to behave the way we want them to. We want them to be more affectionate. Or more outgoing. Or smarter. Or more ambitious. All of these things are expectations. Expectations are just your requirements for “acceptability” of loving someone. But true love has no expectations. It simply loves “as is.” 2. Love doesn’t play the victim role or blame others. Love doesn’t think others are “out to get them.” Love doesn’t think their loved ones are wrong. Love works together. It takes responsibility. It forgives and allows other people’s actions to be their journey. Love doesn’t take things personally. 3. Love includes letting go. Love doesn’t equal possession. Just as the saying goes, “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, then it never was.” There is truth to that. Love allows people their freedom. It doesn’t hold tightly and crush their wings in attempt to keep them. True love doesn’t want to possess. It is willing to set you free if you want to be. 4. Love doesn’t require you to continue a relationship. You may love someone very much, but you may not be compatible with them. Or they may drive you crazy with their continued disregard for your feelings. You can still love them, but that doesn’t mean you have to be with them. Love doesn’t mean that you have to stay, and stay and stay. You can leave the relationship and love them anyway. 5. Love has no room for jealousy. Like possession, jealousy doesn’t equal love. We think that if we’re not jealous of our loved ones that it means that we don’t love them. True love has confidence in the quality of the relationship. It knows that the other person is happy and content coming back to you and only you. 6. Love is the absence of fear. You can put all emotions on a continuum. On one end, you have love. Then appreciation. After that, it’s joy, happiness, contentment and satisfaction. On the opposite end of the continuum of love is fear. Other fear-based emotions include, hatred, insecurity, jealousy or greed. 7. Love is not needing and wanting. One of the things we try to teach kids is that there is a clear difference between a want and a need. Needing someone is a feeling based in fear. You fear that you can’t live without them, so you need them. And remember, fear is the opposite of love. Wanting someone in your life gives them the freedom to leave, but still shows them you love them. 8. Love is an action, not just a feeling. Humans tend to be addicted to intense emotion — especially when it feels good. So, when we’re in love, we want to feel that way forever. But guess what? That higher than “Cloud 9″" feeling goes away after a while. That doesn’t mean you don’t love the other person anymore, it just means that it’s not new anymore. So that’s where the action needs to kick in. Show the person you love them. Don’t just assume they know. 9. Love is unconditional. The word ‘unconditional’ means that there are no expectations or limitations set. To love unconditionally is a difficult thing, and most humans aren’t good at that. But true love really does love without trying to change the other person. 10. Love means putting other people’s needs equal to — or before — your own. While people may be inherently selfish for survival purposes, this does not serve us well in relationships. If you don’t put other people’s needs at least equal to your own, they will grow resentful. Real love truly, genuinely cares about other people’s happiness and will go to great lengths to make people feel valued. 11. Love is the highest vibration emotion that there is. Science has proven that emotions like love and fear have very different vibrations. They can actually measure them. Love vibrates very fast, whereas fear-based emotions (think jealousy, possessiveness, hatred, greed, etc.) vibrate very slowly. When you love completely and unconditionally , there is no fear involved. The vibrations of love make you feel good at all times. 12. Love requires attention. Love doesn’t ignore. It doesn’t look the other way. It wants to be present and be together. When people are in love, sometimes they think that they don’t have to “do any more work.” But real love actually enjoys giving attention to another person. It feels good, and doesn’t see giving attention to another person as a chore 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by Nobody: 9:08am On Jan 30, 2015 |
Nice. |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by Nobody: 9:17am On Jan 30, 2015 |
13 love does not exist in Nigeria |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by iceberylin(m): 9:21am On Jan 30, 2015 |
Recently dumped babes be like AyokunleRuth: |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by Rapmoney(m): 9:24am On Jan 30, 2015 |
Copy and paste! |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by Nobody: 9:25am On Jan 30, 2015 |
iceberylin:Not really dumped. But heart broken |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by Wuuworld(m): 9:25am On Jan 30, 2015 |
Iceberylin, quote me when this hit FP. |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by iceberylin(m): 9:28am On Jan 30, 2015 |
AyokunleRuth:Sorry love... Its all about finding the right one |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by iceberylin(m): 9:28am On Jan 30, 2015 |
Wuuworld:How much you go pay |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by Nobody: 9:30am On Jan 30, 2015 |
iceberylin:thanks but i gave up on that search long ago |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by iceberylin(m): 9:31am On Jan 30, 2015 |
AyokunleRuth: It will find you..dont worry |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by Nobody: 9:33am On Jan 30, 2015 |
iceberylin: |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by Wuuworld(m): 9:37am On Jan 30, 2015 |
iceberylin:Are u Judas iscariot?....why d love for money |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by iceberylin(m): 9:49am On Jan 30, 2015 |
Wuuworld:I be igbo man |
Re: 12 Characteristics Of True Love by yorex2011: 12:05pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Gini bu love? |
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