Ishilove:
I can endure many things, but not odour of anykind. I don't know which is worse between mouth odour and body odour...

Punny odour is the worst.

carefreewannabe:


It doesn't matter what guys, that she finds disgusting, think of her.

irishCream,

I know lots of women who made the same experience with online dating and I am wondering whether these guys should be told or whether a woman oversteps her boundaries and hurts someone by telling a grown up man how to take care of his personal hygiene.

Me is just of the opinion that finding a subtle way to inform those concerned would have been a lot better than this. Not like I'm comfortable with poor personal hygiene but did she really have to broadcast this? Really? What's the goal? How on earth wouldn't those involved feel embarrassed and maybe bitter? She might have even mentioned the persons she met to one or two persons here. I think telling them personally and privately would have been more effective and less controversial. Just my thoughts...
Cc IrishCream

irishCream:
Hello Romancelanders I want to narrate my experience with online dating.

Have always been sceptical about online dating but decided to give it a try after a one year break of dating. I opted out of my previous affair because my ex's family was against him marrying from my tribe so had to end the shiiit, and i gave myself a break since he was acting so indecisive about the whole thing. Now my experience...

I am one of the few nairaland babes that do respond to pm especially if your contribution to this forum has been matured and reasonable irrespective of the section you frequent.

So of all the pms I do have, I sieve and respond to few but so far I'm not impressed with the calibre of men searching online.

After taking risk to exchange my contact and get to meet (in chaperone oh) few of them,about 3, I found out that most men searching online has something terrible about them that makes ladies turn them down in real life that's why they run to online; it is either they are unkempt, razz or not presentable. Some can't even talk like a real man, they are either too weak or timid in real life, no class no nothing.

Forget all those edited pictures used as dp and the likes most of them in real life are dirty!!!

How can a grown up guy don't know how to clean up and look neat. I mean why must your personal hygiene be zero You're meeting someone for the first time and your mouth oozes. I mean, who does that Or is that also attributed to poverty?

I have male cousins that earn less than 50k in a month but they still look neat and presentable.

Is there someone that has experienced the same, be it with male or female?

Or am I alone in this

Haha. I'm so glad that you're disappointed in him. You can't meet guys like us because you're a mediocre. I wish I could give you some tips on how to get a nice guy here but I can't.

carefreewannabe:


If I find a guy unattractive or even disgusting, then it does NOT matter what he thinks of me AT ALL.

And I am sure that she was the one who turned them down for the reasons she mentioned.

I'm trying to give your logic a pass, but it refuses to pass by itself, even with my nudge and urging. How do you mean it does NOT matter AT ALL? Better explanation required, cos there's no logic there.
If you find a guy unattractive, it does matter how he also finds you. You might intend to not follow through with the relationship, and he might have the exact same intentions. I have met ladies who I could perceive didn't agree with some of my views (in a conversation, that is) from the start. And I also didn't agree with their own views. Right there and then, it didn't even matter to me whether we'll continue discussing. Cos I could already see myself not getting along with them. In some other instances, I have in fact completely stopped communicating with them when I saw the differences in views. It didn't matter if they had exact same intentions. Extend the same to perception of physical qualities or attributes and the guy might as well have given up long before the lady did. Trust me, some ladies who claim posh are in fact nothing but disgusting underneath.

Back to the topic, is online dating risky? Yes, it is.

Is online dating risky? I would say even riskier. You don't see the person to start with, and there's no reason you should encourage liking him or her. If anything, the approach she took is much better. They met each other and things decided itself from there. At that moment, it stopped being online dating.

Do all guys who search for women online, have no chance in real life? No, but many.

Of course, it's true. I agree.

Because it is.

Thought as much

HFOG:

Me is just of the opinion that finding a subtle way to inform those concerned would have been a lot better than this. Not like I'm comfortable with poor personal hygiene but did she really have to broadcast this? Really? What's the goal? How on earth wouldn't those involved feel embarrassed and maybe bitter? She might have even mentioned the persons she met to one or two persons here. I think telling them personally and privately would have been more effective and less controversial. Just my thoughts...
Cc IrishCream

Subtle does not work with men but I agree with the rest and I hope that she has not exposed anyone.

irishCream:
Hello Romancelanders I want to narrate my experience with online dating.

Have always been sceptical about online dating but decided to give it a try after a one year break of dating. I opted out of my previous affair because my ex's family was against him marrying from my tribe so had to end the shiiit, and i gave myself a break since he was acting so indecisive about the whole thing. Now my experience...

I am one of the few nairaland babes that do respond to pm especially if your contribution to this forum has been matured and reasonable irrespective of the section you frequent.

So of all the pms I do have, I sieve and respond to few but so far I'm not impressed with the calibre of men searching online.

After taking risk to exchange my contact and get to meet (in chaperone oh) few of them,about 3, I found out that most men searching online has something terrible about them that makes ladies turn them down in real life that's why they run to online; it is either they are unkempt, razz or not presentable. Some can't even talk like a real man, they are either too weak or timid in real life, no class no nothing.

Forget all those edited pictures used as dp and the likes most of them in real life are dirty!!!

How can a grown up guy don't know how to clean up and look neat. I mean why must your personal hygiene be zero You're meeting someone for the first time and your mouth oozes. I mean, who does that Or is that also attributed to poverty?

I have male cousins that earn less than 50k in a month but they still look neat and presentable.

Is there someone that has experienced the same, be it with male or female?

Or am I alone in this

Haha. I'm so glad that you're disappointed in him. You can't meet guys like us because you're a mediocre. I wish I could give you some tips on how to get a nice guy here but I can't.

I haven't met anyone on Nairaland though.

Ishilove:

Better facial hair than a stinking orifice. Jeez

Nah female facial hair is disgusting!

irishCream:


Your personal text says it all so I won't argue much with you so now to the topic on ground how is your personal hygiene? I mean are you aware your mouth oozes

Is he one of d guys?

irishCream:
Hello Romancelanders I want to narrate my experience with online dating.

Have always been sceptical about online dating but decided to give it a try after a one year break of dating. I opted out of my previous affair because my ex's family was against him marrying from my tribe so had to end the shiiit, and i gave myself a break since he was acting so indecisive about the whole thing. Now my experience...

I am one of the few nairaland babes that do respond to pm especially if your contribution to this forum has been matured and reasonable irrespective of the section you frequent.

So of all the pms I do have, I sieve and respond to few but so far I'm not impressed with the calibre of men searching online.

After taking risk to exchange my contact and get to meet (in chaperone oh) few of them,about 3, I found out that most men searching online has something terrible about them that makes ladies turn them down in real life that's why they run to online; it is either they are unkempt, razz or not presentable. Some can't even talk like a real man, they are either too weak or timid in real life, no class no nothing.

Forget all those edited pictures used as dp and the likes most of them in real life are dirty!!!

How can a grown up guy don't know how to clean up and look neat. I mean why must your personal hygiene be zero You're meeting someone for the first time and your mouth oozes. I mean, who does that Or is that also attributed to poverty?

I have male cousins that earn less than 50k in a month but they still look neat and presentable.

Is there someone that has experienced the same, be it with male or female?

Or am I alone in this

U want a Clean man... An already Made man... Very Wealthy I pity You.. Dats why 40% of our 9ja girls dont get married ....... Mrs Op why not Support 1 of dem... show dem how to be Clean... Hmmm... Join in dia struggle and hustle... Give it a try

goofyone:


I'm trying to give your logic a pass, but it refuses to pass by itself, even with my nudge and urging. How do you mean it does NOT matter AT ALL? Better explanation required, cos there's no logic there.
If you find a guy unattractive, it does matter how he also finds you. You might intend to not follow through with the relationship, and he might have the exact same intentions. I have met ladies who I could perceive didn't agree with some of my views (in a conversation, that is) from the start. And I also didn't agree with their own views. Right there and then, it didn't even matter to me whether we'll continue discussing. Cos I could already see myself not getting along with them. In some other instances, I have in fact completely stopped communicating with them when I saw the differences in views. It didn't matter if they had exact same intentions. Extend the same to perception of physical qualities or attributes and the guy might as well have given up long before the lady did. Trust me, some ladies who claim posh are in fact nothing but disgusting underneath.


Is online dating risky? I would say even riskier. You don't see the person to start with, and there's no reason you should encourage liking him or her. If anything, the approach she took is much better. They met each other and things decided itself from there. At that moment, it stopped being online dating.


Of course, it's true. I agree.




Thought as much

If I find a guy unattractive for one reason or another, then it does not matter to me what he thinks of me. Whether he thinks that I am beautiful or ugly, cute or disgusting is absolutely irrelevant.

And she has not opened the thread to find out what the guys thought of her but to find out if other people had similar experience with online dating.

ireneony:
you are so on point...
Most of them are very stingy

and you are??

carefreewannabe:


Subtle does not work with men but I agree with the rest and I hope that she has not exposed anyone.

Oh, thanks. What I meant by 'subtle' was 'gentle', 'careful' etc not to bruise their egos. I thought men feed on respect. Pls educate me

Lol they ain't all that bad! The ones I have met....are/ were super good looking....except just few

lurex2rhyme:
op permit me 2 ask wer is ur ex from cuz is vry rare 4 any tribe be it majority or miniority dat will reject an akwa ibom gal 4 a daughter inlaw nt bcus of 4rm akwa ibom bt i hv my reasons n i travel alot so hv seen our daughter scattered all over nigeria in d name of marriage. who no wan chop beta meal.

It's not only about "better meals". I have a friend that married an Akwa Ibom girl, she's from Oron, when they were dating, she'd come to his house, sweep, wash cloths, cook, phock the guy head scatter... My friend's brother will always tell him "this girl na beta girl o, she go make u happy if u marry her"... They got married in 2012, the guy has grown grey hair, I'm now fatter than him, he rarely sleeps at home, she snores like a rhino, she hardly sweeps the house, expects him to bath the kids while she's still in bed, buys breakfast from mama put... My mom's friend that's from Akwa Ibom told me that even the guys from that girl's village hardly marry from there... This thing called marriage is just useless in this modern time.. People pretend just to get married after that they change.

God will help us o, even though we don't attend Church/Mosque regularly

carefreewannabe:


If I find a guy unattractive for one reason or another, then it does not matter to me what he thinks of me. Whether he thinks that I am beautiful or ugly, cute or disgusting is absolutely irrelevant.

And she has not opened the thread to find out what the guys thought of her but to find out if other people had similar experience with online dating.

Yes, it doesn't matter to you. It also doesn't matter to him, if he thinks along the same line.

Your mailbox just died!!!

RIP Mailbox

[size=14pt]OP said the online guys she met are dirty and stinky.. who knows they might be acting "coming to America" movie.

Don't send the right man away[/size]

Vessi:
And if you are as good as you claim to be you would be getting better suitors offline than online.

God bless you.....if she is presentable why is she going for online hooking Well am glad I just read d diaries of a lonely ugly gurl.

goofyone:

Yes, it doesn't matter to you. It also doesn't matter to him, if he thinks along the same line.

It doesn't matter that it doesn't matter.

edozie04:
some guys will be forming james bond online and be mr ibu in real life

Lolzzz...
I am too risk averse to try online dating.. make we finish the offline own 1st.

irishCream:
I found out that most men searching online has something terrible about them that makes ladies turn them down in real life that's why they run to online; it is either they are unkempt, razz or not presentable. Some can't even talk like a real man, they are either too weak or timid in real life, no class no nothing.

In this country? Unkempt , razz and unpresentable guys?

With the way everybody is packaging this days?

carefreewannabe:


It doesn't matter that it doesn't matter.

Park go left abeg

irishCream:


Dear I over well oh...

Just that the way the guy attacked me shows he's guilty one way or the other

How much do you make? Mature girl...those guys were not impressed too.

You think we are impressed with ur wigs and painting? We just want to puuuu.

BecaciaBarbie:
Lol they ain't all that bad! The ones I have met....are/ were super good looking....except just few

Because you knew what you really want. The OP sounds like one of those losers' girls

goofyone:

Park go left abeg

Does it matter that it doesn't matter?

tintingz:
and you are??

a gold digger ...

irishCream:


I never said I'm perfect but anyone with zero personal hygiene is a big turn off irrespective of the good character, remember the saying "cleanliness is next to godliness"

SMH

irishCream:


I never said I'm perfect but anyone with zero personal hygiene is a big turn off irrespective of the good character, remember the saying "cleanliness is next to godliness"

So because you met 1, 2 or maybe 3 guys from nland that didn't meet your taste you automatically conclude that millions of guys that are searching for love online av zero personal hygiene

Check the attachment in this post.

No guy, not even a barrow pusher that is meeting a bae for the first time will appear the way you described them here. Not one.

They would rather borrow from friends than fall their own hands.

carefreewannabe:


Does it matter that it doesn't matter?

I no sabi English. This one don confuse me finally
I really don't think it matters, I think...

Ariel20:


Lolzzz...
I am too risk averse to try online dating.. make we finish the offline own 1st.

Chu!
you sure say the 'market' go still remain, ?

Kachisbarbie:
Hmm
You were just unlucky.
I have met few Nairalanders and they were cool.

Me too, cool and classy guys.

Maybe she wants to hit a nerve.