pls, am i to dump him and go for another?

Are you really asking .Im of the school of thought that no matter the provocation a man should never lay his hands on a lady.And you are just a girlfriend. If you are his wife what will he turn you to? a punching bag

oh no no no gurl..u aint gon take dat..

kick him to de kurb..and if ur like me..u can hit him in the ballz

Yes, yes, yes, please drop this abusive 'boyfriend' as soon as possible and don't take him back. A boyfriend or husband should not beat you at all, not to talk of beating you a lot. So please drop the jackass as soon as possible - there's absolutely no gain in being a fool for love.

only mad men beat up their spouse. Sometymes girls act like somethin i can't describe, why would you give it two thoughts about dumping the guy. There is nothin like,i like you in this case, If you don't , you might regret later

wat`re u still waiting for why would someone who says he care raise a finger against u? my dear he`s not the right guy dats too bad run now before he kills u

Well i respect ladies 4 who they are.. they ain't puching bagz no matter what she has done.. Both of you just have to comprise.. don't kick him out yet canzandra, comfront him and tell him.. if you still love him oh.. but i dislyke the idea of dat man beating her.. even though she has committed one thing or the other.. beating worsen the case men..

hmmmmhm

Smartsoft dont try going there

Even if she confronts him,he has no right,justification to lay his filthy hands on her,

no matter what the case might be.

So my dear jump out of that relationship so that u can live to tell the story.

Well i guess i said something.

i would leave him for good because we are not meant for each other

Your boyfriend beats you? Haba, what would happen if you eventually marry him?

Abeg, to me a man must not raise his hands to beat a woman no matter the gravity of the offence she has commited.

Soft words turns away wrath now says the Bible. If he cant sit you down to iron things out with you, then he's a GONER. Why is he then in love with you? Love beareth all things and tolerates too. It's sacrificial. Enough of the Mike Tyson stuff pls

Kindly do away with him

You even stayed when he slapped u the first time, u tried. Abeg leave the guy jo, your parents didn't bring you into the world for another man to use you as his punching bag. If you have elders brothers, tell them what's going on so they can teach him a lesson. If he starts doing this now and eventually you guyz get married, only God knows what he'll be doing to you then. He's not worth it pls.

hold on, this question had A LOT in it. wtf man? how can you even do that to yourself? letting a guy beat you up continuously? please what happened to standing up for yourself the first time - and by standing up i mean using a pestle _{(u know d ones for pounding yam right?)} ? -
And you even stayed after the second time if i may ask, did he BUY you? if he didn't, u got serious issues with yourself then.

@ pestle

wow.. Gurl... DUMP HIM! period.

torture first

i say twist his nipples very hard and kick him in de ballz

No! that is not toture, that's love play. Go to his place and lock him in. Tie him down as if u want to treat him nicely. Then.. whoop his ass.. ohh Lizzy like.

Anyways u don't really need to toture much. Just break the windows of his car, and set his fire alarm on.. by burning some stuff. And ermm, u could also want to change his shaving lotion to waxing lotion.. ohh oh pur some hair cutting stuff in his shampoo.

gud one hehe..slash his tired..pour bleach on his work clothes..ice baby ice

coolie.

Y'all don't know stuff do like Angela Bassett in 'Waiting to Exhale', then tempt him like genny did to Ramsey in 'Break up'. that shud work.

girlfriend, u need to get out of that relationship fast. i saw this story on Oprah and it was all over the news in the U.S. this woman was in an abusive relationship and it was really bad. her mum came to stay with her for a while (she and her boyfriend were living together) and then one day he got really angry with her and took a gun and shot her point blank in the face. he then turned around and killed her mum cos she was the only living witness. he thought his girlfriend was dead but someone came in and helped her and now she's alive but her face is nothing to write home about. it's really horrible. she lost her mother and her face all because she refused to wise up and leave that mo'fo as soon as he hit her the 1st time.

there is no excuse for a man hitting a woman. it's just WRONG and no one should tolerate it for even a minute. LEAVE HIM BEFORE THINGS GET OUT OF HAND!!!!!!

Only one word of advice here: RUN. Leave the bastard before he kills you.

You are not yet his wife and be beats you a lot and you are still asking if you are to dump him.

To be sincere, when you asked yourself this question, what was your own answer and if you haven't, please do and answer back.

Dearheart, do not do this to yourself for no reason PLEASE! PLEASE!! AND PLEASE!!!

On a lighter note, I want to believe this is not happening to you but it is your imagination for a POST in this forum.

Lol... I remember someone (a female friend) whose boyfriend occassionally beat her. I asked her why she wouldn't leave him? She said it's because he loves her. To this day, that still makes me laugh, I pee in my pants. Ok, maybe not, but you get the idea.

I'd recommend that you leave him, immediately. No questions asked, no reconciliations, nothing. He's not worth it.

Girl i don't know what u r waiting for. In a matter like this you don't give it a second thought just do what u got to do by DUMPING his ass up. However if it was me i woudn't only dump him but i would have hire some people to give him a lesson of his life. A very good lesson that he would never forget even if his life depended on it. What nonsense ,please i beg dump his ass up, and move on with life or unless you want me to do it for u, u can holla at me girlfriend lol

stick with him honey while you are alive, when you are six-feet under the ground, guess you wouldn't have any choice but to leave him then.

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stick with him honey while you are alive, when you are six-feet under the ground, guess you wouldn't have any choice but to leave him then.

L.M.A.O how funny!!!

Baby, he's your boyfriend and not your husband.
look at you fingers, do you see any Gold or siver ring with a diamond stud? NO!
so you know what? tell him to 'HIT THE ROAD' and never take him back, cos a broken relationship is alot better than a broken marriage. You know what, there are a thousand guys out there waiting to treat you like the queen that you are.
salvage the situation while you can.

to those of you saying he's not YET her husband, are you saying it will be right if he was her husband, which infact means the term wife-beating is right?

Better dump him, he's beating you up now that hes just your boyfriend, so wat will happen wen you get married and live with him?, he surely must be a desperate man...