Hello people,pls kindly advise me on how to go about resolving this issue in my marriage. I have been married for 13yrs now,but since last year,June to be precise,I have not had any sexual intercourse with my husband,reason being that he can not seems to get an erection. I will work all the magic I can on him,yet nothing happens,I am beginning to get fustrated with the whole situation and what pains me though is that he refuses to see a doctor.I have asked him to cut short his drinking habits to know where the problem is coming from,he still drinks. Pls I need help from you guys,anyone who has gone through these,should help wit some constructive advice or medications or herbal drugs to save my marriage or am going to call it quits.

Don't quit pls. He has to take a break from his regular conduct. Frustration might Ve led him to drinking

Dnt get Urself frustrated.Some peeps on NL dnt have nothing to offer U but to mock U over dis sensitive issue that one can learn from.U dnt have to quit Ur marriage/involved in extra marital affiar due to Ur maan inability to satisfied U.I believe in Prayer as I believe in Medicine.Dnt be aggressive,plead with him to see a doctor/find a good herbal medicine for him(dnt consult those scammer that advertised in complete Sports paper oo,cos some of them are just looking for who to fleeced.May God restored Ur Marriage and deliver Ur hubby from alcoholic habit.Quitting doesn't solve anything,NEVER GIVE UP

My dear, you don't run away from challenges. Here, since you are not the one directly involve, it may be a bit difficult to get things fixed. However, you can still do something. Since this problem wasn't there when you got married to him, it means something went wrong along the line. Talk to him calmly about what may be wrong or what he has done. It might not be the drink. I'll recommend you visit the SCOAN in Lagos with him. It might be a spiritual problem. Again, don't run away, he is still your husband and you have to stand by him always.

I had a similar challenge when I met my gf, at first she never told me that she was asthmatic. I talked to her and she accepted and then we moved on then after like a month she said there's something she'll like to let me know, so I asked what is it? And then she told me she was asthmatic. At first I felt so uncomfortable, I couldn't say anything. She suspected I wasn't okay again and then she asked me if she should go afterall I wouldn't be the first running away from her. I was still quite. Later I said to her, don't worry, don't go to anywhere, let's still be together, I'll fight it with you. From that day I took it upon myself that this thing must leave her and today, it has. She's totally free from it. She can now sleep very well without some loud snoring noise that wouldn't let me sleep when she is sleeping. I give God thanks because He alone did it.

Same story can be yours if you don't give up. Talk to him and make a move. There's no challenge too big for God to handle. If you go to SCOAN, I promise you'll get more than a healing for him. It'll be a total turnaround for your family.

Cheers.

kodyx:
Hello people,pls kindly advise me on how to go about resolving this issue in my marriage. I have been married for 13yrs now,but since last year,June to be precise,I have not had any sexual intercourse with my husband,reason being that he can not seems to get an erection. I will work all the magic I can on him,yet nothing happens,I am beginning to get fustrated with the whole situation and what pains me though is that he refuses to see a doctor.I have asked him to cut short his drinking habits to know where the problem is coming from,he still drinks. Pls I need help from you guys,anyone who has gone through these,should help wit some constructive advice or medications or herbal drugs to save my marriage or am going to call it quits.

Hi, have you ever considered if you are the problem? Many women tend to stop doing certain things that make the testosterone run faster than a Ferrari. Give him a break and bring sexiness to the house. Use some expensive fruit flavoured perfume, shave your whole body, wear a hot and sexy body net, and watch him stand erect until he can't wait to have you.

Best of luck

@OP,

Firstly, I can see you're a good person! Forget all those Ignoble humans telling you its your fault! I dont believe you would have even married your husband if his Pen(i)s was dysfunctional. Now unto the cure:

1. He MUST stop his drinking
2. He MUST understand its a problem - He is starving you and could push you to extra marital affairs, leading to marriage crash
3. He must seek help (medical, trado-medical, Spiritual too) - Visit a Doctor
4. There are drugs that can invigorate his sexual appetite - VIAGRA is one of them.

I wish you good luck. Also contact me if you need more...

kodyx:
Hello people,pls kindly advise me on how to go about resolving this issue in my marriage. I have been married for 13yrs now,but since last year,June to be precise,I have not had any sexual intercourse with my husband,reason being that he can not seems to get an erection. I will work all the magic I can on him,yet nothing happens,I am beginning to get fustrated with the whole situation and what pains me though is that he refuses to see a doctor.I have asked him to cut short his drinking habits to know where the problem is coming from,he still drinks. Pls I need help from you guys,anyone who has gone through these,should help wit some constructive advice or medications or herbal drugs to save my marriage or am going to call it quits.

mydear i suggest herbal med but nothing will work if he doesn't accept it working or determine to try,it is a mental issue.

Madam there is no need to see anyone. You are the solution to your problem. Let me start by going biblical. Proverbs 14v1 and 15v1 has alot for you. A man that is sick know that he is sick and not you telling him that he is. Give a man happiness love and affection, he will live to cherish you forever. Look around yourself there is somewhere you are not doing it right. You sound like you know more than he is but that is not true. Your behaviour irritates him and that is the major cause of your problem. Change your attitude towards him then you will live to enjoy your marriage. See him first in your life and be the neck that carries the head and whach out whether you will not be a dish always in his life. It's simple as that. Wish you well.

kodyx:
Hello people,pls kindly advise me on how to go about resolving this issue in my marriage. I have been married for 13yrs now,but since last year,June to be precise,I have not had any sexual intercourse with my husband,reason being that he can not seems to get an erection. I will work all the magic I can on him,yet nothing happens,I am beginning to get fustrated with the whole situation and what pains me though is that he refuses to see a doctor.I have asked him to cut short his drinking habits to know where the problem is coming from,he still drinks. Pls I need help from you guys,anyone who has gone through these,should help wit some constructive advice or medications or herbal drugs to save my marriage or am going to call it quits.

Solutions:
1) Since he has refused to see a doctor, make yam pepper soup and ensure you spice it up with good amount of garlic and ginger. This will help flush his system from bacteria and excess alcohol
2) Give him plenty of water to drink
3) Change your pre-sex routine...perhaps, he's bored with doing the samething over and over again..... Spice up your sex life.....
4) Buy for him alomo bitters and ensure he takes it regularly for 2 - 3 days... If he doesn't tear his boxers at night, sue me