Must Read! 10 Reasons Men Dump You (Listen Up, Ladies!)

have you been into relationships and get heart breaks? Read this post and know your mistakes.

If you've ever had your heart broken, I'm going to give it to you
straight. While every breakup happens differently, a lot of guys tend to come up with the same reasons. If we really think about it,
it can't ALWAYS be something that the guys did ... can it? Of course,
this doesn't fit every instance of a breakup, and this doesn't apply
to every woman but it does leave us wondering. Check out these
ten reasons why he may have broken up with you.

1. Women don't listen. When a man says something, give him a chance to speak. Listen to what he says. The problem is that
sometimes, guys will end up with someone who makes him feel as
though he doesn't know what he's talking about. We're not always
right, but we do have opinions, and it gets under our skin when
we're made to feel like our opinion doesn't matter. Who wants to
stay with someone like that?

2. Women listen to their friends too much. We understand the need for female friendship. We can go with the girls' night out deal.
But when you start letting your single girlfriends (who constantly run guys off or haven't dated since antenna TV) get into the
business of your relationship, that's asking for trouble. You want
to think that your man has a mind of his own when he's out with
the guys, right? We're no different. We expect you to talk to your
girlfriends, even if it's about us. Just be careful what you decide to
bring back from those conversations.

3. The relationship is NOT a family affair. We're not trying to take you away from your family. This is a relationship, not a
kidnapping. However, if we're mature enough to leave home and
keep what goes on between us just between us, then is it too much
to ask of you to do the same? If you tell your mom and your
sisters about every single argument and disagreement that we
have, then don't you think that they're not going to like us very much? Then you'll wonder why we don't like going around them,
right?

4. We're not joined at the hip. We don't have to go every single place that you go, and we don't expect you to go everywhere
with us. That's what makes our time together special. We each had
our own likes and dislikes before we met. You did things alone or
with your girls, and that's fine. Don't try to drag your man with
you if it's going to be nothing but you and the girls talking. We
don't want to sit and listen to talk about hair, nails, fashion, who's man is cheating on who, etc. Just shoot us first, if that's the case.

5. Is this a relationship or a prison sentence? We expect parolees to give an account of where they've been almost all the time, and who
they've been with. Parole officers check to see if the parolees
actually report to work. A relationship is supposed to have more
trust than that. If a man feels that he's not being trusted, and he
hasn't done anything deserving of the interrogation process (a la
Law And Order), then don't expect to have him around too much longer. This would apply primarily to someone who has a lot of
insecurities.

6. Independence is great — to a point. Call it ego, male insecurity, whatever you like. There's no getting around the fact that we need
to feel that we're in this for more than just sex (yeah, I know ... sounds weird coming from a guy). If you keep telling a man (and
showing him, too) that you can do everything on your own, then
what do you need him for? As shallow as it may sound, we do
have to have our ego fed just a bit (maybe some guys more than
others, but I think you get the idea).

7. Being too dependent is not a good thing, either. I know it sounds like we can't make up our minds between numbers 6 and 7, but
there is a balance. It's like we want a grown woman who can handle
her business, but still let us know that there's a place in her life for
us that only we can fill. You're not a child, and we don't expect to
treat you like one or take care of you like one. If you come to a guy
for every single thing,and can't seem to make up your mind or make decisions ... well, one day he make make up his mind and not
come back.

8. Don't you ever have anything nice to say? Yeah, we mess up from time to time (and it may seem that those times run pretty
close together). But what about some props? Can't your man do
anything right? I'm not talking about being patronizing or treating
him like a first grader keeping his colors inside the lines ("Way to go,
Ronnie!". Nobody can stand always being criticized. Psychologists
call it "positive reinforcement." Men call it "giving us a break."

9. There's no future in the past. We've all made mistakes. The thing is to learn from them, not live in them. if your man made a mistake,
and you've agreed to forgive him for it, then do that. Don't bring it
up and keep beating him over the head with it. If you keep bringing
up the past, then be prepared to talk about your man in the past
tense, as in "ex."

10. Maybe his friends won't be your friends, but don't dog them out, either. He knew them before he knew you. He knows how they are. If one (or more) of his friends are players, he knows this
already. You don't have to remind him of that. if you keep making
negative comments about them, what you're really doing is
showing an insecurity and, in a more subtle way, expressing a lack
of trust. If he's with you and everything is going right then don't
let whatever actions his friends take influence the relationship.

Of course, this isn't a complete list. This is just a conversation
starter. Any other thoughts, or something more to add?

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tell them, we aint joined to them hips. thats why u keep seeing some unmarried couples everywhere u go.