lokito:
From the abundant talent and blessings God has given to me I advise that instead of marrying her, wait for her 3yrs old daughter to grow up. Then marry the daughter.

Amybijou:
If you luv her and she has most of the qualities u want in a lady, marry her.
Or would you prefer a girl who has had series of abortions and appears "holier than all"?
Be matured.

missjenna:
Op, going into a relationship with a lady that has a child is not really all that different from a normal relationship, its just that there are things that you have to consider.

First of all op, you said you are scared. Why are you scared?. Are you intimidated by the fact that she has a child?
You have to clarify the reason why you are afraid and tackle it.

Secondly, you said she had the child by mistake. I don't really understand what you mean by "mistake" This is a very sensitive and crucial aspect of your relationship. Op please ask her to be sincere about who the father of the child is. Persuade her to be honest about it.
If truly "mistake" means she doesn't know who the father is then you are good to go. But I strongly doubt this.
If she knows who the father is, this is another issue. Make sure she comes clean about who the father is and if the issue of the child has been resolved.
Once you resolve this aspect, I don't think there is anything to worry about

If she truly loves you and you love her, and you want to spend the rest of your lives together, then go ahead. The fact that she has a child shouldn't be a barrier to your love, in fact it should strengthen it.

On a lighter note, op at least you are sure she is fertile.

IVORY2009:


are you a suit sayer?

bestestgirl:
A good woman is a good woman, If she is a wonderful person and you are both in love, please go ahead and marry her.
Or would you prefer the one who has done 19 excavations?

boofydon:
Can you marry a guy that has a baby too? Easier said than done.


This is one of your previous post on a different thread.

Justfollowit:


Why can't he marry a mother? Such a backward mentality.

Justfollowit:


Oh yeah thanks for dissuading the poor guy.

What you failed to consider when you were listing your negatives is that this life is NOTHING, it is very unpredictable, from my own little experience in life, because someone is not your friend, brother or related to you should not dissuade any reasonable human from rendering help and mercy if he is capable.

Because the difference between a stranger and a family member or friend is the bond and the blood you share. Other than that they are still human, that is they are capable of ruining, hating, hurting and disappointing you just like every human out there

masseratti:
U r not a man,if you love her too,you have to love everything about her please

grpCaptain:
Bookmarked!

This got me interested. I know a lady that is 29 years old with a 3 year old daughter as well. I know the Father of the child in this case. It would be interesting to know the answer to some of the questions posed to OP earlier.

(1) Is the lady in question fair in complexion?

(2) Where does she lives?

Some inquiring minds here want to know, so we may identified the said lady if possible.

bid4rich:
She is 29years old, she has a 3 year old daughter by mistake but madly in love with me and she want us to get married this year. Though she is a good and loving person and I dnt see her giving me problem but im afraid of going into this affair with her.

Please, advise accordingly from the abundant of talent and experience God has given to you cos I dont want problem I cannot see.

Thanks

generalissimo:
Chai!!! People dey do reasearch o :- U be detective Nice one though. They dont know they are being monitored, they'll be giving advice they cant take themselves

bid4rich:
She is 29years old, she has a 3 year old daughter by mistake but madly in love with me and she want us to get married this year. Though she is a good and loving person and I dnt see her giving me problem but im afraid of going into this affair with her.

Please, advise accordingly from the abundant of talent and experience God has given to you cos I dont want problem I cannot see.

Thanks

Movesz:
Bro pls be afraid (paranoid) about the issues..

on NL I can't even count the desipardo's we have in the house...

From what you said seems she is quite desperate too..

First question you got to ask your self...

+++Can you love another mans child as your own?

If yes..your a good man..

If no...it doesn't make you a bad person..


I will not as you whether you love her...(Love doesn't exist)

Buh the hole affair all boils down to your decision..

Are you the type that need to be told what to before you do it

how does she treat her kid is also an important assessment to make...

If she is like amber rose(as whiz khalifa describe her)BAD MOTHER.......Run for you life..

To cut the long story short...

If you don't have any problem with the fact that she has a baby and your ready to be part of the babies life...

And you have done your home work about her..

And you think you can mary her..


Then marry her...





Buh if you think she has ulterior motives about the wedding stuff...take you time before you decide what to do...


Remember don't be too hasty while making life time decisions....marriage is big deal because it defines the future...


























No need to thank me only if you insist

ifeojobas:


Although I share your sentiment, I think she probably wants to quickly get married because other men have been running away at the sight of her daughter. She doesn't want to give him too much time to change his mind.

bid4rich:
She is 29years old, she has a 3 year old daughter by mistake but madly in love with me and she want us to get married this year. Though she is a good and loving person and I dnt see her giving me problem but im afraid of going into this affair with her.

Please, advise accordingly from the abundant of talent and experience God has given to you cos I dont want problem I cannot see.

Thanks

Adaezeagu:
With all the comment am reading here. I have come to the conclusion dat some nairaland guys are hypocrites.
They will condemn abortion but will not marry a single mother or support it.

generalissimo:
Imagine comment o!!! Must u also open ur legs for every di'ck and harry Where are ur morals Must u get pregnant let alone abortion And those club guys dat always get u pregnant dont know how to take care of kids or how to marry their babies mama We've always thought Tuface's numerous saga would at least make u gals a lil bit wiser but reverse is the case. This ur comment is disgusting. It is not expected of a morally sound lady

bashydemy:
I always say this, No matter what i cannot marry a single mother except on one condition.... if the EX is late simple.

So na me go train one child finish and the father will show up after graduation ... mba

bid4rich:
She is 29years old, she has a 3 year old daughter by mistake but madly in love with me and she want us to get married this year. Though she is a good and loving person and I dnt see her giving me problem but im afraid of going into this affair with her.

Please, advise accordingly from the abundant of talent and experience God has given to you cos I dont want problem I cannot see.

Thanks

Adaezeagu:
being a single moda doesn't make a girl wayward. U don't know how she got to dat situation. U re stiill a baby if not u will not spew dis rubbish