ochukofortune:
I will understand that the girl in question is a Yoruba girl likely from Ogun, Kwara or Ibadan. Secondly she isn't on nairaland. My one kobo is dat there is a diff btw a wife and any girl, most girls won't make good wives hence they are not supposed to get married and dis ur girl is one of d second class.Pls if u need a wife den dump her sorry Ass cos she is a LovePeddler!

blackchukky:
The choice is yours to make are you ready to continue with her and live with the imagination of that Alfa combing her ? or you move on.

Finally guys stop snooping around your lady's phone because you will do yourself much harm by seeing things that exceeds your suspicions/expectations/intuition

Voila!

Prixus:
look at the systematic lies she's been telling u. at the last count she claimed she didn't have an abortion. her lies have been step by step until u discover the previous lie to which she admits. why would a woman preparing for marriage be trying to scam an alfa of 5K in the name of abortion?
guys beware after they have done all the fvcking around with different t guys in the name of BF they will come and form wife material for u. shine your eye.

immortalvoices:
Is it me or have anyone noticed that some smart girls have perfected the act of crying with extreme tears to blackmail guys into forgiving them. ...whenever they are wrong...

Well dear OP get ready to even seen nudes and soft porn on her fone...she is taking advantage of weak and fragile heart.

You do not love her you are only infatuated, so quit now before you hurt her and hurt yourself

tonero230:


Birds of the same feather!Only God knows how many times you have committed abortion

princeogbeide1:
see man" a girl remains to be everybody's girl until she gets married.

charismaticdave:


why are you going through her phone, that means the trust is not there, does she goes through yours?

pretydiva:
Dat ur gf is a big w.hore. U better dump her silly ass or else sorry wil b ur name. Even after warning her nt 2 c d alfa she stil went n dat wasn't enough, she slept wif him. Haba guy u use ur brain 4 once nau

satope1:


Keep shut please. Cheating even to the point of abortion?

Even had the guts to lie to him about it. Spinning tales.

Is that what you call loving angel?

dpoladapo604:
We have been together for over six months. I love her so much (never fell so much in love) and she's so crazy in love with me too. she's such a wonderful lady I've ever met. she would do anything just to prove and protect our relationship.

Early January this year she came to my place to spend few days. during her visit, I one day took her phone and checked through her bbm I saw her chat with one cleric (Alfa) asking the man to help her about a shocking dream she had about me and also talking about d previous guy she was dating before I met her. I was so confused I couldn't talk till she left but on her way to the park I ask her if she was cheating or something and she assured me that she's all mine.

So the following day after she left I called her and told her that I went through her phone and I observe that she's still having some affairs wit her previous boy friend, she first started talking angrily that why should I go through her phone without her conscience but after few minutes she called back and started begging not to be annoyed by the way she talked regard me checking her phone. after a lot of begging I told her I'm no more annoyed but I warned her not to go to the Alfa because I could observe that the Alfa has other interior motive from the way he was chatting and she promised not to visit him.

So last Tuesday she came to my place and I tried to go through her chats on bbm and to my biggest surprise my lady was asking the man to pay her the money she spent on abortion to her (omo I was so shocked) I couldn't blv my eyes,I saw a part where the man was asking if she love him and she said no...dat thats why she couldn't keep his pregnancy. I kept it for good days till when she was about to leave this morning. The question I threw at her was "did you really did abortion?" she was shocked and started swearing with the holy book...I asked her to bring her fone and I viewed the Alfa's pics and asked if dis was d same Alfa I asked her not to visit and she said no he's the not him. I showed her the pics I tuk from that chat....she was shocked and accepted she slept with him but she did no abortion saying she only want to use that to get money from the Alfa. I asked her why....but she kept saying she didn't know how it happened. she was just begging and crying. the reason y I was so pained is that I warned her not to go to him but he go against my warning. I love her but I'm not comfortable with her. after too much begging and crying I told her I've forgive her.

Please is it advisable to go on with this lady?...I'm confused because I'm still in luv with her I can't just let her go but something keeps telling me that I may regret go on with her. AND IS IT WRONG FOR PARTNERS TO CHECK EACH OTHERS FONE?

Acidosis:
...and some people will say it's wrong to check or read their partners' chats.

Trust is an intangible word. Check that damn phone and chats before she gives you AIDS & truncate your destiny.

After all there are many decent fishes in the ocean, so why expose yourself to AIDS & other spiritual diseases in the name of "trust"?

menix:
Narrating ur plight is good, at least it keeps us busy buh asking us to advice u is quite annoying.

Are u not a man, if u can live wiv a cheat y not go on nd stop askin us to mislead u....

macklef:
Some say its a Man's world. True or not i cant say.

But what i know is this, if a man sleeps with another lady it can be overlooked, hes a striker,
his self control can be bashed.

But

For a Lady, its a complete no no, she was made to be a keeper, if she gives in, shes a hoe.
Her dignity lies on the floor man.

dpoladapo604:
We have been together for . AND IS IT WRONG FOR PARTNERS TO CHECK EACH OTHERS FONE?

dpoladapo604:
We have been together for over six months. I love her so much (never fell so much in love) and she's so crazy in love with me too. she's such a wonderful lady I've ever met. she would do anything just to prove and protect our relationship.

Early January this year she came to my place to spend few days. during her visit, I one day took her phone and checked through her bbm I saw her chat with one cleric (Alfa) asking the man to help her about a shocking dream she had about me and also talking about d previous guy she was dating before I met her. I was so confused I couldn't talk till she left but on her way to the park I ask her if she was cheating or something and she assured me that she's all mine.

So the following day after she left I called her and told her that I went through her phone and I observe that she's still having some affairs wit her previous boy friend, she first started talking angrily that why should I go through her phone without her conscience but after few minutes she called back and started begging not to be annoyed by the way she talked regard me checking her phone. after a lot of begging I told her I'm no more annoyed but I warned her not to go to the Alfa because I could observe that the Alfa has other interior motive from the way he was chatting and she promised not to visit him.

So last Tuesday she came to my place and I tried to go through her chats on bbm and to my biggest surprise my lady was asking the man to pay her the money she spent on abortion to her (omo I was so shocked) I couldn't blv my eyes,I saw a part where the man was asking if she love him and she said no...dat thats why she couldn't keep his pregnancy. I kept it for good days till when she was about to leave this morning. The question I threw at her was "did you really did abortion?" she was shocked and started swearing with the holy book...I asked her to bring her fone and I viewed the Alfa's pics and asked if dis was d same Alfa I asked her not to visit and she said no he's the not him. I showed her the pics I tuk from that chat....she was shocked and accepted she slept with him but she did no abortion saying she only want to use that to get money from the Alfa. I asked her why....but she kept saying she didn't know how it happened. she was just begging and crying. the reason y I was so pained is that I warned her not to go to him but he go against my warning. I love her but I'm not comfortable with her. after too much begging and crying I told her I've forgive her.

Please is it advisable to go on with this lady?...I'm confused because I'm still in luv with her I can't just let her go but something keeps telling me that I may regret go on with her. AND IS IT WRONG FOR PARTNERS TO CHECK EACH OTHERS FONE?

nekaa:
from what you wrote there u met her and asked her to be your wife in a lil over 6 months.... isn't that too early ?

Beamborla:
Why would a cleric sleep around in the first place? I don't trust all these so called clerics cos some of them are very very diabolical.
My dear, the choice is yours. You need to look beyond love Now. If you are sure you can forgive and completely forget and give her your trust again, then go ahead but whichever one you plan to do, that girl need serious intervention from God.
You don't know the kind of person the Alfa is. Fact that he slept with her and as far as he is concerned, an abortion took place makes him fake already.

ebenezer4o2:
Very painful,I understand ur plight.Truely,all ladies are bitche.s,I prefer 2 stay alone till I grow old.No wonder,most whites divorce so easily.For me,don't continue with her,let her bear the brunt of her actions and live with the pain for ever.

Samiceman:
Them no dey tell blind man say rain dey fall now!

Dump her sorry ass joor!

NEXT!

lirusehn:
if she had slept with a dog it could have bin better but an alfa *spits* woe unto them both

dpoladapo604:
We have been together for over six months. I love her so much (never fell so much in love) and she's so crazy in love with me too. she's such a wonderful lady I've ever met. she would do anything just to prove and protect our relationship.

Early January this year she came to my place to spend few days. during her visit, I one day took her phone and checked through her bbm I saw her chat with one cleric (Alfa) asking the man to help her about a shocking dream she had about me and also talking about d previous guy she was dating before I met her. I was so confused I couldn't talk till she left but on her way to the park I ask her if she was cheating or something and she assured me that she's all mine.

So the following day after she left I called her and told her that I went through her phone and I observe that she's still having some affairs wit her previous boy friend, she first started talking angrily that why should I go through her phone without her conscience but after few minutes she called back and started begging not to be annoyed by the way she talked regard me checking her phone. after a lot of begging I told her I'm no more annoyed but I warned her not to go to the Alfa because I could observe that the Alfa has other interior motive from the way he was chatting and she promised not to visit him.

So last Tuesday she came to my place and I tried to go through her chats on bbm and to my biggest surprise my lady was asking the man to pay her the money she spent on abortion to her (omo I was so shocked) I couldn't blv my eyes,I saw a part where the man was asking if she love him and she said no...dat thats why she couldn't keep his pregnancy. I kept it for good days till when she was about to leave this morning. The question I threw at her was "did you really did abortion?" she was shocked and started swearing with the holy book...I asked her to bring her fone and I viewed the Alfa's pics and asked if dis was d same Alfa I asked her not to visit and she said no he's the not him. I showed her the pics I tuk from that chat....she was shocked and accepted she slept with him but she did no abortion saying she only want to use that to get money from the Alfa. I asked her why....but she kept saying she didn't know how it happened. she was just begging and crying. the reason y I was so pained is that I warned her not to go to him but he go against my warning. I love her but I'm not comfortable with her. after too much begging and crying I told her I've forgive her.

Please is it advisable to go on with this lady?...I'm confused because I'm still in luv with her I can't just let her go but something keeps telling me that I may regret go on with her. AND IS IT WRONG FOR PARTNERS TO CHECK EACH OTHERS FONE?