bukatyne:


Lol!

Except her schedule changes, she should function as she does weekends. Cooking in bulk, cleaning places oga's handmight not rreach reach etc.

Chillisauce:


Thank you. But make sure the thing you are pushing will pay the bills . Make you no carry 200naira comehome and start screaming bread winner .

If not, Berra sit at home and cook fresh food.

Chillisauce:


Takes over weekend, after hustling all week.
What will the husband be doing ? Watching champions league and screaming sai buhari

okotv:
do they watch champions league on weekends

lol....hahahaha

donpeey22:
Hehehe...that was a joke... Not my portion!

I don't have problem with cooking fresh food tho, but sitting at home is a NO NO

The gods forbid

Chillisauce:


When do they watch champions league?
Abi na premiership? all join.

Chillisauce:


Why will the gods forbid ? The ones sitting at home are not humans ?. Why is it difficult for you to sit at home and take charge of your home

okotv:
champions league is played Tuesday and Wednesday except the finals which come up on Saturdays.

Premiership is played during the weekends except on special occasions that Tuesdays and Wednesdays are used just as this week.

It was all kind of funny, your reply.


NB: No other game is played once the champions league is on in Europe. Try it and get fined.

donpeey22:
Personally I can't sit at home because that would not only render me penniless but it's also boring.

I can't imagine myself sitting one place and not going out to contribute my quota towards the making or destruction of the world.

Chillisauce:


Oh ok, I was referring to the ones played on weekends. Where the guys sneak out of home to drink beer and eat kpomo.
Come back when wify and kids have gone to bed.

Then wake up tired woman to demand for his "rights'

coogar:


seem? seem?
and not that they are actually bitter & arrogant?

i give up!

lilmax:
Only if men knew


Well when you allow your wife take up your responsibilities as the head,you make sure you take up her responsibilities as surbordinate


Only pu.ssie.s will watch their wives become head,GOD FORBID

donpeey22:
Personally I can't sit at home because that would not only render me penniless but it's also boring.

I can't imagine myself sitting one place and not going out to contribute my quota towards the making or destruction of the world.

coogar:


why are most men always happy even when they have liability for a wife? why should the roles change just because a woman becomes the breadwinner? the truth is most women cannot handle success without being arrogant & disrespectful.

the money he makes is their money.
the money she makes is her money.

okotv:
Am not married so I don't give marital advice.

Sanctification was what Christ prayed for his disciples in John 17:17 even after they were born again. It makes you more like Christ and possess that silent attitude just before the Cross. You think a mere mortal can do that for others ? That's what it entails.

To the issue at hand. Household chores regardless of whom will be a walk in the park for both party instead of throwing it overboard if they are both sanctified and heaven conscious.

Hope you get it

bukatyne:


I get it

Lol!

You know, If people applied their religious beliefs to their daily life, This world would be a better place.

donpeey22:
Instead of being in a position where my wify is the sole breadwinner, I will go and push wheel barrow.

Chillisauce:


Don't worry, she will drop pocket money for you.

As for sitting too long, you can join a support group that plays football every Saturday. Keeps you in shape

okotv:
Thank you @ the last paragraph.

I teach and practice cause that makes me a better person.

By the way, what didn't you want to spill earlier

bukatyne:


Living the life practically.

It is absurd you see Fire speaking Christians supporting adultery or other stuffs you know are clearly wrong.

I am sure 90% of the people on NL who believe all men cheat. are either Christians or Muslims which both detest adultery

okotv:
its because am really engaged now so I hardly confront people. Whenever I see justification for things religion condemns by adherents, I begin to wonder which way forward.

bukatyne:


The way forward is to the front

lilmax:
Only if men knew


Well when you allow your wife take up your responsibilities as the head,you make sure you take up her responsibilities as surbordinate


Only pu.ssie.s will watch their wives become head,GOD FORBID

cococandy:


Not to say that there aren't women who behave badly whether they are the breadwinners or not but the pressure on bread winning women to take so much more than they can naturally bear in order not to upset the already fragile ego of the man is too much.

A typical house wife won't have problems doing what needs to be done on her own end to keep the home running and it is only right she does so but how many husbands are willing to take on the other responsibilities while the wife makes the money? They exist i'm aware but not that many.
Well hopefully they will keep increasing in number so that we have less stressed wives everywhere.


The stereotypes and bias whipped up against bread winning wives already puts them in a tough place as even without any bad attitude on her part,she's already being given the evil eye.
Everybody ready and waiting to pounce on her because they have already decided she will misbehave even before she does so.

The things I do and say now,I probably won't be able to get away with if I were a sole bread winning wife.

Ha. The conclusion would be that I get mouth because I'm making the money.
So basically such ladies can't really be themselves without being judged.

Walking on egg shells all the time.
It is not fair.

FrancisTony:
I think some men are ego-driven and confuse. In an African society(Igbo culture), a man is suppose to be a breadwinner but when the reverse is case, he loses his respect and must accept any condition bestowed on him.


*Double standard of most men*

When a man is a breadwinner, he expects his wife to take up all the tedious responsibilities of doing the housechores. He exudes self confidence and throws bossy command around.

When a woman is the breadwinner and start exhibiting the same characteristics, they translate it as arrogance. SMH

Is something sauce for the goose ain't sauce for the gander?

The real fact is that men and women are all humans, and pride is there(our) thing. It takes an individualism to control his/her pride.

Chillisauce:


Don't worry, she will drop pocket money for you.

As for sitting too long, you can join a support group that plays football every Saturday. Keeps you in shape

bukatyne:


Your attitude doesn't help matters

So caring for the home front is the work of a subordinate?

okotv:
this household chores is a worldwide debate not only in Nigeria whether the man works or not. With all this petty fights over what and who to what is becoming boring...

To each his own..

I believe that lack of sanctification is the cause of petty issues been thrown overboard.

Joy1706:


When a man is the sole breadwinner in most cases, he becomes controlling, talks down to her, makes her beg 4 every little thing, feels like she has no right to question him etc. Besides I don't think becoming arrogant and disrespectful when success comes in is a 'woman' thing, it's a 'human' thing.